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Beckymarie
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It will be a year June 14 that my Terry left this world. It has been very hard pushing forward, working, taking care of the house, dealing with finances. As difficult as it has been,I can definitely see progress. I did something I have never done before...went to the movies alone. Saw the Bridesmaids, which was pretty funny. I guess this is my new normal.I will think of him always, always, but know life is very different now and I have to move forward. I know we are all in the same boat. Peace of all.
Becky

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karenbeth
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I'm glad to know that you can see progress and that there is some light at the end of what seems like an endless tunnel.
Peace and hugs to you.
Karen

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grandmafay
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Stepping outside of our comfort zones and doing new things alone is progress. We are moving forward. Fay

Beckymarie
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Yes, definitely moving forward...wish I could do it a little faster. Would like to see my old self again. Not only do I miss my Terry, I miss myself. Thanks Karen and Fay.

neverquit
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Joined: Oct 2010

Becky, Thanks for reminding me to look back occasionally from where I started instead of always just looking ahead. I guess the progress is slow, literally baby steps, but it was good to reflect and see that progress has been made. And April made me remember my favorite mantra that I have not been heard to say for a long time. Maybe sometime in the near future, I will be able to say it again. Thanks everyone. Dina

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mswijiknyc
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Joined: Oct 2010

it ain't easy, and if it's easy it ain't worth it.

Give yourself credit and time. It will happen, all in good time.

Loves,
April

Looking4Answers
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Joined: Jan 2010

Husband passed away a month ago. I have a serious case of "The stupids". A little better this week. I think going back to work has helped. At least my boss has been kind enough not to pay too much attention to my lack of multi-tasking skills. I just put one task on my desk at a time. Everything else gets ignored.

Not sure what to do with the insomnia issue.

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mswijiknyc
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Joined: Oct 2010

the strong choose to continue when the storm is at it's darkest. The weak run and hide. You are not weak, just extremely tired. Been 3 months and I'm still a scatter brain. As for insomnia, seriously, go get yourself checked out.

Today is today and tomorrow is tomorrow. Don't go borrowing tomorrow's troubles. Today has just enough.

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karenbeth
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Joined: Sep 2010

I know what you mean--I have a case of those too. The other morning I was in such a fog I walked right in front of a bicyclist and didn't hear her yelling at me to get out of the way. Almost got knocked down. It was wake up call that I need to take good care of myself. We all do.

Karen

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grandmafay
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Joined: Aug 2009

I have fibromyalgia and have what is referred to as fibro fog with that at times, but after my husband died it got much worse. Reading one of the books about grief, I ran across the term "fog of grief." It made me feel better just to know the term existed. That meant that I wasn't alone in feeling it. I don't know if misery really loves company or not, but it's always nice to know you're not alone. Fay

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