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Geri1959
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Joined: Sep 2011

My Husband has been gone since October 5th 2011,when will I feel better the two things I love to do is work and cook and I can't seem to do either it is like life is beeing sucked out of me I feel like my brain is working in slow motion. I am going back to work 1 week from this Wed I pray I am going to be okay

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palmyrafan
Posts: 398
Joined: Mar 2011

I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. I wish I had adequate words in my vocabulary to tell you how sorry I am.

All I can advise you is to take it one day at a time. One minute, one hour, one day at a time.

You are in my prayers.

Teresa

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AnneBehymer
Posts: 739
Joined: Jul 2011

I am so sorry for your lost I don't know if it every really goes aways but in time I think it gets better. I will be praying for you. Much love and hugssssssss

Anne

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jimwins
Posts: 1984
Joined: Aug 2011

Hi Geri,

I'm so sorry your husband passed. You are strong and will
put the pieces of your life back together albeit a few of them
will be missing. There is no time frame on all of this - people
process grief in their own way but it will get better.

I posted something on the Grief and Bereavement board that
might be helpful when you are ready. The guys seems really good
and discusses many things that you are facing or will face.

http://csn.cancer.org/node/228539

Hang in there and know you've got friends here,

Jim

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grandmafay
Posts: 1612
Joined: Aug 2009

I lost my husband two years ago. I can well remember those first few weeks of grief. I definitely had the fog of grief. This is not something you will get over, it is something you will learn to live with. It takes time, though, and sometimes outside help or meds. Try not to be too hard on yourself. This is a real blow. You are facing many changes. I'll never forget the first time I had to mark the widow box on a form. So many things will hit you. Sometimes they are little things, sometimes big ones. I have pretty much given up cooking. I go out to lunch almost daily either with friends or my iPad. It was just too painful to cook for one all the time or sit at the dining table by myself. Give yourself time. Find your own way to grieve. Lean on friends and family. Take care, Fay

3Mana
Posts: 829
Joined: Aug 2010

Geri,
It has only been a few weeks since you lost your husband. It's going to take time & the hurt of losing him will never go away, but it will become easier. I lost my husband 19 months ago tonite & I know at 10:00 all the memories of that night will come back to me. I miss him so much & still have bad days, but try to remember all the happy times we had. So just take a day at a time & try to keep busy. I think the worst part is eating alone, and being alone at night. Be strong & remember we are all here for you.
One who knows, Carole

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