Aug 02, 2011 - 12:05 pm
My husband lost his father in the mid 90's after a hard battle with cancer. He lost his mother about 3 years ago after a long and painful battle with cancer, this time he was the one who took care of her, by himself, we were not together yet. He also lost his brother when he was 14 (his brother was older). I was told yesterday that the polyps I had removed were cancerous and that I need to see an oncologist and decide what the next steps are.
I have NO idea how to tell him! I have no desire for him to go through this again, I can't imagine (and don't want to) causing him that kind of pain again. I'm also terrified that he will decide that he CAN'T go through it again and will decide its best to separate from me.
I really appreciate any advice from anyone who has been through this and has any suggestions on how (or even IF) I tell him...
Also I have 2 children aged 7 & 9, my 9 yo has childhood schizophrenia and is terrified of losing me, suffers from severe separation anxiety. I don't know how or if I should explain it to them either....
I am totally lost here, I feel like the rug I have been standing on has been yanked out from underneath me again.
btw I am a 32 yo female (not that that matters)
I really really appreciate and am open to any advice anyone has for me... thanks again