I am new here. My dad (59 years young) was diagnosed in April with non-small cell adenocarcinoma. He has the EGFR mutation (exon 19 deletion) and he is being treated with Tarceva and Zometa. He has mets in his spine, directly behind where the primary tumor is. He has been on the Tarceva 2 months and the change is remarkable. Like the other stories I read on here his diagnosis was bounced around because he was a never smoker-everything from bronchitis, to pneumonitis to amiodarone lung toxicity. Anyway he was in bad shape, couldn't catch his breath, lost a fair amount of weight. Since being on Tarceva the change is remarkable, he got his voice back, he is back out working in the yard, the cough is gone. Apart from the rash and stomach upset he is doing really well physically, but I worry about him emotionally. For all of you with cancer what can I do to make him understand that no matter what it is going to be ok? We will always have options and fight with all we have. He gets so upset so easily, because it is always something. What helps you most through the hardest times? It is hard for me too, it is all I think about, I just want him to know it is going to be ok, just like he always did for me growing up. I will pray for all of you every night.