Hi All, I live in Ireland, but am very close to my uncle who lives in New York, When out there on vacation 3 years ago (exactly) he told me he'd been diagnosed with PC, but that he was told they would keep an eye on it and probably something else would get him before this would.
He sent me a St Patricks Day card which arrived last Friday, telling me his PSA levels had gone from 1.5 - 29. He has had bloods done, bone scans & a biopsy, but had no results on the 12th when he sent the card.
I rang and he told me they took 12 samples and all 12 showed 80% cancer cells, but that it has not spread outside the prostate. He is going for Radium soon. I know he's going to see his Dr on Monday 26th in Sloan Kettering Memorial. I was planning on going out there this year anyway, but this result has made this trip more urgent.
To my knowledge his wife doesn't know about this at all. (They have a strange relationship). His sister (my mother) doesn't know the new results, he said that he'd leave it to me to tell her the bad news. I feel it should be him that tells her? I ain't sure his job knows either, as he intends working through treatment. He's such a secretive individual I'm priviledged to have been told, I know that.
He doesn't want me out there till he's over treatment & healthy, I wonder is this possible with the diagnosis? Cancer is scary when you have support around you, but to try deal with all this alone when his family are here in Ireland. Do I wait for him to invite me out or do I just pick a time and go out there for support. How can I help him from here?? I have started sending letters weekly as I used to, but due to family commitments and hectic lives they had stopped being sent. We did however keep in touch by phone and sicne getting this news last friday (16th) I've rang him twice in the past week, I'm trying to find a balance between support but not hounding him. His birthday is April 2nd so we're sending him out a card from each of us (I have 4 kids). Just looking for advice on what to do from here.....