Jun 05, 2012 - 12:24 pm
Hi all - I'm a 55 yr old man who was just diagnosed last Friday. My last PSA was 6 & my Gleason is 7 (3+4) w/one core out of 8 exhibiting cancer "a small amount" as the surgeon said. My father was disgnosed at age 57 - he had ignored symptoms until he could not urinate at all and had a walnut sized tumor at the time of the diagnosis. He had a radical in which they found it had matasticized to the neck of the bladder. He lived 7 years - 2 of which were miserable with a poor quality of life. I essentially closed my business for the last 2 months of his life to care for him - the cancer had spread all over. I saw all this first hand and am pretty nervous for my health.
I asked the surgeon who did the biopsy what she believed my chances were to be cancer free long term if I do treatment - she said near 100%. I have VA insurance and nearly all options are offered, however, with my family history I am leaning toward a robotic RP. Other than dying...my main concerns involve possibility of lifetime incontenance and erectile disfunction. God was good to me in that ED has not yet been an issue. My father never regained contenence of urine or his ability to have an erection. Biopsy Surgeon said I really need to to try to divorce myself from the experience of my father's illness because mine is in no way as severe. It sounds logical - but after experiencing the progression of his disease logic screams to be supported by personal experiences of survivors. So... would any of you who were or are in circumstances similar to mine tell me your stories? As well anyone who wants to post things you think I should know - PLEASE DO! I'm scheduled to talk with an oncologist and radiologist next Wednesday. Although my Doc said I have time to make a decision - I think mine is made. I always believed there was a moment in my father's disease whare there was just one cancer cell toomany to be overcome. Thanks for you help and for welcoming me into your community. I need your help - I have 2 beautiful teenaged daughters who I can't tell until I know the scoop. Thanks again... Kurt