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Worried Sick About My Dad Aged 65 (Ireland)

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My Dad is 65 and has had a Radical Prostatectomy 10 yrs ago. He recently went this his Doctor (New young doctor) as his other Doctor has retired about 1 yr or 2 years ago and his PSA was checked and came back as 4.5 and obviously he was worried sick, retested him and again it came back the same he also had rectal examination and the Doctor sent him to St Vincents Hospital (Dublin 2 Hrs away) which was 2 days ago on Wednesday 1st June 2011. The specialist checked him by Rectal examination and also felt something what I dont know but is now sending him for an MRI scan, I have cried my eyes out fearing the worst and thinking I will lose him and I have told Mam that we need to be strong that he will be fine but please can someone answer? I hope the letter arrives soon as to when the MRI scan is but he is so worried himself as he thought 10 years ago it was all removed so why now and how to which when you search on the internet it shows some tissue remains, could their be cancer cells or could their just be something producing this PSA level could the MRI scan come back and show all clear or am I to expect it to show some form of cancer? Dad is fearing it has spread to other organs etc

The specialist said we can do radiation treatment for 3 months and you will be fine and that will give you 10 years etc, but we wont know much until he is sent for the MRI scan and I will be going up with him for support etc, I am just so worried I am 30yrs of age and moving out of home soon that is my plan but now I am thinking should I stay will he be ok should I stay here for Mams sake and help her as will this be a difficult road ahead if he does get the radiation treatment as I have read this tiredness builds up on you and even that itself will upset me so much if I have moved out of home and to come back and see him in bed all the time and feeling weak of course I dont mind once they can eradicate this and make him better and live for the next 10 20 yrs or how ever long. Each person loves their Dad and each Dad is special to people and if I was to write up how much I love him and how much he has done for me and helped me and everything I would be hear all night I just hope and pray I am just off to sleep now as I finish this it is now 3.15am that he will be al-right, I did read about BHP or something which means it could be benign or something that their is just tissue growing that can increase PSA levels as to how accurate that information is on the internet I dont know,

Please if anyone can reply, Kongo etc I have seen your posts and its people like you that can help so many people,

Please reply anyone if you can,

Gary.

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VascodaGama
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Hi Gary

That are wonderful news about your dad’s progress. I believe that by now he has recuperated fully and both your parents are enjoying life as before.
I am very glad to know that you are happy and enjoying your life too. I wonder about your little “princess”. Have you given a though in visiting the Algarve? I will meet you at Faro airport.

Regarding myself, I am doing fine in this period free from treatments and free from the side effects. So far I managed to be away from the drugs since November of 2011. The bandit is there but I think that I am on the command of my case. Hopefully I will be in this status for an additional couple of years before starting the hormonal therapy again.

Now I think it right to celebrate your good news with a Guinness Draught.
Let’s raise our glasses to celebrate the Toast.

Hip hip Hooray……. LaughingSmileCool

VG

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It is just so good to hear from you also VG and so glad you are doing good,

I would LOVE to visit the Algarve it sounds and looks amazing from what I have seen on the pictures. I forget about "My little Princess" what did I say again as I cannot remember and although I am very young I have an awful memory for things like that :)

Christmas is just around the corner so of course I will be celebrating and I will think of you to and celebrate your recovery to,

 

Best wishes,

Gary.

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Gary

You didn’t say much about your little “princess” and that is why I am curious. At one time you commented about your plan for acquiring a house and moving in (with your princess/partner). You were very concerned in leaving your parents alone.
I believe you managed the facts well and now are enjoying the circumstances.

Cancer affects everybody in a family. Your fathers’ case hit you hard too. Moreover, you should know that you and your brother are also at risk of contracting the disease, as much as my son. You will have to start your PSA screening at the age of 40, once every other year. By doing so, it does not mean that you will get prostate cancer but you need to do the test as a preventive measure. Please read this link regarding the risks factor;
http://www.cancerresearchuk.org/cancer-info/cancerstats/types/prostate/riskfactors/ 

I thing we will meet one day in the future here or there. I also think your country is amazing with extraordinary sceneries worth visiting in person. Have you seen the movies Leap Year or Ryan’s Daughter?

Best wishes.

VG  Wink

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Hi there VG and everyone,

I just wanted to say first of all I hope you are all well and I thought I replied to this comment - I am still waiting to move in with my partner (male) I know it will happen its just a matter of when at this stage LOL - If you want to place your bets on the year :) we are going out over 7 years now - Just an update regarding Dad he is doing brilliant - PSA still 0.5 or something to that affect but he is over the moon we all are. I have just posted a new thread and it is regarding my Mum - she had a cataract and wanted to have it removed as she had ti wait until it ripened but wanted it done under general anestetic so they done testing to make sure she is well enough - one of the tests was a CT scan - it showed a tiny mass or spot which was a concern and they said they would monitor it - My Mum then had digestive problems and her stools were loose and any food was causing cramps etc - she had Colonoscopy and all was fine and that Doctor told her after Mam mentioned she was having a General for her eye surgery not to dream of having that as it is so serious putting your body under that stress that a local is the way to go and she done it and had it done under local and can see now ans she is over the moon. The mass was always my concern and they repeated the CT scan and it had changed a small bit so a Needle Biopsy was performed and we got the news Sept 30th 2015 that it was a Cancerious Tumor but a very slow growing one which I think is good news even though its not good news. A PET scan has been ordered so hopefully that will be done soon and the next thing is surgery I hope and that will remove the mass. She has been coughing just her usual smokers cough where she brings up phelgm and maybe once or 4 times there was a tiny bit of blood but it is only 8 days since she had the needle biopsy and the Doctor told her to expect this so I hope this is normal to what is happening. My post which I posted in the Lung Forum is just there so I can get a bit of guidance and support like what you have offered me regarding my Dad as I still live at home and I want her to see me fly the nest and live with my partner and for us to spend allot of Chrismas's together - she is only 68 years of age and I have been reading and I think it has been caught at the early stage and only for her insisting on a general anestetic for her to be tested with the CT scanner we would never of known so please god this is for her own good and she will be ok. I am extremly worried and frightened I would be lying if I said I wasnt - but she is giving up smoking soon as she knows herself she will need to - the operation to remove it after googling it I have seen it will not be pleasant but some people and I have a good feeling about my Mam are cured once it has been removed - this is what I am praying. I am praying the PET scan shows it is only in the tumor area and not gone anywhere else which would be a huge relief to me and my Dad as it is not easy for him either but as a family I told her we will be behind you 100% and you have nothing to worry about.

I just wanted to post this just so you know I am fine and Dad but to keep Mam in your prayers please,

Thank you so much.

Gary. 

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Gary

I am pleased to know about your dad’s continued remission. Soon it will be 5 years since you first announced of his PCa recurrence. My best wishes for his continuing life without PCa worries.

Regarding your mother’s case I wonder if they have identified the type of cancer. The mass they found in lung could be lung cancer or metastases from a cancer from other organ (named secondary lung cancer).

I have studied a lot about prostate cancer but do not know much about other types. In any case my friend was caught with secondary lung cancer (metastatic prostate cancer in lung) and did surgery to remove the mass last April. The operation was easy (three days in the hospital) and he is well now.
The diagnosis procedure was similar to your mother’s case. They found about the mass via a CT scan which was followed with a PET and a CEA (carcinoembryonic antigen) blood test, leading to a biopsy that confirmed the type of cancer. After dissecting the tumour mass his PSA went down to a level 0f 0.1 indicating success.

You have not commented on the pathologist’s details regarding the type of cancer but I hope that this is a non aggressive form. The carcinoembryonic antigen (CEA) test can identify metastases from other cancers like colon and rectal. It will also serve as a marker to verify success post surgery in lung cancer patients, similarly to the PSA in prostate cancer patients. Normal results for smokers are in the range of CEA=0 to 5 mcg/L or ng/ml.

Your mum’s PET exam will also detect metastasis in other closer places such as in the lymph nodes, liver and bones in the thorax region. Hopefully they find nothing extra and that the treatment will be most successful.

I hope you get more details from the board of lung cancer. Hope for the best.

Thanks for “satisfying” my curiosity about the issue with your partner.

Best wishes.

VGama

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