Bad news yesterday

rmkbrad
rmkbrad Member Posts: 176
in Head and Neck Cancer #1
Well the doctors came into my room to talk to my wife and me after the big tumor board meeting, to tell me that the cancer is inoperable and no radiation could be done, the tumor is growing around my carotid artery and could at any time collapse it or cut into it and basically kill me instantly. How do you take that conversation, they did say that there is one chemo that has shown promise in the past and I can try that, well hell if that is my only option then poison me up. I don't know what was harder telling my kids, 5, 8, and 13 or my dad face to face. He called today while I was taking a nap and is a complete mess. He already berried one son, my brother 8 years ago from a motorcycle wreck. Anyway getting over the pneumonia pretty good, sent me home with a pick line and still on IV antibiotics. Have a home health care nurse that comes over and helps with the drugs. Should hear this week about the chemo and when to start, have the trace in now, not very comfortable but at least I can breath.

Thanks for all your support

Brad
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  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #2
    Hi Brad
    I am praying that the new Chemo will work my friend, take care keep strong and postive all you can. As with me for some reason the 3rd time the cancer just stopped growing I am praying it will do the same for you.

    God bless
    Hondo
  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member
    #3
    Brad, I'm so very sorry for
    Brad, I'm so very sorry for the hell you're must be going thru and you poor dad as well. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I wil pray the chemo works wonders.

    Sincerly Debbie
  • hawk711
    hawk711 Member Posts: 566
    #4
    debbiejeanne said:

    Brad, I'm so very sorry for
    Brad, I'm so very sorry for the hell you're must be going thru and you poor dad as well. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I wil pray the chemo works wonders.

    Sincerly Debbie

    Brad
    My heart goes out to you brother. I will add you to the prayer list and remember that miracles happen all the time. Just ask Hondo !!!
    Keep the spirit up my friend, we are here to help you through this crap....
    thoughts with you,
    Steve
  • longtermsurvivor
    longtermsurvivor Member Posts: 1,842 Member
    #5
    Brad
    I'm sorry to hear of the difficult situation. i'm glad to hear your breathing is better with your trache in place. Managing that will get easier very quickly. What can you do but move forward with whatever is available to you? My best wishes to you and your family.


    pat
  • ValerieMo
    ValerieMo Member Posts: 27
    #6
    My prayers are with you!
    Gosh Brad, I am new to all of this, but one thing I think I am becoming is a Prayer Warrior! You and your family are in my prayers! I hope the chemo works miracles and that you stay strong and encouraged throughout! So glad that your pneumonia is clearing up, and that you are able to breathe well with the trache. God bless you!
    Valerie
  • stevenl
    stevenl Member Posts: 587
    #7
    ValerieMo said:

    My prayers are with you!
    Gosh Brad, I am new to all of this, but one thing I think I am becoming is a Prayer Warrior! You and your family are in my prayers! I hope the chemo works miracles and that you stay strong and encouraged throughout! So glad that your pneumonia is clearing up, and that you are able to breathe well with the trache. God bless you!
    Valerie

    Hoping
    Hi Brad,
    Sorry to hear this report. My hopes and prayers are with you.
    All the best,
    Steve
  • Greg53
    Greg53 Member Posts: 849
    #8
    ValerieMo said:

    My prayers are with you!
    Gosh Brad, I am new to all of this, but one thing I think I am becoming is a Prayer Warrior! You and your family are in my prayers! I hope the chemo works miracles and that you stay strong and encouraged throughout! So glad that your pneumonia is clearing up, and that you are able to breathe well with the trache. God bless you!
    Valerie

    Dang it!
    Brad,

    Sorry for all the crap you've had to go thru. I'll be sending positive energy your way and hope the chemo helps.

    Greg
  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #9
    Chemo
    So what is the chemo they're talking about...

    Hoping that it kicks butt, not yours, cancer butt that is....

    Prayers are with you brother,
    John
  • sweetblood22
    sweetblood22 Member Posts: 3,228
    #10
    Brad
    I am so sorry. I am hoping that the chemo can arrest the tumor and shrink it, hopefully for good. You and your family, are always in my prayers.

    Hugs,

    D
  • Jan Trinks
    Jan Trinks Member Posts: 477
    #11
    Prayers Your Way
    Brad:

    So very sorry to hear this news. Good luck with the chemo and I'm praying for your and your family.

    Jan (Basketcase)
  • nwasen
    nwasen Member Posts: 235 Member
    #12
    Jan Trinks said:

    Prayers Your Way
    Brad:

    So very sorry to hear this news. Good luck with the chemo and I'm praying for your and your family.

    Jan (Basketcase)

    Brad
    I am sorry to hear of your bad news but at least there is a glimmer of hope. Hang tough and know all your friends on this network are pulling for you!
    Peace, Nancy
  • Carolinagal
    Carolinagal Member Posts: 91
    #13
    Sorry to hear this
    I hope that the chemo will be effective. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
  • Hal61
    Hal61 Member Posts: 655
    #14
    For **** Sake
    Very sorry to hear of this latest trial Brad. Glald to hear you are brething easier, and there is a treatment you can try. The ticklish carotid artery situation is a real head banger. It must have bee extremely hard to tell your family, but they are in it with you, as we are. If you can use any help in terms of research in any matter to prepare in any way, I'm retired and a whiz at Internet searches. Email me here if I can be any help. They don't use regular treatmnet procedures that don't have a history of success to some degree, so keep your hope.

    best, Hal
  • Jimbo55
    Jimbo55 Member Posts: 590 Member
    #15
    Brad
    Wow, you've been through so much already Brad and now this. So very sorry to hear of this and am hoping for nothing but good things for you from here on out. Know that we are all there with you Brad.

    Jimbo
  • fisrpotpe
    fisrpotpe Member Posts: 1,349 Member
    #16
    some one
    some one has to say it "CANCER SUCKS"

    Prayers going out for new chemo to do it's instructions. Prayers for you and your family.

    john
  • CLRRN
    CLRRN Member Posts: 127
    #17
    Hope.....
    Brad,

    Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Like everyone else, I hope this new chemo does its thing and eradicates that nasty tumor.

    Chris
  • robinleigh
    robinleigh Member Posts: 297
    #18
    new chemo
    Brad,
    Sorry for your news but hopefully the new chemo will shrink your tumor. My husband went through so many "chemo cocktails" and is finally on one that has shrunk his tumors considerably. They told us there are more tools in the toolbox so you never know which one your cancer will respond to.
    Best wishes,
    Robin
  • D Lewis
    D Lewis Member Posts: 1,581 Member
    #19
    So very sorry to hear this news
    Brad

    @s.

    Deb
  • MarineE5
    MarineE5 Member Posts: 1,030 Member
    #20
    Prayers
    Brad,

    Prayers are outbound
  • staceya
    staceya Member Posts: 720
    #21
    MarineE5 said:

    Prayers
    Brad,

    Prayers are outbound

    I join everyone in sending
    I join everyone in sending you strength and keeping you in my prayers.
    Sincerely
    Stacey

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