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shannonbobannon
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This Christmas I want to give my dad a meaningful gift because you never know what tomorrow brings. My boyfriends grandmother made a glass block with a string of lights in it and there is a blue ribbon on the front and a blue bow tied around the whole thing. On the back I would really really like to put my favorite picture of my dad and I and a quote. Can anyone help me with some really awesome quotes to help us all get through this horrible disease?

Thanks,
Shannon :)

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jimwins
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"Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow."
Helen Keller

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

“We think about all of our tomorrows, but we don’t know how many they are, so let’s start making the most of our Todays!” ~ Ivana Trump

"We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails."
- Dolly Parton

"Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect."
Chief Seattle

"The strongest oak of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It's the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun."
Napoleon Hill

Hugs and positive thoughts,

Jim
DX: DLBL 4/2011, Chemo completed 10/2011, currently in remission. :)
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shannonbobannon
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I really really like a lot of these quotes. I think my favorite is the Ivana Trump one. It's been really really hard the past few months and a lot of things have changed but I'm thinking positive and making sure my dad is alright. I was looking for quotes on Google and I found this site and I'm so excited to meet new people and have may more postitive thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing these quotes.

And as for the recipe I'll have to find my grandmothers rum cake recipe! I personally don't care for it but all of my co-workers do!

Thanks again for sharing,
Shannon :)

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Hondo
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If it was me just something simple, “Dad I love you and I am there for you”, or “When you feel weak I will be your Rock to lean on”.

Thanks for remembering your Dad and loving his through his Cancer.

God bless and be with you both
Hondo

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shannonbobannon
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Thanks Hondo. In may after we found out I got a tattoo on my ribcage for him. It's a cancer ribbon and a quote from Mother Teresa, which is one of my favorite saying. "Today is gone, tomorrow has not yet come, we have only today."

I really like the quotes and I want to stick with those and I've just decided its going to be a gift for both of my parents. I'll keep your thought in consideration though.
Thank you,
Shannon :)

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Faithful_Angel
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Shannon,

I've been reading your posts as i mostly "lurk in the shadows " now. I cared for my dad, my best friend for 19 months after his stomach cancer diagnosis night and day. Just keep doing what you are doing. You don't realize it now maybe but not only are you giving him an amazing gift, but he is giving you one. The time you spend right now is priceless. In the end that's all we have. I hope for health and happiness to you and your family.

If I can help at all feel free to email me.

Valerie

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shannonbobannon
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Thank you so much for your kind words. I honestly laid in bed last night and cried for two hours just thinking abouty dad last night. It's been a tough tough road but we are managing to get through it. I'm so sorry to hear that tou lost your dad. I'm extremely close to mine and I don't know what will happen if I lose him anytime soon. He's my hero and this wake up call just makes me closer to him. I'll keep you in my prayers! Keep in touch and I'd there's anything I can help you get through let me know!

Shannon

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Faithful_Angel
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It's funny how when we are growing up we resent out fathers in particular for being so strict at least in my case. But My dad was my best friend, he was my mentor, the person i looked up to the most. He was my world when he got sick, seeing he had not even had a cold more than twice in my life....he was diagnosed at the young age of 56. I lost my entire world on September 20,2011 at 3:37pm. Funny how i can remember that when I can't remember anything else.

My dad saved my life twice in the last 10 years and it killed me to know I couldn't save him but God had a different plan. I have the most amazing gift anyone can ever give me. I had those last few quality months with my dad. When he wouldn't let anyone else near him, including my mom he wanted me there. I can never tell anyone what Time with your loved one means. Don't miss a moment to say what needs to be said no matter the outcome of all this it's a very valuable lesson.

Stay strong and Keep the Faith,

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Hondo
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What we as Fathers leave behind is in the heritage of our children and our children children’s. My oldest daughter growing up was my biggest headache and problem until she turned 18 and then we became the best of friends. When we found out I had cancer she was 6 months pregnant with our first grandchild, I was afraid to even tell her but knew I had to and that I had to give her the news as softly as I could, that was hard. What was worse was telling her when the cancer came back a second time. I have no idea why but from then on she has studied about cancer and different things that I needed to be doing. She is now worse than a Mother watching everything I do and telling me Dad that is not good for you.

I know she does it because she loves me and who know maybe that is why I am still here even when the cancer came back a third time. I am 6 years passed my last treatment and suffer from so many side effects of the treatments. But I have been able to see three of my grandchildren and hope to be here for the one who is on the way.

God bless you both for being Loving Caregivers to your Fathers. What a joy we will all have when we meet again.

:+})
Hondo

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Hondo,

That made my heart smile thank you. I have been missing dad today alot. Seems as though I come back to the boards especially when I'm missing him. And just to have you say that, it gave me some validation and sometimes as a daughter missing her dad that's all I need.

I wish you well, and healthy and thank you for shining a little hope my way today God Bless

3Mana
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HI,
Put your favorite picture of your dad on the back & the quote "Dad, you've always been the light of my life". Hope you have a great Christmas & enjoy the time you have with your dad. "Carole"

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shannonbobannon
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Thank you guys so much for your words. It's extremely hard for me to watch my dad go through this. The worst was when I moved back with them for about a month, I came out of the bedroom and he was throwing up and there was nothing I could do. It was such a helpless feeling for me knowing that I couldn't help my dad get better. This thing eats me on the inside everyday because he says he's getting better, but what happens if he's getting worse and he doesn't want to tell me the truth because he knows that it's going to hurt me so much on the inside? What happens if I'm not here and I'm somewhere far away and something happens to him and I can't be there? I think of these things so much more than I probably should. Someone help make these questions just go away.

Thanks,
Shannon

ms.sunshine
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Speak from your heart. If there is anything you want to tell your dad, or talk to him about do so. We feel we have to do so much, but you being there means everything to him.

Take care
Jennifer

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shannonbobannon
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Thanks for those words. Customers who come into my work ask me a lot how my dad is going and I think I have cried at least four nights that I have been at work. I feel horrible for telling people I've spent so much on him for Christmas to get him what I know he wants and needs, because you never know if he will be here next Christmas. I make his birthday and the major holidays the best for him because I want him to have good memories of them like I did with him when I was little. It's the hardest thing to not be able to do what we used to be able to do anymore. My dad has always gone shopping with me and picked out all of my outfits and he just can't do it anymore. I feel like somehow I could have changed that instead of going to the mall with my friends to go shopping I could have gone with him. I laid in bed Friday night and just cried for like a good two hours because I just want to do more. WE had the people that came to work and one of the reminds me of me and my dad. He had a stroke or something and hes in a wheelchair now and the two little old ladies he comes in with don't really have the strength to push him up the walkway and where he needs to be, so I help push him and it always makes me cry because it makes me think of how I have to push my dad around in his wheelchair whenever we go out together. I just wish I could get rid of this feeling that I can't help or I could just do more for him ya know? The hardest thing is when he gets his chemotherapy he tells me he doesn't want me to kiss him on the forehead, like I'm so used to doing, because he doesn't want me to get sick from the poison he puts in his body. It just makes me feel really low. I don't want it to be like this anymore. I'm going now because I'm in tears. Thanks for the kind words.

Shannon

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jimwins
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Hi Shannon,

I found a previous post/discussion about the chemo and kisssing thing.
I'd say discuss with the doctors and determine if it's a valid concern.
I doubt a kiss on the cheek or forhead or hugging puts you at any risk
but I'm not an expert.

http://csn.cancer.org/node/171780

Tell him I'm sending him a big hug and kiss for you.
Pretty sure that won't be a problem and besides, I've already
been poisoned 6 times :).

Hugs,

Jim

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shannonbobannon
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I know he and my mom sleep in the bed after the chemo and my mom says he sweats a lot of the time and a few times she's gotten sick i guess from coming into contact with it. I think my dad is just watching out for it, but I'll have to make it to an appointment of his and ask myself. I think hes's just looking out for me because he doesn't want me to get sick too.

Thanks,
Shannon :)

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shannonbobannon
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I know he and my mom sleep in the bed after the chemo and my mom says he sweats a lot of the time and a few times she's gotten sick i guess from coming into contact with it. I think my dad is just watching out for it, but I'll have to make it to an appointment of his and ask myself. I think he's just looking out for me because he doesn't want me to get sick too.

Thanks,
Shannon :)

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