First time I've posted on the caregiver site and would like some advice.
My mother has limited sclc which was in remission for 7 months and came back in the same lung. Lately she has been crying constantly and is really depressed because she thought the cancer would go away longer. She now takes chemo for the new cancer. She takes anti-anxiety medicine and anti-depressants but doesn't take the anxiety medicine like she should because she says it makes her too sleepy. When I say something to her about her crying all the time she gets really mad at me. I tell her that it isn't good for her to cry 24/7. The other day we were at chemo and one of the ladies who works there told her it was alright for her to cry like that. To say the least I didn't appreciate her advice. This morning we had an argument because she was crying again at breakfast. When I said something about it she said that she was tired of me saying anything to her and could not understand why I would say it was bad when the lady at the cancer center said it was okay. Then she told me that I did not understand how it felt to have cancer. I told her she didn't understand how it was on me either. I feel really bad about arguing with her, but I am the only one who takes care of her with no help from any of my family except my uncle. I told her that I wouldn't say anything else to her about this. When she crys she makes me so depressed and I end up upset some days and go home and cry. She tells me that she is sorry that it bothers me so much. Am I wrong? Is all this crying healthy? I am at my wits end.