feeling so sad

lizzie17
lizzie17 Member Posts: 548
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I reconnected with my half brother just a few months ago. I actually had only met him a few times growing up, and he was 14 years older than I. He was a career Navy officer and served our country for most of his life. During visits, I was always in awe of him and respected him so much. The past few months were so wonderful, because we actually talked on the same level, discovered that we shared similar beliefs and philosophies,and laughed a lot. Having lost my/our dad in 1994, I felt connected again to family.

It was if my dad had lived on in him, too.

Thanks for letting me share this.

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  • phoenixrising
    phoenixrising Member Posts: 1,508
    #2
    Oh, that's wonderful!! I'm
    Oh, that's wonderful!! I'm so glad you were able to reconnect with him and had such a great time. I hope you will be able to spend more time with him. Are you sad because he left again?
    hugs
    jan
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    #3
    Thanks for sharing..
    Denise

    Thanks for sharing..

    Denise
  • butterflylvr
    butterflylvr Member Posts: 944
    #4
    disneyfan2008 said:

    Thanks for sharing..
    Denise

    Thanks for sharing..

    Denise

    LIzzy
    First of all {{{Hugs}}},

    Next time you see that brother of yours give him a big hug from all of us and tell him thank you for serving our country. I lost my father (also a military man) back in 2000 but I do have two brothers whom I am very close to, to help fill that male void. I am happy you and your brother are reconnected and pray that you have the rest of your lives to catch up and keep up with each other.

    One thing in my family is us girls are the ones whom push for family get-togethers and are always hosting the holiday parties. So if your brother doesn't seem to be reaching out to you as much as you would like, it's not that he doesn't care or think about you, it's just the "male" way. It might be up to you my dear to reach out more to him. Of course since he's a military man, he could be the complete opposite of my brothers and take the bull by the horns so to speak.

    Either way I wish you both a bright and happy future together..
    Lorrie
  • Noel
    Noel Member Posts: 3,095 Member
    #5
    butterflylvr said:

    LIzzy
    First of all {{{Hugs}}},

    Next time you see that brother of yours give him a big hug from all of us and tell him thank you for serving our country. I lost my father (also a military man) back in 2000 but I do have two brothers whom I am very close to, to help fill that male void. I am happy you and your brother are reconnected and pray that you have the rest of your lives to catch up and keep up with each other.

    One thing in my family is us girls are the ones whom push for family get-togethers and are always hosting the holiday parties. So if your brother doesn't seem to be reaching out to you as much as you would like, it's not that he doesn't care or think about you, it's just the "male" way. It might be up to you my dear to reach out more to him. Of course since he's a military man, he could be the complete opposite of my brothers and take the bull by the horns so to speak.

    Either way I wish you both a bright and happy future together..
    Lorrie

    Hugs to you and your
    Hugs to you and your brother! Thanks for sharing this with us.
  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    #6
    That is so great to have
    That is so great to have been able to get with your Brother and establish such a rewarding relationship after all the years.

    I don't understand though how it is sad to have been able to re-connect with him on a firm foundation. A little bittersweet that your Dad couldn't be with you both but not sad - to me anyway.

    My family is very small (Mom and Dad were only children and I have 1 brother). A several years ago, I happened to find a person (via a website for the USAF Depot that Daddy had been stationed at in France) a person that I had known as a small child. This man had been Daddy's clerk at other stateside bases and then in France. Yes i know - not everybody on line is who they claim to be and I was very careful what I said to him but wasn't a fake - he told me about a happening that I know happened (it involved me getting in trouble in school one day when Daddy was up at the big base that day, being sent to the CO's office to get a spanking, and 'Uncle' Fisher [Daddy's buddy] finding out as I was being walked there and threatening to "horse whip" the CO if he layed a hand on me - that's not something that anyone would have known unless they were legit - not a story anyone could make up - and I definately do remember the incident). It was almost like finding a lost 'Uncle' - we keep in touch for some time via e-mail and then when he lost his sight we talked often on the phone and then I lost him too. Yes it was sad when I lost him too but it was great to have found him. Sorry for rambling but I don't see how connecting in a happy way with those who are 'family' in any way can be a sad thing.

    Susan
  • lizzie17
    lizzie17 Member Posts: 548
    #7
    I am sorry I am a bad writer!!!
    I didn't communicate that my brother died, Easter Sunday.
  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    #8
    lizzie17 said:

    I am sorry I am a bad writer!!!
    I didn't communicate that my brother died, Easter Sunday.

    I am so sorry!
    Now I understand. Obviously you are devastated so it is so understandable! Rejoice in what the 2 of you were able to give to each other and gain from each other. Keep it close in your heart and it is a treasure you can never loose.

    Thoughts and prayers

    Susan
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    #9
    lizzie17 said:

    I am sorry I am a bad writer!!!
    I didn't communicate that my brother died, Easter Sunday.

    Oh my, sweeet Lizzie~ that
    Oh my, sweeet Lizzie~ that puts an entirely different light on things! I too was wondering why you were so sad, and like Rague, I was thinking it was more of a Bittersweet...
    I am glad you connected with your brother; it certainly seems that you two had a real, importantand everlasting bond. That of course, can never be taken from you, and it is those times which will fill your ♥ and give you eventual peace of mind.

    We send you healing thoughts and condolences. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Hugs,
    Chen♥
  • butterflylvr
    butterflylvr Member Posts: 944
    #10
    Rague said:

    I am so sorry!
    Now I understand. Obviously you are devastated so it is so understandable! Rejoice in what the 2 of you were able to give to each other and gain from each other. Keep it close in your heart and it is a treasure you can never loose.

    Thoughts and prayers

    Susan

    OMG
    I am so sorry Lizzie...

    Wow... Lost for words. {{{Hugs}}}
  • Gabe N Abby Mom
    Gabe N Abby Mom Member Posts: 2,413
    #11
    It is sad that you didn't
    It is sad that you didn't have more time together. But it sounds like what you found in each other was very special, I'm sure you will cherish those memories.

    Hugs,

    Linda
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    #12
    Sending heartfelt condolences...
    ... for the loss of your brother. Hoping cherished memories provide comfort.

    Kind regards, Susan
  • lizzie17
    lizzie17 Member Posts: 548
    #13
    chenheart said:

    Oh my, sweeet Lizzie~ that
    Oh my, sweeet Lizzie~ that puts an entirely different light on things! I too was wondering why you were so sad, and like Rague, I was thinking it was more of a Bittersweet...
    I am glad you connected with your brother; it certainly seems that you two had a real, importantand everlasting bond. That of course, can never be taken from you, and it is those times which will fill your ♥ and give you eventual peace of mind.

    We send you healing thoughts and condolences. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Hugs,
    Chen♥

    thank you everyone
    It is my fault to not mention he had died....I feel so selfish, because I feel like I just found him, and now he is gone.

    But thanks for the thoughts that I honestly feel like we do/did/will have an everlasting bond. My cousin told me this morning how overjoyed he was when I first found his number and called him. And from our conversations, I know we are siblings.

    Funny, my cousin wants a reunion of all of us this summer!! Something we haven't done in years.
    All of our parents have passed, but we should stay family.

    Hugs to all of you for your support!
    Carol
  • 24242
    24242 Member Posts: 1,398
    #14
    Amazing
    How wonderful for both of you...

    I have had friends in the past that had nothing to do with certain family members and never thought that they mattered that much to them or their lives. I always try to remind them that life is very short and I would hate to see anything happen to those people before the forgiveness is allowed to flow because once they are gone there is no going back.

    One friend finally went to see her estranged father though she swore she never would and she came to me and thanked me for telling her all i had over the years because it changed everything...
    Tara
  • ms.sunshine
    ms.sunshine Member Posts: 707 Member
    #15
    24242 said:

    Amazing
    How wonderful for both of you...

    I have had friends in the past that had nothing to do with certain family members and never thought that they mattered that much to them or their lives. I always try to remind them that life is very short and I would hate to see anything happen to those people before the forgiveness is allowed to flow because once they are gone there is no going back.

    One friend finally went to see her estranged father though she swore she never would and she came to me and thanked me for telling her all i had over the years because it changed everything...
    Tara

    Truely sorry
    You were blessed to have known him, if only for a little while. Glad you didn't miss out on not ever knowing him.
  • BioAdoptMom
    BioAdoptMom Member Posts: 358
    #16
    ms.sunshine said:

    Truely sorry
    You were blessed to have known him, if only for a little while. Glad you didn't miss out on not ever knowing him.

    I am so sorry Lizzie! My
    I am so sorry Lizzie! My heart goes out to you and so do my prayers, for you and your family.

    Nancy
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    #17
    BioAdoptMom said:

    I am so sorry Lizzie! My
    I am so sorry Lizzie! My heart goes out to you and so do my prayers, for you and your family.

    Nancy

    checking back in
    to see how you are doing?!

    Denise
  • Texasgirl10
    Texasgirl10 Member Posts: 668
    #18
    disneyfan2008 said:

    checking back in
    to see how you are doing?!

    Denise

    I'm so sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss

    Dawne
  • lizzie17
    lizzie17 Member Posts: 548
    #19
    disneyfan2008 said:

    checking back in
    to see how you are doing?!

    Denise

    thanks for checking on me
    The whole experience has made me rethink life a bit, and I want to tell everyone not to miss a moment or opportunity with someone you care about, or love. I wish I could have asked him more questions about our family, and I wish my parents were here to help answer them.

    But, my belief, is that he is with them now.

    Oh, cause of death---heart attack.

    I appreciate you asking.

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