Mar 25, 2012 - 2:52 pm
My mom was diagnosed as stage 4 breast cancer/bone cancer in July '11. After aggressive chemo, the tunor in her breast had pretty much disappeared making a mastectomy possible (her other breast had been removed 3 years ago). She seemed to be recovering well when she began to complain of horrible back pain...so bad that she couldn't sleep and almost stopped eating. Scans showed the breast cancer was clear and the bone cancer SEEMED to be arrested too. But once the pain started, she has gone from walking to barely being able to get around with a walker. My sis and I talked to her oncologist and he said the cancer was now in her spinal fluid and gave us a time table of 3 months...and hospice would be required at the end.
I do understand that treatment for this type of cancer is not well developed, as well as nearly impossible. I am not looking for miracles...seeing how quickly she has gone from able bodied independent woman to needing assistance to even get out of bed I realize how quickly this cancer works. What I am hoping for is some advice on how to help in whatever way possible to prevent loss of dignity. I am not expressing this well, but I hope someone knows what I mean. Please...any thoughts or advice on how to make her comfortable, etc and get through this would be very helpful. Both my sis and I need it badly, and so will my father.