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david54
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Joined: Apr 2009

Hi - been posting here on and off for a number of years, when my wife was ill and after she died, two years this July 29th.

Not sure if this is where to post this but can't think of any other venue at the moment. I was married for 32 years before I lost my wife. She was ill for almost 3 years before she died of her cancer (colon).

I am going to marry a very nice woman in a very short period of time. We met after my wife died, I quickly found I don't do well being a single man. The lonliness was more than I could tolerate.

I still miss my wife, always will. I have major decisons to make, to sell our home that she picked out 20 years ago...her finger prints are all over it. When my fiancee and I eat breakfast I think back years ago to the same spot only with my wife and daughter. That is still hard at times.

But I can't live alone. I have to love again, to be loved and share my life with another person. I hope you all understand.

I ask for your prayers and thoughts, pray that I will still be a good father to my 26 year old daughter, a good husband to my new wife, and positive male role model to my fiancess grown children and grandkids.

You are all in my prayers.

Thank You

David

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grandmafay
Posts: 1613
Joined: Aug 2009

Congratulations. It is a good thing to find someone you can share your life with. I wish you all the best. I know you are still carrying your other love in your heart. She is just a part of who you are, but I'm reminded of this saying from Gracie Allen. "Never put a period where God has placed a comma." Fay

gardensparrow
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Joined: Jul 2012

Hi David!

I just wanted to say congrats on your upcoming marriage as well. I will definitely be praying for you as you begin this new life. I know there are some challenges when remarrying, but it sounds like you're committed and in this for the long haul.

Also, maybe you've pursued this already, but it might not hurt to look into some premarital counseling for you and your fiance. It's never a bad idea to begin a marriage that way. Additionally, perhaps you'd find some help from this article series at http://bit.ly/NsZq7u I came across while working at Focus on the Family. I thought it gave some good tips on how prepare for a second marriage.

Just FYI-I hope it helps! :)

onlyhuman
Posts: 102
Joined: Sep 2009

Congratulations David.

We all have to move forward and live life again at some point. It is now 2.5 years since I lost my husband. I have 2 girls now aged 12 and almost 6 and we have spent this time regrouping and we are finally ready and have committed to our first big family holiday since hubby passed.

We live in Australia. In September the girls and I will take a 3 week trip to America and it will include tours in San Francisco and a week's stay in Anaheim. Part of me still worries whether as a single parent I should be spending so much on the trip. Maybe I should be saving for a rainy day. But no, I have decided we need to live, find love and joy again.

See we too have finally found the confidence to move forward. He will always be a part of our lives. Sometimes when things get tough I talk out loud to him and chastise him for leaving me to deal with it all. But I too hope to find love again in the future or at least I have not ruled it out.

I wish you all the best.

Sangeeta

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grandmafay
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Joined: Aug 2009

I'm glad to hear from you again. You and your girls deserve this trip. If there is anything I learned from our cancer fight, it was that we don't know what the future holds. I have taken my family, kids and grand kids, on two cruises. Making memories now is important. Today will never come again. Enjoy your trip. As a native Californian, I welcome you. Enjoy Disneyland and SF. Grandmafay

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