Jul 09, 2012 - 8:26 am
I am 27 years old and my partner is 29 years old. We have only been together a year but we fell head over heels in love the day we met and have been inseparable since.
3 months ago he had 2 nocturnal seizures whilst in bed with me and as time unfolded it became apparent it was a tumor. He had a partial resection, they could remove only 50% of it as it is was very large and had invaded inoperable parts of the brain. The results showed that he had a grade 3 oligondendroglioma.
I have stuck by his side over the last 3 months, taken endless time off work, been to every appointment and spent every night with him and his family.
What I am now feeling is an overwhelming sense of fear about the life that lies ahead. They have given no prognosis beyond it is unlikely he will live more than 10 years. It terrifies me as it certainly not the way I imagined meeting the man of my dreams to be, and it doesn't offer the stability I had hoped for. He won't be able to support me and children as he likely will be off work a lot himself? I'll need to be mother, father, carer and breadwinner. I feel like my life as I know it has collapsed.
I just want to hear from someone who has been through it, how hard it actually is? Whether you get used to it? and how worthwhile it is? Or do you just resign yourself to a life of pain and angst for the love that you feel?
I would really appreciate your response?