Jul 24, 2011 - 1:21 am
Hello - I have been around before. My wife has lung cancer, mets to brain and cancer in csf that is not going away. She has been in a rehab facility since April and had been back to the hopital several times for infections that cause her to have confusion. She still wants to receive her chemo treatments. However, she has not had a treatment in almost 3 weeks and was just released from the hospital recovering from c. diff and a uti.
She can barely walk. She had to get medical transport to the cancer center for hydration because I was afraid I physically could not do it. Yesterday she hardly ate anything. Today she ate but very little. Just taking a shower wiped her out. She was wearing the same hospital gown when I saw her this morning. I told the rehab center thet they have to insist that she changes her clothes. She knew who I was but took a long time to say my name. the same with our 3 year old's photo.
I can see that she is exhausted. She wants to live. I don't know if she will even be able to tolerate another interthecal chemo. When do I know it's time to make the decision to transition to hospice? I fear that she will want to continue chemo forever. Her quality of life has been bad since February.
any advice? I told her that if she wants to visit home she has to eat and move and get stronger.
Thanks for reading and letting me vent. Everyone on this site has been wonderful. love and peace to all.