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cher76
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Wednesday morning around 5:30am, my best friend, husband, father of my children, and life long love lost his courageous battle with the beast. It was 15 months to the day from his initial diagnosis. He died peacefully at home with his family around him, and is now free from all the pain he had been suffering. He reached his goal of making it through Christmas and getting to see all the family together and we made some wonderful memories. The pain from the bones mets was constantly with him and we were never able to find the balance between the methadone and pain. Either he was awake and in pain or sleeping and pain free. His feet and hands had been very swollen for several weeks and he could not get comfortable in bed in order to raise them up. He had spent the last month pretty much in the recliner and then getting up and moving from chair to chair around the house trying to find a comfortable position. On the last day we had convinced him to get into the bed to sleep, and he never woke up again. We always knew from the beginning that there would be no cure, and so we prayed for time. I believe while God could not take this horrible beast away, he did grant us the time we prayed for. Rickie and I got married 35 years ago when we were just 19; we faced good times and bad together, and always worked as a team. We raised 3 wonderful children and always taught them that if you made a commitment to something then you stuck by your commitment. I was proud to be his wife. Rickie and I made a commitment to fight the beast together, and we never gave up. Thank you all for all the support and guidance you have given during this journey. We could not have made it this far without you. Rickie's journey has ended and mine will continue on until we met again in heaven to enjoy eternal life.
Cheryl
Wife of Rickie, dx stage IV EC, October 2010
mets to bones and brain

sangora
Posts: 218
Joined: Mar 2011

You know, its hard to loose someone we love but in the case of this disease and the difficulties it brings, sometimes its a relief to let go. I have followed you and Rickie's journey and you have to know that from the outside looking in, it was obvious that you were behind him all the way. I hope in the coming months, you can gain some peace about all this. Praying for you and your children as you go thru this difficult time. Sam stage IV

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Donna70
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Dear Cher,
So sad to see this. Glad that Rick is not suffering anymore but know how much you loved him and will be missing him for a long time to come. You did your best for him. I am sad to hear about the pain at the end, it doesn't seem fair at this day and age anyone should have to suffer like that. My thoughts and prayers will be with you all and your family. He was a standup guy and you raised your kids right. Glad that you did have your Christmas together. many hugs from afar,
Donna70

jss2011
Posts: 137
Joined: Sep 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. You described a wonderful life together with Rickie, 35 yrs of making memories. Sounds like you are soul mates and will surely meet again.
My prayers of comfort are with you.

Hugs,
Julie

annalan
Posts: 149
Joined: Jul 2011

Cheryl I am so sorry for your loss but as you say he is free from pain now. You have been married a long time and have your wonderful memories and family to help you. I send my condolence to you all.

Ann (2)

chrissiebass
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Joined: Apr 2011

I had seen the comments from others on your facebook page, but wanted to hear something from you first. You have and always are in my prayers. I was thinking of you all day yesterday when i read the beautiful messages some had wrote on your page. I wish I was there to give you a big hug.

I am happy to hear that all of the family was able to be there for x-mas and make some lasting memories for you.

Please keep in touch and know you are never out of my thoughts..... thinking of you

chrissie

Wife of patient...
Posts: 129
Joined: Oct 2011

Rickie was so courageous ... all the way through his EC journey. Your love for him, shone brightly through within your words of every post. Cheryl, you were an amazing advocate for your husband. He was so lucky to have you at his side.

Take time and grieve.... for as long as you need to. There is no time limit.

Take care my Friend, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Sal

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MissusB
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Joined: Jul 2011

and I pray that you will find the strength I know you are going to need in the coming days, months and years. I'm going through the same thing as you right now, I lost the light and love of my life on December 17th, so I know no words are adequate to express what we've shared with these wonderful men. Know that I feel your pain and send love - Kim

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rose20
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Sounds like he was in no pain that he just went in his sleep, that is one great comfort. So thankful for the time God gave you both.
You will be in my prayers.
Rose

BMGky
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Joined: May 2010

Our deepest condolences. Thank you for letting us know. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. BMGky

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Cora11
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My heartfelt sympathy for your loss. Seems there is too too much loss here these days. I am touched by your courageous fight with Rickie. Now it is time for peace and healing and taking comfort from those around you. An unimaginable loss for you and your family. I know Ricky is at peace and I grieve with you. I am so sorry for your pain right now.
Blessings,
Cora

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paul61
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Cheryl,

I am very sorry to hear about Rickie, the two of you have battled this disease with grace and courage. I am happy that Rickie got to spend the holidays with his family, and that he was at home with you at the end.

May God wrap Rickie in his loving arms and give you support and peace during this difficult time.

With my deepest condolences,

Paul Adams,
McCormick, South Carolina

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JaneO
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So sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.

bingbing2009
Posts: 179
Joined: Feb 2011

Cheryl,

Our deepest condolences go out to you and your family. While this is never the news any of us wants to hear, at least Ricky is now at peace and pain-free. May God wrap you in His arms and give you comfort. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Melinda and Vaughn

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sandy1943
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Joined: Jun 2010

Cheryl, I pray for God to hold you and the family close ,surrounding you with peace and comfort during this difficult difficult time.
My thoughts and prayers are with you,
Sandra

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Mazj
Posts: 42
Joined: Oct 2011

I am so, so sorry to read of Ricky's passing. I know there are no words to ease your pain but I hope you can take some comfort from the love we all send to you from afar. Many hugs and heartfelt condolences,
Marilyn

Rick0311
Posts: 38
Joined: Jan 2012

Cheryl
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Richard (Rick) Watson
Neoga, Illinois

DX – 0411
EC – T2N2M0
MIE – 083111
Barnes Hospital, St Louis
Dr Brian Meyer
NED

T-Bird
Posts: 25
Joined: Aug 2011

Dear Cheryl;

I am so sorry to read of Rickie's passing. May you be surrounded by loved ones during this very difficult time. Sending thoughts & prayers to your family.

Teresa

froggerjen
Posts: 29
Joined: Jan 2012

Cher, I just joined this group today but wanted to offer my prayers and condolences for your loss of Rickie. JEn

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JReed
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Joined: Nov 2011

Dear Cheryl and Family:

We are very sorry to hear of Rickie's passing away. May God comfort you and wrap you in His loving arms. Thank you for your contributions to our group - Don and I are fairly new to this and we have gained so much knowledge from you and we truly appreciate what you have given to all of us on this site.

God Bless You,
Judy & Don

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unclaw2002
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Joined: Jan 2010

Cher,

I was so sorry to hear your news. I know you and Ricki had been dealing with so many setbacks recently, and even the death of his dear father. We walked down many of the same hallways, with the same doctors and nurses and had the same treatment. Ricki and my dad were pioneers and the brave ones willing to experiment with untried treatments in the hope they would have more time with those they loved. My dad got that one extra Christmas with us and I am so happy that Ricki got that Christmas with you, but really I am so happy that he was able to share that with your children. And may you treasure the summer you had at the beach with your loved ones, sitting in the sun at the edge of the water with fishing lines in the water. I loved that picture you had from the summer.

You will have many days ahead that seem so difficult but remember we are all here for you, praying for you and holding out our arms to hold you. All my love and prayers to and your family. One day at a time and hold on to the wonderful life you two built together, that will endure.

Cindy

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TerryV
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I'm so sorry to hear of Rickie's passing, Cheryl. Glad you guys were able to have this past Christmas with the family around.

Rickie sure fought hard during his 15 months. As did you - right beside him! 35 years of wonderful loving memories - it's a good "take away".

Please know that you're in our thoughts and prayers.

Terry
wife to Nick, age 48
dx T3N1M0 05/19/11
26 Rads, 2 weeks cisplatin/5FU
THE 09/08/11

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AngieD
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Cheryl, I was so sorry to hear the news. You and Rickie were a wonderful team and put up an amazing fight with the beast. I wish and pray for peace for you and comfort in the wonderful memories of all your years together.

Angie
wife of Larry Stage IV DX 6/21/11

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ritawaite13
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Joined: Aug 2011

I'm so very sorry to learn of Rickie's death. I was curious because you hadn't posted on here or on the new EC Facebook page so I looked at your wall and saw condolences. Even though I suspected the battle was almost over from your most recent posts, it's still hard to accept. I am still new to my new life without Greg (he just passed on Oct 24)so I, like Kim, really do feel your pain. I'm glad you have such wonderful memories of his final earthly Christmas with family. I'm sure you know by now that grief really does come in waves. You'll be feeling like you're doing all right one minute and the next you'll become a heart broken, sobbing wreck. It's okay. Give yourself all the time and shed all the tears you need.
Greg and I were married just short of 42 years (anniversary coming up 1/24)so I have been where you are now and it sucked. There is a group of women called Mourning Dawns who've all lost husbands to EC. They've been very helpful and supportive. Please email me when or if you're interested in learning more.
My heart aches for you Cheryl. May God be with you and may your memories give you some comfort.
Hugs,
Rita

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fredswilma
Posts: 196
Joined: Mar 2011

My heart breaks for you, yet I am thankful that Rickie is no longer in pain, I wish you and your family comfort and peace at this time, remember the good times and know that Rickie lives on in your heart and in your children. My prayers are with you and your family.
Ann

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JaneE2366
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Joined: Jul 2009

Cheryl,
You have my deepest sympathy.
Jane

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birdiequeen
Posts: 329
Joined: Mar 2011

Rickie, you and your whole family put up a good battle against the beast. You have my deepest sympathy.

Lee Ann

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