I'm a mess-surgery on the 9th

EveningStar2
EveningStar2 Member Posts: 491 Member
I think my husband is more anxious to get this over with because I'm a mess. Bilateral mastectomy on Monday and I know there are people on this board that have gone through much, much worse. I still don't want to do it and I'm a mess.

Maureen
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  • sdukowitz
    sdukowitz Member Posts: 250
    Take lots of deep breaths
    Take lots of deep breaths and try to keep super busy .... waiting is the worst part! Prayers and positive thoughts frim Alaska ..... lots of support here from others who have been thru that surgery ... keep us posted and try long walks, movies , and other activities to help with the waiting period..... hugs Sue D
  • SlowRollin
    SlowRollin Member Posts: 75
    sdukowitz said:

    Take lots of deep breaths
    Take lots of deep breaths and try to keep super busy .... waiting is the worst part! Prayers and positive thoughts frim Alaska ..... lots of support here from others who have been thru that surgery ... keep us posted and try long walks, movies , and other activities to help with the waiting period..... hugs Sue D

    Just relax
    It is nerve racking. My wife had her bilateral mastectomy in May, dealing with the expanders now...she's going nuts and can't wait for it to be over. It's a process; slow and boring. She's at a point now where she can start walking in the park again. Feeling much better.

    You'll do fine and we'll be praying for a speedy recovery for you.

    T.
  • salls41
    salls41 Member Posts: 340
    May Surgery
    I had my bi-lateral in May and have my expanders now. The surgery for me went very well and my recovery went well also. Although I do still have a nasty drain in. The drains are the most inconvenient part. Mine never hurt me, I can't speak for others. My arms were never sore, I had minimal bandages. The worst part is seeing yourself in naked the first time. For me, I knew what I thought to expect but the reality hit a little harder. But with hubby's great support and encouragement, I was able to look past tubes and scars and see a future of hope, cancer free! Sleeping was not fun, but good pillows, lots of propping here and there and a good nights rest is possible. I began to get antsy around the end of week two and started taking short walks every morning. It helped me, I enjoyed that alone time and I also liked that I could do a little more each week. I don't know what worries you are having specifically, but please know there are many here who have gone where you are going and will happily extend a hand to help you do it....here is my hand...............
    God Bless
    Sandy
  • jbmccon24
    jbmccon24 Member Posts: 4
    Surgery on the 9th
    Focus on the positive!!! I know right now you probably can't see any positive....but remember the surgery is the first step in your recovery, you can't get better with out each one of the steps that have been set out for you. I have 3a Breast Cancer and am just finishing up my chemo. Each step I have had to continually tell myself....I need to do this to get better...this is going to help me live!!! Remember your goal is life! You can do it!!!!
  • peanutcat
    peanutcat Member Posts: 104
    EveningStar2
    I was scared too. But my double masectomy went very wll. Now I have the pernement ones in and I'm cancer free.Be upbeat everyday and it will be fine. I was lucky to be upbeat and have a lot of support. Remeber be upbeat, say prayers, and alot of support is important. Good luck
  • Gabe N Abby Mom
    Gabe N Abby Mom Member Posts: 2,413
    This is YOUR journey,
    This is YOUR journey, comparing what others have gone through (whether they've gone through more or less) takes away from the validity of your feelings. And you are completely entitled to those feelings.

    Have you talked with your doc about the anxiety? Do you have meds on hand for that? If so, at least take them at night so you can sleep. Eat right, get a little sunshine, and a little exercise...do things to distract.

    Waiting for the unknown is horrible! So try and do something fun while you bury your head in the sand for a little while.

    I hope you get through this time with some calm and some peace. Best wishes for a smooth surgery and a quick recovery.

    Hugs,

    Linda
  • EveningStar2
    EveningStar2 Member Posts: 491 Member

    This is YOUR journey,
    This is YOUR journey, comparing what others have gone through (whether they've gone through more or less) takes away from the validity of your feelings. And you are completely entitled to those feelings.

    Have you talked with your doc about the anxiety? Do you have meds on hand for that? If so, at least take them at night so you can sleep. Eat right, get a little sunshine, and a little exercise...do things to distract.

    Waiting for the unknown is horrible! So try and do something fun while you bury your head in the sand for a little while.

    I hope you get through this time with some calm and some peace. Best wishes for a smooth surgery and a quick recovery.

    Hugs,

    Linda

    Thanks Ladies (and the support team!)
    I know that I will get through this, I don't like surgery and I want it done. Hopefully, the sentinal node will be negative and that will be the end of it. I am not having reconstruction so all I need to do is heal.

    I just don't do waiting well but everyone is trying to help me. I'm just whining!

    Maureen
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    I/ We totall
    I/ We totall understand...that is why anytime I need surgery I tell them to give me the first appt I can get and first appt of the day etc...I want it over yesterday..

    Denise
  • jbmccon24
    jbmccon24 Member Posts: 4

    Thanks Ladies (and the support team!)
    I know that I will get through this, I don't like surgery and I want it done. Hopefully, the sentinal node will be negative and that will be the end of it. I am not having reconstruction so all I need to do is heal.

    I just don't do waiting well but everyone is trying to help me. I'm just whining!

    Maureen

    Good luck
    I/We have all been there too!!! Good luck on Monday, and let us know how it goes!:-)
  • EveningStar2
    EveningStar2 Member Posts: 491 Member
    jbmccon24 said:

    Good luck
    I/We have all been there too!!! Good luck on Monday, and let us know how it goes!:-)

    For myself
    I decided I needed to do a few things: I got some liquid latex and we spent most of yesterday evening making a mold of my boobs!! So now I can have them on the wall since they won't be on my chest. And I got some pink to spray on my hair for surgery--I have *very* short grey hair.

    Maureen
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member

    I/ We totall
    I/ We totall understand...that is why anytime I need surgery I tell them to give me the first appt I can get and first appt of the day etc...I want it over yesterday..

    Denise

    Maureen ...
    Hysterical!!!! Love your idea about the liquid latex and a mold of your breasts! Can you
    have your hubby take a photo of your short stylist gray and pink hair. I am sure
    we would all enjoy seeing it!

    Continue to remain sane before tomorrow's surgery.


    Vicki Sam
  • missrenee
    missrenee Member Posts: 2,136 Member
    VickiSam said:

    Maureen ...
    Hysterical!!!! Love your idea about the liquid latex and a mold of your breasts! Can you
    have your hubby take a photo of your short stylist gray and pink hair. I am sure
    we would all enjoy seeing it!

    Continue to remain sane before tomorrow's surgery.


    Vicki Sam

    Maureen
    I'm sending out my most positive energy and prayers to you for your surgery tomorrow. You're going to do great and soon you will be in the recovery phase and this will be a memory.

    Take good care. Hugs, Renee
  • MAJW
    MAJW Member Posts: 2,510 Member
    missrenee said:

    Maureen
    I'm sending out my most positive energy and prayers to you for your surgery tomorrow. You're going to do great and soon you will be in the recovery phase and this will be a memory.

    Take good care. Hugs, Renee

    Maureen....
    Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers....may all go well tomorrow and I wish you a speedy recovery...we're all rooting for you!

    God bless...
    Hugs, Nancy
  • MsGebby
    MsGebby Member Posts: 659
    You have my prayers
    for a smooth, successful surgery.

    I will be there in spirit.

    God Bless!

    xoxo
    Mary
  • EveningStar2
    EveningStar2 Member Posts: 491 Member
    VickiSam said:

    Maureen ...
    Hysterical!!!! Love your idea about the liquid latex and a mold of your breasts! Can you
    have your hubby take a photo of your short stylist gray and pink hair. I am sure
    we would all enjoy seeing it!

    Continue to remain sane before tomorrow's surgery.


    Vicki Sam

    thanks ladies
    I'll see what we can do about the sanity and the picture!

    Maureen
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    MsGebby said:

    You have my prayers
    for a smooth, successful surgery.

    I will be there in spirit.

    God Bless!

    xoxo
    Mary

    Maureen,
    Prayers and good

    Maureen,
    Prayers and good thoughts as well as gentle hugs coming your way. Hope it so as smoothly as possible.
    Stef
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    jumping on bus to ride
    jumping on bus to ride along..



    thinking of you...

    Denise
  • salls41
    salls41 Member Posts: 340

    thanks ladies
    I'll see what we can do about the sanity and the picture!

    Maureen

    Prayers
    Thinking of you and praying for a quick recovery from your surgery today!
    Sandy
  • sdukowitz
    sdukowitz Member Posts: 250
    Praying that all went well
    Praying that all went well for you today ....Sue D
  • EveningStar2
    EveningStar2 Member Posts: 491 Member
    sdukowitz said:

    Praying that all went well
    Praying that all went well for you today ....Sue D

    Done!
    The surgery went fine other than they could not find the sentinel node. So I will get the final pathology report on the breasts themselves tomorrow at my post op visit. I'm home - they kept me overnight because I have oxygen issues at night ever since the PE shower. But all that had gone well--they glued me because I do not do well with tape. However. The also left my IV at D5 (sugar water for the non medical) and I'm diabetic and could not figure out my high sugars! Then they wanted to keep me because they were too high. Finally convinced them that I can watch at home--LET ME OUT! They did. My kitties are happy to see me. I slept in my own bed and I'm OK. My one question: how did I have a bilateral mastectomy and gain 4 pounds?! **sigh**

    Anyway, thanks for the well wished and I'll try to get a picture up with the pink hair!

    Maureen