Aug 02, 2011 - 10:21 am
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site and have actually never posted anything online before, I am a newly single 42yr old mother of 4 boys and my mom who is 58 went into remission from breast cancer over 2yrs ago, 6 months ago we found out she has metastic bone cancer (leg,groin and rib) and now 3 weeks ago was diagnosed with metastic brain cancer, she has chosen chemo and within those 3 weeks she is no longer walking on her own, can not drive and seems confused at times. It is just me and my sister here in Georgia with her, all my other relatives are up north, I work full time to support my kids, and I am stressing out, me and my sister have no idea what we are doing, everyone says do this and do that and get a power of attorney quick but how do we do these things? We have never been close with out mother, she was always mean and nasty to us even as children and now she needs our help, we have been trying but I'm physically, emotionally and mentally exhausted after just a week of having to get her to her doctors appointments, getting her to the toilet, getting her food, getting my sons to carry her upstairs so I can put her in the shower and after all that going home at 2 in the morning so I can get up and 5a.m. to go to work all day. I'M EXHAUSTED!! I am angry one minute (because she is still mean and nasty although she can't do anything for herself), crying the next minute because my mother is suffering and dying, and laughing with friends the next, I am a complete mess! Her physical therapist told me and my sister that she is deteriorating because of the chemo and to stop it, is this true? Does anyone know? Her doctor told her last week that her liver is almost completely destroyed, what do we do?! Please help, any advice, she lives alone, my sister is an hour away, I am at work all day so I go over for a couple hours a day only, please help, I'm freaking out! Thanks for listening.