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Frank passed this morning...

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karenbeth
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...at around 5:25am. His breathing had been steady all night. I suddenly woke up and heard silence. At the same time the aide got up and looked at him, then called my name, and said he is going, talk to him now. I didn't get to see his last breath but I told him I loved hm and that we would always be together in spirit. He went just like that; no struggling, just peacefully.

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UKLady
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Kind thoughts and prayers from my home to yours

all the best

Lyndsey

march31
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there are no words, please know that you and your family are in my prayers.....kathy

mom_of_2
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My sympathy in your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.

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luz del lago
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"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end." Seneca

Dear one,

My deepest sympathies for your great loss. I pray that you are surrounded with care, love and compassion at this time.

Know that my heart is with you in spirit. Take care.

Lucy

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lovingwifedeb
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Karen,

Be gentle with yourself in the coming days and remember you are not ever alone alone when you walk the halls in the sounds of silence. Thank you for sharing the most difficult journey of your lives together with us.

Honoring Franks memory today in the fight of cancer...

Deb
lovingwife, to Bob stage 4 melanoma

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mswijiknyc
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(((hugs)))

sent with love,
April

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grandmafay
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Words of sympathy are of little help as you try to negotiate the next few days. Just know that I am here and wish you peace. Take care of yourself now. Allow yourself to grieve in your own way and time. Prayers and hugs, Fay

ketziah35
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I am sorry for your loss. You have had so much dedication and love for Frank. I am sure that he knew this in his transition.

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angelsbaby
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i am sorry

michelle

mr steve
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Karen,

Hugs and Prayers

Steve

3Mana
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Karen,
So very sorry to hear about Frank. Even though you knew the time was coming, I'm sure it's not going to be easy for awhile. I'm just glad that he passed peacefully . I'm sure he heard you tell him you loved him. Be strong! Carole

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zinniemay
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Karenbeth, I am so sorry, each time I read a post like yours it rips a peice of my heart out. I know I will not have words to comfort you. I wish I did. I just want you to know how truely sorry for you and your family.
Jennie

ms.sunshine
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May you be surrounded by love, and peace.

lucy07
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I am very sorry for your loss...Be strong and hold on to you memories..Hugs

Noellesmom
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Karenbeth, know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during this time. May you have the peace of knowing Frank is in no pain and that all his needs are being answered by God.

I'm sorry I did not respond before now: my mom passed the same morning. I was with her and holding her when she left this earth.

Hugs.

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DrMary
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I am so sorry for your loss but am so glad you have the comfort of knowing that his passing into the morning light was peaceful. It was a particularly beautiful sunrise here today.

Hugs and more than a few tears,

MTB

neverquit
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Karenbeth, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. You have been there for Frank through this journey and I am sure he knows how much you love him. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Many hugs.

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Tina Blondek
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Hello Karenbeth
I would like to send to you and your family my condolences on your recent loss of Frank. You have all done a wonderful job caregiving for him. May he now rest in peace. May God grant you all the strength you will all need this coming year. Keep us posted on how you are doing.
Hugs...
Tina in Va

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yv1214
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There are no words to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I pray that God gives you the strength and peace.

Hugs,
Yessy

eibod
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So sorry for your loss, pray that you will find comfort in the
days to come. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

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KLScoville
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Karen,

I did not realize that you recently lost your husband. I am sooo sorry for your loss! Thank you for all your replies to in the lung cancer forum.

May God Bless you and your family at this time of sorrow!

~Kelly

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yv1214
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I am just reaching out to check up on you and see how you are holding up.

Yesenia

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karenbeth
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Thanks for reaching out. It's hard, but I'm making it through each day. I cry a little every day but I also try to think of him and smile, as well. It's hard being in my apartment alone, I try to keep myself busy. We also worked at the same company, so sometimes the grief hits me there as well. I have gotten a lot of support from family, friends, and coworkers but at the end of the day I come home alone. Well, I have my two furry friends to keep me company :)

And you? How is your mom, is she still refusing hospice?

Karen

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yv1214
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Crying is normal says the woman who hardly sheds any tears. I sometimes feel like an alien in my own body because of it. Being alone will be hard for some time, see if a friend can stay over or a family member. Just so you have something to look forward to doing that one night. I am not saying that it will be ok, but like you said something to keep you busy or occupied for you not to hurt too much that day/night.

My mother is slowly deteriorating, and she doesn't want to admit that she is sick and we need help. I have the hospice on call, but they call to confirm the nurse and when we don't even realize she calls them back and says that she doesn't need anyone. It is very hard for me and my sister who is finally here with us. She removed herself from school and is going to leave her kids in her fla home so she can be with us and help.

We are going to sit down with her tonight again and see if we can have a conversation to explain how her actions and words are hurting us. If she is going to pass we want it to be as peaceful for her and us as possible. Not that we won't miss her because god knows that we are but we all want to be in harmony together if that makes sense.

Cancer touched me many years ago 16 to be exact my then 22 year old boyfriend died of lung cancer. Sad part was that he didn't smoke so we never found out how it was developed. We didn't live together but he was always at my place hanging out and we went to the same college. After he passed I had mini-meltdowns in the school hall, at the bank where I worked since he picked me up across the street to go to class at night, as well as his parents house.

It was very hard to come to my place, because I always expected him to come at any given time with a movie and popcorn or to study. He wasn't my husband but I thought he was going to be since he gave me a promise ring before he got sick. After he was gone it took me a while to feel semi-whole and I decided to live enough for the both of us. I have traveled and seen all the places that he wanted to go to and see.

I empathasize with you and know that you are in pain and hurting so please reach out if you need to chat. You are not alone, I am here for you!

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