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DrMary
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So, I have to look for a new job - our county is cutting back on education funds and (having entered teaching really late in life) I have too few years as a teacher to not be cut. I might get picked up by another school, but I'm also looking for jobs back in the "real" world (the one in which you only have to work about 10 hours per day as opposed to 12 or more and get paid more to boot) because I don't see our budget getting better next year (and also my daughter really wants to go to her first choice for college next year, so I could use more bucks).

Here's the problem - I am so filled with "I don't care" right now, I'm not trying too hard to get hired by anyone. I just want to scoop up my family and go live on a desert island - some place where you don't need money, cancer is just a zodiac sign, and we can all just rest and eat fruit (and the occasional lobster dinner that arrives by magic).

It's the second star to the left and straight on 'til morning, right?

ketziah35
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Oh I am so right there with you. I am sitting at my desk now looking at the mick letter of resignation that I wrote say take this job and shove it. I would move to New England and get a shack on the beach and I would eat lobsters everyday. I would sleep all night long without having bad dreams or sleep all night period. My family would only be available by letter and my husband would live in the shack next door. I would have a schnauzer and no worries, no illnesses, no cancer, no children of the corn (also known as the people I work with). I need rest n a long term scale and cancer has depleted my funds and vacation time to get it.

D*mn this disease.

mr steve
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Just build a fire in your outdoor fire place to keep warm. put on so jimmy buffett to help get your mind right. and then get up and start the next day feeling blessed for the time that you still have together. Cancer takes alot out of your family, but there is alot that it can't take. Remember that lobster is high in colesterol(sp?)

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DrMary
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children, drunks and caretakers (sometimes). I ate a diet very high in fat (saturated and unsaturated - 2 eggs every morning and tons of olive oil in everything else) to keep my husband company for the last 4 months, trying to put the weight back on him. I flinched when I got my blood results back last week. . . .my triglycerides are lower than they were 5 years ago. So I don't fear the lobster. (But I'm cleaning up the diet now.)

I do cherish every minute both with my kids and with my survivor husband, but I want more of them - and I also want to take a break from having to worry about health and bills and college and house repairs and. . .

Still, I'm going to drag out those Buffett tunes for next week - the kids have school off and the husband will be home from his business trip. Maybe one night of Margaritaville will be enough.

mr steve
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In keeping the weight back up on my wife I gained more weight than she did. and went on fish oil, lipator, blod pressure and anti-depressant... I hope my wife and I can watch NASCAR this weekend, and maybe a movie.

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luv2cut1
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I cannot believe you articulated them so well.

Myka

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luv2cut1
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Well.

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mswijiknyc
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Thought it was just me . . . guess not! When I win that trip to the tropics I'll let you know :)

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DrMary
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A scientist-type friend once said there should be a way to calculate the f__ -it point (futz-it point?). He was in the middle of a course on material properties and so was learning all about freezing points and boiling points and crystallization points and triple points and supercritical points. . . . etc. I think we came up with a formula like:

Time to f-it point = (incentive/aggravation squared) - (1/airfare to Tahiti)

In other words, the lower your incentive or the airfare to Tahiti, and the higher the aggravation, the shorter the time to the f-it point.

Airfares are up and my cash is down, so I'm not likely to really reach the point of f-it yet. But I'm going to start buying lottery tickets again, I think.

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yv1214
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I'm ready to go and live in the jungle. I am tired of being the only one of sound mind. My mom although terminal is still in denial of how far her disease has progressed. My sister isn't and all she does is cry, which just leaves me to pick up the slack.

Although I have an alternative which is our home in the carribbean I think it will be too hard to stay there afterwards.

Yessy

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grandmafay
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Ah, yes, that I just want to run away from home or go on strike moment. Been there! Unfortunately, when we run away many of our problems seem to run with us. We just aren't the f--- it kind of people. It's that sense of responsibility stuff that we can't escape for too long. As hard as it is, there are some rewards. Believe it or not. Sometimes those rewards are hard to see, though. For a little while, just try to let a few things go. Enjoy the sunshine and embrace the time with your kids. Just be sure to use sunblock. Fay

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mswijiknyc
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Sometimes the only way to take a step back is to physically remove yourself from the situation. I didn't run away, I left the problems to try and figure themselves out without me there. I'm writing this with the St. Louis Arch right outside my window - good to be among friends here so I can clear my head. And when I'm done I go back home and take the bull by the horns.

We aren't the "F--- it" kind of people, true. When the breaking point comes you gotta find the best way for you to work it out, whatever it may be.

Be good, Yessy. here if you need :)
April

Noellesmom
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Joined: Aug 2010

I'm going to be an "F--- it" kind of person.

No pain, no gain sounds like a plan to me.

:)

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