My 75-year-old Mom is now one of us... :-(

Christmas Girl
Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
edited January 2012 in Breast Cancer #1
Admitting I haven't been here much lately. Completed 7 weeks of rads on December 1st, for my 2nd diagnosis. Between the rads-induced fatigue (more intense than the 1st time - 8 years ago) and the holiday season... well, I know you understand. You are all - always! - held close within my heart.

Some time during the 2nd week of December - learned my 75-year-old Mom had been DXed with breast cancer. Surgery followed about a week later. Final post-op pathology results were delivered the Friday before Christmas Day. We all got through the holidays, made the best of them - though they were very simplified, scaled back, and a bit somber.

We were - of course! - hoping she'd escape chemo, and (maybe) need only rads. Unfortunately for her, not to be. She's scheduled for her first treatment February 3rd. And, my 80-year-old Dad is not coping very well with any of this. They are both devastated.

Please - powerful pink sisters, friends, Kindred Spirits - am asking for hopes, good thoughts, positive vibes, magic wishes - I'm frantically waving my wand, prayers (whatever it is you do, doesn't matter - any and all will be greatly appreciated!) on behalf of my elderly Mom, primarily. Secondarily, on behalf of my elderly Dad.

Thank you. XO

Kind regards, Susan
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  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    #2
    so sorry your family is
    so sorry your family is going through this..Thinking of you you...

    sending pixie Dust

    Denise
  • Frankie Shannon
    Frankie Shannon Member Posts: 457
    #3
    Of course your Mom and Dad
    Of course your Mom and Dad are in my thoughts and prayers its not easy to reach that age and half to deal with such health issues.Strength,Courage and Hope.Hugs Frankie
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729
    #4
    Positive thoughts and hugs
    Positive thoughts and hugs sent to you and your parents. Thinking of you.
  • SIROD
    SIROD Member Posts: 2,194 Member
    #5
    Breast Cancer has no Age Limit!
    Dear Susan,

    It is always difficult to go through bc ourself and you are on the 2nd time around. Having one's dear mother go through the same can be very dispiriting.

    I had a neighbor who was 92 when she was diagnose. At that age, they just removed the tumor (good size too) and she lived another 3 years, dying of old age.

    I did have an aunt who was 82 years old at her diagnose and did radiation. She is 94 and still alive, never having a recurrence. They wanted her to have a mastectomy and I told her that one wasn't needed. She did Tamoxifen for 5 years.

    It's not easy at that age. Is she hormonal positive?

    Best wishes to you and your mother,

    Doris
  • sea60
    sea60 Member Posts: 2,613
    #6
    Gosh Susan, I'm so very
    Gosh Susan, I'm so very sorry. I will certainly keep you're Mom and family in prayer.

    Hugs,

    Sylvia
  • cahjah75
    cahjah75 Member Posts: 2,631
    #7
    Susan
    I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My mom is 83 and just had her first colonoscopy. Dr couldn't get very far because of a blockage so I have to take her for a 2nd one. I'm the oldest of her 4 daughters and only my mom and youngest sister have escaped bc. My grandmother had it and one aunt too. I feel bad for your dad too. Please know that you are all in my prayers as she goes through treatment.
    {{hugs}} Char
  • Margeaux
    Margeaux Member Posts: 84
    #8
    Your Mom
    Susan:
    I was 5 months past my 76th birthday when I got the diagnosis - Stage IIB, HER Pos. Husband was 83. I had 6 months chemo, lumpectomy, 18 lymph nodes removed, radiation, 1 year Herceptin. Last Herceptin was Nov. 2010. The Beast attacks at any age. I don't know what is harder, to face this when one is young, has one's whole life ahead, children to consider, or when one is older and would like nothing more than to have a quiet existence after a life of work. I am up and about, taking care of the household, doing exercise, having a social life, albeit a little slower than before, but what the heck, I am almost 79 now.
    Lots of hugs to you and your Mother.
    M.
  • grams2jc
    grams2jc Member Posts: 756
    #9
    So sorry your family is going through this
    I will keep your mom and dad in my thoughts and prayers,

    Jennifer
  • LoveBabyJesus
    LoveBabyJesus Member Posts: 1,679 Member
    #10
    :(
    Oh dear Susan - I am so sorry about your mama. We never want anyone to go through this experience we go through, but especially, we don't want our love ones to go through it. I'm sorry she needs the chemo. We know it's very hard, but we will keep her (and your dad) in our prayers. I pray her body stays strong to fight this, and she comes out at the other end recovered.

    Big hugs to you.
  • Texasgirl10
    Texasgirl10 Member Posts: 668
    #11
    LoveBabyJesus said:

    :(
    Oh dear Susan - I am so sorry about your mama. We never want anyone to go through this experience we go through, but especially, we don't want our love ones to go through it. I'm sorry she needs the chemo. We know it's very hard, but we will keep her (and your dad) in our prayers. I pray her body stays strong to fight this, and she comes out at the other end recovered.

    Big hugs to you.

    Prayers
    I am so sorry that your family is going through this. I will be praying for all of you.

    Hugs,

    Dawne
  • New Flower
    New Flower Member Posts: 4,294
    #12
    Texasgirl10 said:

    Prayers
    I am so sorry that your family is going through this. I will be praying for all of you.

    Hugs,

    Dawne

    Susan
    Susan,
    Sending positive thoughts and prayers to your Mom and Dad, hoping for the best outcome possible. Please know that we are here by your side. Maybe she can do weekly Chemo with lower dose instead of once every 3 weeks. Please ask your doctor to make it easy for her.
    Hugs
  • lynn1950
    lynn1950 Member Posts: 2,570
    #13
    Dear Susan, So sorry to read
    Dear Susan, So sorry to read your post about your mom. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Let's talk soon. xoxoxox Lynn
  • natly15
    natly15 Member Posts: 1,941
    #14
    Susan I had no idea this was
    Susan I had no idea this was going on in your life. I'm so sorry for all of you. Your family and particularly mom and dad are in my prayers. Hugs across the miles.
  • Lynn Smith
    Lynn Smith Member Posts: 1,264 Member
    #15
    Texasgirl10 said:

    Prayers
    I am so sorry that your family is going through this. I will be praying for all of you.

    Hugs,

    Dawne

    Susan
    You,your mom and dad are in my thoughts and prayers.It will be hard on your dad at his age.There will be times that he might not be able to go to the hospital.It is draining on anyone let alone someone your dad's age.I know that when my husband had his hospital stays.Exhausting and trying and I'm in my mid 60's.

    As you see from others posts they know of people dx in their late 70's and 80's.You would think you got past a cancer dx at that age. But as we see all the time there is no age barrier. I had benign tumors/cysts since 20. Always worrying about getting cancer.Then I had a hysterectomy.No hormones.Was told not to take hormones either because of family history of BC.As the years went by I became more comfortable.Mammos were good.Then bc hit me at 62 in 2009.

    I hope your mom lives to be in her 90's. That is the goal I have for myself.

    Best wishes to your family during this trying time.

    Lynn Smith
  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
    #16
    I am so sorry that you and
    I am so sorry that you and your loved ones are going through this. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Sending you lots of positive energy and big (((hugs))).
  • GreeneyedGirl
    GreeneyedGirl Member Posts: 1,077
    #17
    CypressCynthia said:

    I am so sorry that you and
    I am so sorry that you and your loved ones are going through this. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Sending you lots of positive energy and big (((hugs))).

    So sorry to hear this news~
    Its hard enough when we go through this, but to have ones we love face it as well is tough. My prayers for you and your family as you walk the path together~ you are not alone susan, we are surrounding you.
    ~Melanie
  • laughs_a_lot
    laughs_a_lot Member Posts: 1,368 Member
    #18
    Prayers
    Prayers for them of course.
  • missrenee
    missrenee Member Posts: 2,136 Member
    #19
    laughs_a_lot said:

    Prayers
    Prayers for them of course.

    Oh, Susan I am so sorry
    As if you're not dealing with enough, now your poor mom. I'm hoping her treatment is easy for her and she gets through it very well. Also, hearing about your dad breaks my heart as well. It's so hard to sit and watch a loved one go through this.

    My prayers and positive energy go out to you, your mom and dad. Please keep us posted.

    Hugs, Renee
  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    #20
    missrenee said:

    Oh, Susan I am so sorry
    As if you're not dealing with enough, now your poor mom. I'm hoping her treatment is easy for her and she gets through it very well. Also, hearing about your dad breaks my heart as well. It's so hard to sit and watch a loved one go through this.

    My prayers and positive energy go out to you, your mom and dad. Please keep us posted.

    Hugs, Renee

    Adding my hugs, too
    So sorry to hear about your mom. I imagine it will be difficult for all of you. I guess the positive part is that her overall health is good enough to endure chemo if she needs it.

    Sending my prayers for all of you.
    Suzanne
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    #21
    Susan,
    Kindest wishes and
    Susan,
    Kindest wishes and big prayers for your mom, you and the entire family. The one good thing is that she has you and I know you will be there for her all the way.
    Stef

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