Nov 08, 2011 - 9:10 am
My 52 year old husband and best friend was diagnosed with Stage IV Pancreatic cancer with mets to his liver on October 7, 2011. By the time we got results for a second opinion, the cancer had spread to his lymph nodes, and we began chemo treatment the end of October.
My husband did not do well with the chemo side effects and basically did not eat for a week. We are scheduled for round two this Friday.
My husband seems to have given up; he doesn't shower, he doesn't get dressed, even if we have a plan to go out somewhere - he wears the same clothes he's been wearing all weekend.
I don't want to fight with him; but this is extremely frustrating and I don't know how to accept his giving up with no fight so soon, without the anger I feel welling up inside me.
I am fully aware that it is his body and his choice and I love him enough to let him make that choice; but I don't know how to put my feelings into HIS perspective.
How do you do it??