Sep 17, 2011 - 10:38 pm
As many of you know, today was the NOCC (National Ovarian Cancer Coalition) 5K in my area (Dallas/Ft Worth), to raise money for research and awareness for OC.
I joined NOCC in early 2010, at the urging of my doctor, who was (and may still be, I'm not sure) on the Board. I walked the full 3.5 miles last year in the rain, even though I was still in treatment. Plus helped plan/work the event.
This year, because of my hernia surgery, I could not do as much, but when someone suggested an OC quilt - one square for each survivor or teal angel - I jumped at the chance. Mary K helped me out with some of the squares, and she did the beautiful embroidery on all of them. We did 17 squares, all together. The quilt required 30 squares, and they only got 39 donated, so if you do the math, it's pretty obvious that without our contribution (and hard work) there would not have been a quilt to raffle off.
First off, I asked them if they would pre-sell tickets. They not only said "No' to that, but decided that you had to be present to win. Okay....their party, their rules, though I did not understand (and still don't) why they would turn down an opportunity for extra money.
Someone (Nancy M, I think) also suggested that having a nice photo of the quilt made into a poster, and duplicated at Kinko's might raise another pile of cash. For some reason, that idea was nixed, too.
Fast forward to today. I go straight away to the tent where the quilt is and (A) ask if they would hold it up so I could take pictures. No problem. And (B), I then buy $40 worth of raffle tickets. There were two quilts, but the other was just teal ribbons - no individual names, etc. I said THREE TIMES, "I just want to buy tickets for THIS QUILT," and I patted "our" quilt. They sold me 10 blue tickets. The other tickets were red.
When they drew the "winning" ticket, I knew immediately it wasn't one of my numbers. BUT...my husband noticed that the ticket was RED. I RAN over to the tent where the quilt people were and practically yelled, "They did the drawing wrong! You have to make them do it over!" Long story short, they refused. "Mistakes happen," they said. The (paid) staff were there and one had the NERVE to ask me if I had donated the squares only because I hoped to win the quilt.
The real kicker was that a similar mistake was made earlier. A man who had the wrong number came forward and picked up the prize, then walked away. After the true winner approached the stage and identified herself as such, they called the man back and gave the prize to the rightful winner.
I will NEVER do a single thing to support the NOCC again. I am in the process of contacting all their sponsors, as well. I did not want extra consideration for my efforts - only a level playing field. I wanted the same chance as anyone else who paid their money to win the quilt. But I got zero chance, and I feel cheated, used, and discarded.
I found the "winner" of the quilt and offered to buy it from her, and to make a memorial wall hanging for Jenny (her friend who also had a square on the quilt). She said she would talk it over with her "group" and call me. Of course, she didn't, even though the last words she said to me were, "I promise I'll call you; I'm an honest person."
I apologize for the rant. I just feel so betrayed right now.