Admist all the sadness and grief lately I wanted to share a few anecdotes of my life as a stage iv survivor since July 5th of this year.
I have a good friend who is also stage iv with sarcoma--we have been talking and sharing walks and how people unintentially say dumb things to you. Or have no gravity of what stage iv means...
Here are a few of me and my friends experiences:
Me: Having a cousin of mine visit me from the states in August. She works for a company that makes drugs for cancer so one would think she is more informed than the rest of the general population. Well I was starting radiation treatmens that same week when she informed me that we were going biking on the weekend. I was very tired and was kinda surprised she would suggest such strenues activity given my diagnoses... a month later she sent an email stating that I had agreed to go to her time share in Las Vegas for Halloween. This was when I was starting round one of chemo and had to be hospitalized for six days... After this experience she finally expressed to family that she "gets it now."
Friend: Just after having her first surgery to remove a football sized tunmour a good friend of her wanted her to sign up for a trip abroad. This friend gave her a list of choices and when she wanted to go-my friend politely declined but was shocked at such a request.
Me: recieving a text from a college friend telling me I should apply for a new job because it had flexible hours... I texted back "you know I have cancer, right? This friend quickly backtracked but I just kept thinking how dumb it was.
Anyway-what I find weird is why any person would suggest vacations when one is first diagnosed with any kind of cancer, regardless even of stage.
I dunno bout my fellow survivors but I have been around the world alot and I am only 33. BUT even if I had NOT I would not be pinning to go to Paris or Hawaii when I have a terminal illness...
Discuss and share your stories...PS I know that peoples intentions are good but most people dont know how to talk to people with cancer. I personally hate the question: "Are you gonna be okaaayyyy?