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the more I pray the worse things get for my mom

teenadee
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I pray so hard for my mom not to have the pain she has with Bone Metastases and every day her pain is getting worse. Not only is her pain worse but her overall health is diminishing. This weekend has been the worst I have seen her, she can't keep her food done because of this awful cough which now I'm sure it's gone to her lung. I ask god not to make her suffer but I don't think he's hearing my prayers. Sometimes I feel like I'm loosing my faith, not really sure what else to write :( thank you for listening.

Noellesmom
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This suffering your mom is going through is not God's will for her, teena. This pain is a result of the awful disease your mom has - and who knows for sure what that is a result of?

I'm sorry your mom is having such a difficult time. Prayers being lifted that God's grace carries your mom and you through this part of her illness.

Hugs.

teenadee
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I had an awful weekend and today I am a little better. I talk to god every day and sometimes more than once to help my mom with this illness. hug back :)

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jimwins
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Hey Teena,

Sorry your mom is in such pain.
Sending warm and positive thoughts your way.

A quote from someone I always admired and
of course in line with my sense of humor:

I know God will not give me anything I can't handle.
I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.
~Mother Teresa

Big hugs,

Jim

teenadee
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The quote is great and I agree with Mother Teresa :) good day to you and thank you for the hugs and positive thoughts.

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AnneBehymer
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Teenadee,

I am so sorry you are going through this please keep the faith I know how much this hurts you because you love your mom so much I will be praying for you and her which you already know I will. If you need anything please just email me.

Much love and hugs
Anne

teenadee
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Anne you have been here for me beyond and I will keep the faith. Good luck today my dear sweet friend. PS is that your dog, he is just the cutest.

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AnneBehymer
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Yes that is my dog I got her about one month before I found out I had cancer I had just put my Westie because he had bone cancer. I tried not to get another dog because I did not want the pain of losing another dog but could not help myself. I got her through the pound and she has been a blessing to me she will lay on my lap after chemo treatments when I am feeling so bad. She just hit a year old so she is a lot of fun because she is still a puppy. I had a really hard time when I realized that my westie and I had cancer at the same time it made the lost of him even harder. My Molly did not handle me being in the hospital to well she started pooping in the house because I was gone and we have that undercontrol know but when I am gone for any time at all she takes something of mine to the back door and lays on it until I get home. It is nice to be loved that much usally it is one of my shoes and she is little enough her head fits in very well.

Anne

teenadee
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This is one of the most adoreable things I have read in ages. God bless her and you. I hope you are feeling better my dear and talk to you soon through e mail xoxo

amorriso
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Hi there. I just found out I have another reoccurenc of my thyroid cancer. And I too have prayed, asked why you name it. Got pretty anger at the Almighty - its hard to keep faith when you keep getting knocked down.

I'm hoping He understands - but I keep thinking - there are a lot of really mean nasty people in this world - why can He make them sick and me well.

There has to be an answer out there somewhere....

For now - I just ask that he guides my surgeons hand....

Take care

teenadee
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Wishing you the best of luck and god will be watching over you and guiding your surgeons. There are many mean and awful people in this world as you wrote and many have wished my mom harm to her health and have therefore got their wish come true. I know it's so hard to have faith and I know I wrote that in my post but without it, I don't know what I would do. I talk to god every single night even on the days I'm so exhausted I just quickly tell him to help my mom and put his hand on her and to help EVERYONE going through this awful disease and for the loved one's watching. It is so painful and hard. I have gotten so mad at God more often than I'd like to admit but then I apologize because I need him to help me get through this time and I need to believe. Please let me know how your surgery went when you can and may they get every ounce of it. Take good care.

amorriso
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My surgery went well and I walked out of the hospital today - 24 hours later. I was determined to get back home. Now I wait for the pathology report, and then take the next step. My surgeon did all he could do without causing damage - great man.

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who gets mad at God and then apologizes...I'm sure he understands..

Wishing good thoughts for your mom
Take care

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grandmafay
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It's ok to get mad at God. He can take it. So often we wonder why He doesn't answer our prayers. It's good to remember that His plans may not be the same as ours. Getting mad at God just proves that we believe in Him. Blessings, Fay

teenadee
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what a beautiful little cat. I had one similar when I was little. I believe in God and thank him for all my blessings. I just want him to help with my mother's suffering.

teenadee
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You must take it easy and take excellent care of yourself so you can give me good news. I'm glad there was no damage as this is important as well. Wishing you a speedy recovery and only health to come your way. God bless you.

cb46
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I know this thread is old but I "just happened" to come across it in a google search and saw a posts asking "why God would let His children get sick" and concluding "that it must be in His plan". I recently lost my maternal grandfather to cancer. My mom had to watch him slowly go from perfect health to complete devestation in a year's time, and no doubt she prayed for him everday, as did many people we know. My mom herself has had multiple sclerosis for more than ten years, and has seen her own health deteriorate over that time span. No doubt she and many other people have been praying for her to get better. My brother was born without a hand and another unfortanute genetic defect which have led to a number of psychological issues, including a lack of faith in God. My mom has had to watch him suffer his whole life, now over twenty years. How she still has faith is a mystery to me.

It has become a Christian cliche for people to say that God just wants a relationship with us. But honestly, how can you have a relationship with someone who lets your innocent, 5 year old child die of some awful disease? How can that person say God is an all powerful, loving God? Many Christians would say it would be worth it, if it brought others to Christ, that it's all part of a bigger plan. I think God clearly answers this common belief in Jeremiah 29:11, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." God wants us well.

Surely God can use any situation, even illness, for good, but He does not will the bad to make the good. So if God wants us well, then why does it seem like he only heals some people, even nonbelievers? I think it's not because of God picking and choosing, it's because of us. I'm not saying we can earn it, but we don't know how to receive it. God has already provided healing by Jesus' sacrifice, "But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed" (Isaiah 53:5).

So how can we receive healing? We cannot beg God for healing, because what can He do with prayers He provided the answer to 2,000 years ago on the cross? It would be like a sick child begging his parents to heal him, obviously the parents want healing for their child. That is precisely how I came about this thread. It said that it often seems like when we pray for healing, the condition gets worse. I just recently had the revelation that this is so because Satan uses our wrong prayers against us. If we are still praying for healing, than we are acting as if we are still sick, when the Bible tells us we ARE HEALED already. But we can't act accordingly to this Bible truth if we pray in opposition to it.

I don't know how else to make sense of God if what I said above is not true. If you do, please tell me. Most of these revelations came through the free teaching I found at www.awmi.net. I would suggest anyone reading this look at the healing section on the site, listen to "spirit, soul, and body" and "sharper than a double edged sword" and dive into what this man is teaching, because it has answered many of my questions and what he preaches is truth, because it makes sense and doesn't force you to settle with "it's God's will" or "who are we to question". I am sure that when I am finished learning all there is through these teachings and the Bible, that I will know how to heal those I love, just as the disciples and New Testament church leaders did, and just as Jesus Himself has called us to do. And I hope the same for you as well.

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grandmafay
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Healing is very different from curing. My husband died from cancer, but he was healed. Our prayers are answered. Sometimes we just don't like or understand those answers. I know my husband had peace of mind. He had a strong faith, and that helped him through his 6 year battle with cancer. We had many praying for us, and we felt and were uplifted by those prayers. My faith and support from our friends, family, and church family are what help me move forward alone. God is with me, and I know I am loved. Fay

teenadee
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therefore, I am no longer praying for my mom to get better. I do believe God answered my mom's prayers and took away her pain and suffering. I am deeply devastated. Many around me feel that what is written in the bible and what is said about God is just to help the living cope with the death. I don't think this is true, I think our soul's carry on and I only pray now that my mom comes into my dreams every day. So far I have seen her 4 times. In the 2 times, my mom is in the hospital as she was before she died, telling me that she is going to die and I am saying no no no... The 3rd time she is in my bath tub where I find her dead BUT yesterday I cannot remember exactly but I woke up at midnight to her I know and she was telling me not in words but I guess in a look that she is almost in heaven. This I have to believe. My mom meant the world to me, she devoted her entire life to me, my sister, my dad and her grand kids. I will never ever be the same without my momma.

mamadawg
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I am sorry for your loss. But I am sure in some way you have some peace in knowing she is no longer suffering and in such severe pain. As much as we love special people in our lives it is a far less selfish thing we do sometimes by letting them go. Where she is now she will be able to come to you as the self she was instead of the person this awful disease made her. I honestly believe that. I had an uncle who was diagnosed with lung cancer which had spread to his bones back in 1993 this was right after I moved to live in Germany. I never saw him again alive. But in March 1994, before I learned of his death he came to me in a dream and, it may would crazy, but we were flying. We soared over mountains and towards the most beautiful horizon I have ever seen. I can still see this dream to this day. It was the ost peaceful feeling I have ever experienced. It was not until I phone home the following week that I learned that he and indeed passed. So please have some peace in knowing that your mother is truly in a wondmerous place looking over you at all times.

teenadee
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your words were very helpful and although at times I get this rush of anxiety, there are times I believe my momma has found her peace from all the poking of needles, the drugs that made her sick to her stomach every minute and the awful stabbing pain from the bone cancer. I miss her so much but you are right, it is less selfish letting her go and that is why on her death bed, I whispered, it is ok to leave to go with God. I am sorry for your uncle as well and hope for my mom to take me on a similar experience.

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grandmafay
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I am so sorry. I know that even though we tell ourselves that they are now at peace, it hurts. We miss them. I am glad you have your faith. I believe that God has a plan for all of us. My husband often spoke of going home to God. At times I feel my husband near me, and he is at peace. I'm sure your mother is as well. Hugs and prayers, Fay

teenadee
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Just not fair the short time we have on this earth.

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