May 07, 2012 - 12:04 am
I just joined tonight since I haven't tried this type of network before. My mom was diagnosed with kidney cancer september 2011 at stage 4 cancer. She had a knee replacement surgery done early that summer, so I don't know how, with all the tests they did, they missed this before the surgery. Since there are tumors in her liver and lungs, they had been trying to shrink them so they could perform surgery on her kidney. She did not respond to two of the medications and because he liver functions are poor, they can't put her on anything else, which means they also can't perform the kidney surgery. I know my parents are not telling me everything since they are struggling, but they told me the doctors said it may only be 3 more months, but that she could loose the battle at any moment really. I'm just graduating college and I guess I never thought I would be dealing with loosing my mom at my age. I always thought she would be around for graduation, my wedding (which is in October of next year), grand kids, and so much more. I think about my younger brother who is only going to be a junior in college, and I can't imagine how he's feeling. I also get so sad thinking about my dad and how he's loosing his wife. I've tried talking to family and a therapist, but I guess nothing is really helping right now. Sometimes it's comforting to see others feeling the same so that I know that it's normal to feel this way. I just don't know how to deal with it all, so if anyone has any suggestions on how they are or how they did cope with things, I would really appreciate it.