I had mentioned in another post that I was going to visit The Behreavement Center, in our town, a service offered by our county Hospice. I was happy to learn that David doesn't have to qualify for Hospice Services in order for us to go there.
I'm so glad my husband and I went. In searching for a counselor to talk to, to help us sort through feelings and the issues we are dealing with, I had wanted to connect with a therapist with experience dealing with cancer patients and their caretakers. Our county American Cancer Society rep recommended such a person, but turns out her schedule is full and she wanted me to see one of her associates. But I just didn't feel good about that.
So, I called our county Hospice to see if they could recommend a therapist and she said I could see one of their counselors in their Behreavment Center.
So, my husband and I went on Thursday, and it was so helpful. Turns out the counselor is a chaplain with Hospice and so has had lots of experience dealing with families like ours. And she is especially empathetic as it turns out, she lost her 21 year old son, 10 years ago, to non-hodgkins lymphoma. So she his especially understanding.
She is open to meeting with us on a regular basis if we want, and also with David, if he wants to. And at no charge! Of course, she has lots of connections in the community and is working on getting David hooked up with services and volunteers who might be able to help with his social isolation.
I won't go on about our meeting, but just wanted to pass this on to others, who may have a similar service in their community. If so, I highly recommend using it. We don't have family in this area, and have found that many of our friends seem to be distancing themselves. Probably because they just don't know what to say. We need to forgive them for that too.