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Ranay
Ranay Member Posts: 3
2yrs ago a lump the size of a golf was found because of my family history they removed 1/2 my breast now I have a bigger lump and have been experince some pains and numbness in my arm on the same side I am so scared to go to the doctors.
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  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
    Please go asap. You don't
    Please go asap. You don't know if the lump is cancerous (it could be scar tissue or something else). But you must have this checked. Do not let fear paralyze you into deteriorating health. You are in my prayers.
  • butterflylvr
    butterflylvr Member Posts: 944

    Please go asap. You don't
    Please go asap. You don't know if the lump is cancerous (it could be scar tissue or something else). But you must have this checked. Do not let fear paralyze you into deteriorating health. You are in my prayers.

    Please, please, please go
    Please, please, please go and get that checked out. The fact that you are in pain from it is not a good thing. My lump caused me pain in my chest. We will all be here for you sending our prayers. Please make that appointment ASAP and keep us posted on how you are doing.

    Hugs and prayers,
    Lorrie
  • Ranay
    Ranay Member Posts: 3

    Please, please, please go
    Please, please, please go and get that checked out. The fact that you are in pain from it is not a good thing. My lump caused me pain in my chest. We will all be here for you sending our prayers. Please make that appointment ASAP and keep us posted on how you are doing.

    Hugs and prayers,
    Lorrie

    Thank You
    It just scares me cause every female family member has passed due to some type of cancer. Recently I did a family search for my 2 aunts to find out both passed at around the same age as me(45). I seen what my mom & grandmom went throught. It makes me feel like if it is & I know and my family know then they will force me into the same as what they went through. Doctors & Doctors & treatment sickk pain. I don't want to go through that .
  • dyaneb123
    dyaneb123 Member Posts: 950
    Ranay said:

    Thank You
    It just scares me cause every female family member has passed due to some type of cancer. Recently I did a family search for my 2 aunts to find out both passed at around the same age as me(45). I seen what my mom & grandmom went throught. It makes me feel like if it is & I know and my family know then they will force me into the same as what they went through. Doctors & Doctors & treatment sickk pain. I don't want to go through that .

    Ranay
    You know that treatments have improved significantly since our mothers or aunts were diagonosed. I know the idea of facing it all again is terrifying but don't stick your head in the sand. The sooner you know what it is, the sooner you can get it treated.
    Dee
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    dyaneb123 said:

    Ranay
    You know that treatments have improved significantly since our mothers or aunts were diagonosed. I know the idea of facing it all again is terrifying but don't stick your head in the sand. The sooner you know what it is, the sooner you can get it treated.
    Dee

    Ranay --- Just my 2 cents, and then some
    This is you choice, your call, your life. However, if you have any children that you wish or desire to watch grow into adulthood, you may want to get your head out of the clouds, and make a call for a mam mo .. asap or ultra sound.

    You're correct in stating that it is a difficult road of appointments, hours of endless waiting, anxious waiting for test results, loss of all hair both scalp and body, chemo infusions that last for what seems like days, MRI, CAT Scans, General Surgeon's, Breast Cancer Specialist and Oncologist to research and select .. However ... it beats DYING at age 45 or 46.

    Again, it is your body .. and your decision -- Please take to heart many of us here .. have walked this journey before you, and it is doable.

    I also think that by you finding us here on ACS, you want help, you want to fight - otherwise, you would of not posted. You are scared, and we all understand this .. having been there ourselves.

    Strength, Courage and Hope.

    Vicki Sam
  • MAJW
    MAJW Member Posts: 2,510 Member
    VickiSam said:

    Ranay --- Just my 2 cents, and then some
    This is you choice, your call, your life. However, if you have any children that you wish or desire to watch grow into adulthood, you may want to get your head out of the clouds, and make a call for a mam mo .. asap or ultra sound.

    You're correct in stating that it is a difficult road of appointments, hours of endless waiting, anxious waiting for test results, loss of all hair both scalp and body, chemo infusions that last for what seems like days, MRI, CAT Scans, General Surgeon's, Breast Cancer Specialist and Oncologist to research and select .. However ... it beats DYING at age 45 or 46.

    Again, it is your body .. and your decision -- Please take to heart many of us here .. have walked this journey before you, and it is doable.

    I also think that by you finding us here on ACS, you want help, you want to fight - otherwise, you would of not posted. You are scared, and we all understand this .. having been there ourselves.

    Strength, Courage and Hope.

    Vicki Sam

    Vicki...


    Vicki said it all and well said!

    Your choice....lofe is full of choices....and this one, only you can make....you didn't say if the lump you had before was breast cancer..what's your story...?

    Personally, I chose to fight for my life...for myself and my family....I owe them that much! Fighting breast cancer, or any cancer, is no day at the beach but it's well worth it...And very doable...

    Again, it's your choice but I think we'd all like to kmow more...
  • shy violet
    shy violet Member Posts: 167
    Sorry to Hear
    Ranay, Sorry to hear that your family has endured so much from cancer. Very sad. I hope you don't mind but I was wondering if you know if your aunts or other relatives were members of CSN while they were going through their journey? So many wonderful people join our site, but sometimes we lose touch with them. Take care.
  • jendrey
    jendrey Member Posts: 377

    Sorry to Hear
    Ranay, Sorry to hear that your family has endured so much from cancer. Very sad. I hope you don't mind but I was wondering if you know if your aunts or other relatives were members of CSN while they were going through their journey? So many wonderful people join our site, but sometimes we lose touch with them. Take care.

    ...
    Ranay, we totally get it..nobody WANTS to embark on this journey. Please don't sell yourself short by already deciding you have the same fate as your family members that have passed.

    There are so many new technologies out there now that may not have been available to them at the time. Things that you could benefit from. I'm sure they would want you to at least try. It truly is the not knowing that is the biggest fear.

    How about a compromise of sorts...go to your local Emergency Room next time you have pain, they'll find out what's where and then from there you can then determine your next step.
    The E.R. will likely give you a referral which can start you on a path where you're a least a little bit more in control of your health.

    There is no worse feeling than when you don't know what you're up against and possibly worse yet is when you have no control over it either.

    Please let us know how you do. We care and we're here for you, we are your sisters in pink!
  • Lynn Smith
    Lynn Smith Member Posts: 1,264 Member

    Sorry to Hear
    Ranay, Sorry to hear that your family has endured so much from cancer. Very sad. I hope you don't mind but I was wondering if you know if your aunts or other relatives were members of CSN while they were going through their journey? So many wonderful people join our site, but sometimes we lose touch with them. Take care.

    Call soon
    Call your doctor soon.Tell the office another larger tumor has developed. They should waste no time getting you in.Like somone else I wonder if your first tumor was cancerous????Or you are worried with a family history.

    My mom was a 60 year survivor and my niece is a 6 year survivor.I am going on 2 years in Aug.

    My cancerous tumor was found with a needle biopsy.Then a couple weeks later just as they were prepping me for surgery(lumpectomy) another tumor was found.That fast.BUT the second tumor was benign.AND then the 2nd surgery(checking margins) 2 weeks later I found a 3rd tumor just a couple days before that surgery.Thankful the 3rd tumor was benign. I know how you must feel.Two tumors found just over 2 weeks was very very upsetting for me. You automatically THINK cancer.

    SEEK medical help soon. Keep us informed.We are all thinking of you.

    Lynn Smith
  • laughs_a_lot
    laughs_a_lot Member Posts: 1,368 Member
    Ranay
    Take a deep breath. You can choose not to check out what is occuring. But if this is the option you choose you will not get any rest from your worries anyway. The only way to lessen the fear is to find out the facts. No one can take this step for you, but we can take the steps WITH you. Why don't we walk together in this?
  • LoveBabyJesus
    LoveBabyJesus Member Posts: 1,679 Member
    We are with you
    I remember saying this word to a friend of mine- and his response I will never forget: "scared? scared of what? you should only be scared of being scared. You take care of it now. Then move on." Though it may sound cold to some, I took it differently. It is so true. Remember you have it in you to fight this. You did it once. Remember this doesn't mean it is what you think it is. It is very important to check with your doctors for peace of mind. And remember you are a fighter and you WILL BE FINE.

    We are here for you. We understand the fear, but please keep your faith and know (and say) you are OK. You are OK. You will be OK.

    Please keep us posted.

    p.s. it is true, it does feel like this entire group of wonderful people are there with you.
  • CypressCynthia
    CypressCynthia Member Posts: 4,014 Member
    Ranay said:

    Thank You
    It just scares me cause every female family member has passed due to some type of cancer. Recently I did a family search for my 2 aunts to find out both passed at around the same age as me(45). I seen what my mom & grandmom went throught. It makes me feel like if it is & I know and my family know then they will force me into the same as what they went through. Doctors & Doctors & treatment sickk pain. I don't want to go through that .

    My family is in a similar
    My family is in a similar fix: I have breast cancer, 2 sisters with breast cancer, brother had thyroid cancer, father and uncle had colorectal cancer, grandmother and 3 great aunts had either breast or colon or both. The take home lesson that we have all learned is to BE VIGILANT. You can't change your genes, but there is much, much more that can be done today--especially if you catch it early.

    Pain management is another issue, but please know that pain can often be managed effectively. There are so many new pain options out there and many reputable pain clinics.
  • Arabrab
    Arabrab Member Posts: 8
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    I am so sorry to hear about the pain and more lumps. All I can say is GO to the doctor. My blood pressure goes up every time I hear the phone. I have gotten so many calls telling me more bad news that I just cringe to hear that RING, But, I do know that you need to do everything you can to find out what's wrong and the sooner the better. I will pray for you to have strength to do what you have to do.
  • Arabrab
    Arabrab Member Posts: 8

    Ranay
    Take a deep breath. You can choose not to check out what is occuring. But if this is the option you choose you will not get any rest from your worries anyway. The only way to lessen the fear is to find out the facts. No one can take this step for you, but we can take the steps WITH you. Why don't we walk together in this?

    Thanks
    I like your comment about taking steps together with each other. I'm with you and everyone else. I will walk my journey surrounded with other brave women. Thank you thank you thank you
  • BioAdoptMom
    BioAdoptMom Member Posts: 358
    Arabrab said:

    GO
    I am so sorry to hear about the pain and more lumps. All I can say is GO to the doctor. My blood pressure goes up every time I hear the phone. I have gotten so many calls telling me more bad news that I just cringe to hear that RING, But, I do know that you need to do everything you can to find out what's wrong and the sooner the better. I will pray for you to have strength to do what you have to do.

    I hope you have called the
    I hope you have called the doctor by now! It may not even be cancer, but you need to get it checked out to be sure. They have come a long way with treatment since your mother and aunt were diagnosed. Make that call if you haven't already! Don't make us all have to come over there and do it for you! (((HUGS))) and prayers!

    Nancy
  • mamolady
    mamolady Member Posts: 796 Member
    Please go to the doctors.
    For one, it could be something besides cancer. Even if it is cancer it could still be early and very treatable. Please get it checked out sooner than later.
    It is a very scary time but don't let the fear keep you from acting.

    Cindy
  • Ranay
    Ranay Member Posts: 3
    VickiSam said:

    Ranay --- Just my 2 cents, and then some
    This is you choice, your call, your life. However, if you have any children that you wish or desire to watch grow into adulthood, you may want to get your head out of the clouds, and make a call for a mam mo .. asap or ultra sound.

    You're correct in stating that it is a difficult road of appointments, hours of endless waiting, anxious waiting for test results, loss of all hair both scalp and body, chemo infusions that last for what seems like days, MRI, CAT Scans, General Surgeon's, Breast Cancer Specialist and Oncologist to research and select .. However ... it beats DYING at age 45 or 46.

    Again, it is your body .. and your decision -- Please take to heart many of us here .. have walked this journey before you, and it is doable.

    I also think that by you finding us here on ACS, you want help, you want to fight - otherwise, you would of not posted. You are scared, and we all understand this .. having been there ourselves.

    Strength, Courage and Hope.

    Vicki Sam

    Thank You for hope
    You all are so right I felt so alone in this I am now sitting in a hospital bed . The pains in the chest got to unbearable since my father pasted at 46 from a heart attack my children insisted I go I have been here 2 day they have ruled out my heart so far 1 more test in the moring. They did find a blood clot in my leg and the pain in my chect they are saying is due to the lump that is quite big so tomorrow after the last test for my heart I will me transfered to a cancer center to start that long road..... thanks so much for all you that have been through or are going through this . Its hard to talk to my family about this so much cause they act like I am going to just fall off the earth I just want things to be normal you know. THANK YOU ALL & GOD BLESS
  • Heatherbelle
    Heatherbelle Member Posts: 1,226 Member
    Ranay said:

    Thank You for hope
    You all are so right I felt so alone in this I am now sitting in a hospital bed . The pains in the chest got to unbearable since my father pasted at 46 from a heart attack my children insisted I go I have been here 2 day they have ruled out my heart so far 1 more test in the moring. They did find a blood clot in my leg and the pain in my chect they are saying is due to the lump that is quite big so tomorrow after the last test for my heart I will me transfered to a cancer center to start that long road..... thanks so much for all you that have been through or are going through this . Its hard to talk to my family about this so much cause they act like I am going to just fall off the earth I just want things to be normal you know. THANK YOU ALL & GOD BLESS

    So if they are transferring
    So if they are transferring you to a cancer center, then, did they biopsy the spot in your chest at the hospital? Please keep us informed on how you're doing.
    *hugs*
    Heather
  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    Ranay said:

    Thank You for hope
    You all are so right I felt so alone in this I am now sitting in a hospital bed . The pains in the chest got to unbearable since my father pasted at 46 from a heart attack my children insisted I go I have been here 2 day they have ruled out my heart so far 1 more test in the moring. They did find a blood clot in my leg and the pain in my chect they are saying is due to the lump that is quite big so tomorrow after the last test for my heart I will me transfered to a cancer center to start that long road..... thanks so much for all you that have been through or are going through this . Its hard to talk to my family about this so much cause they act like I am going to just fall off the earth I just want things to be normal you know. THANK YOU ALL & GOD BLESS

    What type cancer did they
    What type cancer did they find? I had had a biopsy that confirmed IBC and had seen my Surgeon before I was given a referral to the locla ICC - I was never hospitalized to be tranferred from one to the other though. Knowing that will help us help you, as there are differences in TX but someone here is your type and has been through whatever you will be given.
  • MAJW
    MAJW Member Posts: 2,510 Member
    mamolady said:

    Please go to the doctors.
    For one, it could be something besides cancer. Even if it is cancer it could still be early and very treatable. Please get it checked out sooner than later.
    It is a very scary time but don't let the fear keep you from acting.

    Cindy

    So...
    They've done a biopsy? What did it show? They tested your heart but determined it was the lump that is causing pain? Have you been transferred yet? Why is the hospital transferring you? Have you had a mammogram yet? Have you seen a surgeon? what did they do for the blood clot in your leg? Did they put you on a blood thinner?

    We'll be waiting to know what you've found out....