Mum given up.

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iskandar05
iskandar05 Member Posts: 15 Member
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Unfortunately, my mum has given up on chemo treatments. She even refused to my idea of going for a second option treatment ):

This just breaks my heart. But I guess I have to respect her decision ):

Now, I think I'll just go with traditional medicines to help her ):

THANKS A LOT to those who replied and cared for me when I first posted, "Mum diagnosed with coloretal cancer Stage IV and given 3 months to live." You guys really showed me that life is about fighting and never give up.

THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH AND I PRAY FOR THOSE WITH CANCER TO RECOVER!

Iskandar (:

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  • daBeachBum
    daBeachBum Member Posts: 164
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    So sorry Iskandar
    Ouch. That is very sad news. I am so sorry for what your mom and you and going through.

    Ultimately the decision has to be hers, but I fear that pain, discouragement and depression might be playing into this for her. I would urge you to see if she might talk to a counselor at least before she goes down this road. I would love to see her get another doctor's opinion, as was the advice of a lot of people on your previous thread.

    I am always leery of expiration dates for people. As you have seen here, many people with dire diagnoses have gone on to lead productive lives. I caught my stage 4 cancer very late in the game, and was just about out the door. Luckily, I responded very well to the chemo and now have a fairly normal life.

    Whatever decision your mom comes to. I wish you both the best and I send loving and healing thoughts to you both.

    Ray
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
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    Iskandar
    She may change her mind, you never know. There certainly is nothing wrong with trying a more holistic approach at all. It's helped many on this site. As hard as it can be (for you and others) I believe that one needs to respect the wishes of those with illnesses.
    -phil
  • iskandar05
    iskandar05 Member Posts: 15 Member
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    PhillieG said:

    Iskandar
    She may change her mind, you never know. There certainly is nothing wrong with trying a more holistic approach at all. It's helped many on this site. As hard as it can be (for you and others) I believe that one needs to respect the wishes of those with illnesses.
    -phil

    i was hoping my aunt could
    i was hoping my aunt could change her mind. i hate seeing that she does nothing but just sits at home. your story is very inspiring, really. could tell me more on your condition and how you managed to fight it for 7 years?
  • iskandar05
    iskandar05 Member Posts: 15 Member
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    daBeachBum said:

    So sorry Iskandar
    Ouch. That is very sad news. I am so sorry for what your mom and you and going through.

    Ultimately the decision has to be hers, but I fear that pain, discouragement and depression might be playing into this for her. I would urge you to see if she might talk to a counselor at least before she goes down this road. I would love to see her get another doctor's opinion, as was the advice of a lot of people on your previous thread.

    I am always leery of expiration dates for people. As you have seen here, many people with dire diagnoses have gone on to lead productive lives. I caught my stage 4 cancer very late in the game, and was just about out the door. Luckily, I responded very well to the chemo and now have a fairly normal life.

    Whatever decision your mom comes to. I wish you both the best and I send loving and healing thoughts to you both.

    Ray

    she said to me she doesnt
    she said to me she doesnt want to trouble anyone anymore. right from the hospital bills to accompanying her to her chemo treatments. but today, ive made a pact with my aunt to bring her over to a hospital specialized in colon cancer this 30th july. we'll see it goes..

    thank you so much for your kind wishes (;

    Iskandar
  • PhillieG
    PhillieG Member Posts: 4,866 Member
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    iskandar05 said:

    i was hoping my aunt could
    i was hoping my aunt could change her mind. i hate seeing that she does nothing but just sits at home. your story is very inspiring, really. could tell me more on your condition and how you managed to fight it for 7 years?

    Parents!
    They can be very frustrating at times. They could be on fire and they'll say "I don't want to bother anyone".
    I fought it because that's how I am. At the time of my diagnosis my kids were 10 and 4. WAY too early for me to check out. That was much of my inspiration. I feel that I've been very lucky with the care that I've gotten and the choices I've made too. There's more on my "About Me" page if you'd like to check it out.
    Cancer is a strange beast, what works on one person may (or may not) work on another person.
    Is your Mum open to talking to a therapist at all? That has been a big help to me, there's a lot of baggage that comes with a cancer diagnosis. It's nice to have a place to unload some of it. This site has been very helpful for me too. Many people offer such wonderful support and I also get a lot out of sharing my experience with others. One woman, Jana, was very inspirational for me when I first got on board. Unfortunately she lost her battle a few years ago.
    -phil
  • christinecarl
    christinecarl Member Posts: 543 Member
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    :(
    I am sorry, I remember clearly when my mom said those words to me. I know she fought even longer because I needed her to and I could not let her go. We all have our own end point that is for sure. One day no pain, only peace. {{hugs}}
  • luvmum
    luvmum Member Posts: 457 Member
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    Dear Iskandar
    I hope your mum will change her mind or you will find another solution for her. I know you must be very upset and heart breaking now. I share the same feeling with you.

    Best wishes to you and your mum! Stay strong!
    Hugs Dora

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