Susan Neighbors

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Hissy_Fitz
Hissy_Fitz Member Posts: 1,834
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I received this message from Katheryn Turner today....

Hi,
Susan Neighbors (Susan523) passed away yesterday. I thought it should be on the board, but I just can't bring myself to do it. I don't know any details.... I only knew she wasn't doing well.
Kathryn

I am numb. It feels like this disease is just devistating lives, right an left. I hate it so.

Carlene
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  • rockchicksurvivor
    rockchicksurvivor Member Posts: 45
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    RIP SUSAN
    I am so sorry to hear this! I am crying with disbelief, I kept in touch with Susan on FB and had her regular email and she did not tell me she was so bad that she was going to lose her life?!!! I am so sad and will miss her dearly. We talked about meeting one day etc. This has me heartbroken!!
  • Hissy_Fitz
    Hissy_Fitz Member Posts: 1,834
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    rockchicksurvivor said:

    RIP SUSAN
    I am so sorry to hear this! I am crying with disbelief, I kept in touch with Susan on FB and had her regular email and she did not tell me she was so bad that she was going to lose her life?!!! I am so sad and will miss her dearly. We talked about meeting one day etc. This has me heartbroken!!

    She hasn't been well for a
    She hasn't been well for a while, but I did not know how truly ill she was either. Susan never wanted to bring the rest of the group down with bad news.

    She was diagnosed 5 years ago and had been in and out of treatment for most of that time.

    I feel like I am losing all my friends. I am just so sad right now.

    Carlene
  • lindaprocopio
    lindaprocopio Member Posts: 1,980
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    Hissy_Fitz said:

    She hasn't been well for a
    She hasn't been well for a while, but I did not know how truly ill she was either. Susan never wanted to bring the rest of the group down with bad news.

    She was diagnosed 5 years ago and had been in and out of treatment for most of that time.

    I feel like I am losing all my friends. I am just so sad right now.

    Carlene

    DAMN IT! This just never gets any easier. damn it all.
    I got a card from her at Christmas with a little gift tucked inside, to thank me for the flower seeds I'd sent her. She was heading off on a trip, said she'd be taking a break from the Boards. Thoughtful sweet woman.

    CRAP! I feel gut-punched. I think of her sweet little smile in her profile photo. I HATE CANCER!! You ladies have got to stop DYING on me, ya hear???!! (sob). I am so so sad to hear this news. The day is less sunny, much less sunny. Damn it all.
  • Hissy_Fitz
    Hissy_Fitz Member Posts: 1,834
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    lindaprocopio said:

    DAMN IT! This just never gets any easier. damn it all.
    I got a card from her at Christmas with a little gift tucked inside, to thank me for the flower seeds I'd sent her. She was heading off on a trip, said she'd be taking a break from the Boards. Thoughtful sweet woman.

    CRAP! I feel gut-punched. I think of her sweet little smile in her profile photo. I HATE CANCER!! You ladies have got to stop DYING on me, ya hear???!! (sob). I am so so sad to hear this news. The day is less sunny, much less sunny. Damn it all.

    I think she had been in the
    I think she had been in the hospital for the last week or so. The last message I got from her was in January or Febuary. I knew she had been MIA on the boards, and not very active on FB, but I saw in late March that she was still playing Farmville, so I wasn't too worried.

    I'm thinking this must have been pretty sudden. Her CA125 was less than 100 around Christmas.

    Carlene
  • leesag
    leesag Member Posts: 621 Member
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    Another Angel got her wings....
    As much as I want to say how I'm feeling inside...this isn't about me...


    Susan,

    May you find a peaceful and comfy place in eternity to watch over your loved ones and, of course, all of your Teal Warrior Sisters.

    Hugs,

    Leesa
  • nancy591
    nancy591 Member Posts: 1,027 Member
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    SHOCKED!!
    I was just thinking of her the other day and assumed she was doing well. I am so saddened by this news. I can't believe it.

    It also makes me realize about disclosure. It is a personal thing. I know that I don't want to bring the board down with my bad news so I haven't been posting much. Maybe I should post more...good or bad.

    Susan, you will be missed and I am so, so sad.
  • srwruns
    srwruns Member Posts: 343
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    Thanks Carlene for letting
    Thanks Carlene for letting us know. It hurts, real bad. When I first came on the board and many of you would mention the names of those that had passed and it was very sad. Now that I have been on the board and gotten to "know" some of my sisters and they pass it literally takes my breath away with a profound and deep stun. Very hard. May Susan have peace and comfort. From another Susan.
  • lindaprocopio
    lindaprocopio Member Posts: 1,980
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    srwruns said:

    Thanks Carlene for letting
    Thanks Carlene for letting us know. It hurts, real bad. When I first came on the board and many of you would mention the names of those that had passed and it was very sad. Now that I have been on the board and gotten to "know" some of my sisters and they pass it literally takes my breath away with a profound and deep stun. Very hard. May Susan have peace and comfort. From another Susan.

    Nancy brings up a good point. Wnat about posting 'bad news'?
    Nancy opens an interesting point for us to discuss, maybe not on this particular thread, but something I wonder about. Should we pull away when our news is bad? Is it too disheartening for this community when one of us is suffering? My CA125 is over 2000 and I have a CT/PET scheduled and expect some really lousy news. Lately I've thought that my own time may be very short, hope not, but it is what it is.

    But I remember the personal messages I received from Teresa late in her journey. And Bonnie and Linda Dorian kept us in the loop almost until the end, too. And I took comfort that they were still communicating, still so ALIVE, still so THEMSELVES, even as their bodies were betraying them. I remember thinking, "I can do this when my time comes. This is bearable, do-able." Because there were moments of joy and humor in their days and their communications, even near the end. I was GLAD they shared it. It made me less afraid, for the unknown is the scariest for me. I know each of our cancers takes its own unique path and how it ends for one of us is not how it ends for all of us. But those examples of grace and courage and humantity; they help me feel more prepared, more at peace.

    How do the rest of you feel? Was a glimpse of those journey's ends scary for you, or comforting to know that you will still be YOU, even at the end of the long long battle?
  • kayandok
    kayandok Member Posts: 1,202 Member
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    lindaprocopio said:

    Nancy brings up a good point. Wnat about posting 'bad news'?
    Nancy opens an interesting point for us to discuss, maybe not on this particular thread, but something I wonder about. Should we pull away when our news is bad? Is it too disheartening for this community when one of us is suffering? My CA125 is over 2000 and I have a CT/PET scheduled and expect some really lousy news. Lately I've thought that my own time may be very short, hope not, but it is what it is.

    But I remember the personal messages I received from Teresa late in her journey. And Bonnie and Linda Dorian kept us in the loop almost until the end, too. And I took comfort that they were still communicating, still so ALIVE, still so THEMSELVES, even as their bodies were betraying them. I remember thinking, "I can do this when my time comes. This is bearable, do-able." Because there were moments of joy and humor in their days and their communications, even near the end. I was GLAD they shared it. It made me less afraid, for the unknown is the scariest for me. I know each of our cancers takes its own unique path and how it ends for one of us is not how it ends for all of us. But those examples of grace and courage and humantity; they help me feel more prepared, more at peace.

    How do the rest of you feel? Was a glimpse of those journey's ends scary for you, or comforting to know that you will still be YOU, even at the end of the long long battle?

    Susan
    had not been posting lately, so I knew she wasn't doing well, but had no idea she was so close to dying! She was so sweet and very sensitive, so withdrew when she was in pain.
    She will be missed.
    kathleen
  • kayandok
    kayandok Member Posts: 1,202 Member
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    lindaprocopio said:

    Nancy brings up a good point. Wnat about posting 'bad news'?
    Nancy opens an interesting point for us to discuss, maybe not on this particular thread, but something I wonder about. Should we pull away when our news is bad? Is it too disheartening for this community when one of us is suffering? My CA125 is over 2000 and I have a CT/PET scheduled and expect some really lousy news. Lately I've thought that my own time may be very short, hope not, but it is what it is.

    But I remember the personal messages I received from Teresa late in her journey. And Bonnie and Linda Dorian kept us in the loop almost until the end, too. And I took comfort that they were still communicating, still so ALIVE, still so THEMSELVES, even as their bodies were betraying them. I remember thinking, "I can do this when my time comes. This is bearable, do-able." Because there were moments of joy and humor in their days and their communications, even near the end. I was GLAD they shared it. It made me less afraid, for the unknown is the scariest for me. I know each of our cancers takes its own unique path and how it ends for one of us is not how it ends for all of us. But those examples of grace and courage and humantity; they help me feel more prepared, more at peace.

    How do the rest of you feel? Was a glimpse of those journey's ends scary for you, or comforting to know that you will still be YOU, even at the end of the long long battle?

    LInda,
    maybe you can copy and paste this into a new subject? I think it is valid and worth discussing,
    k
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    kayandok said:

    LInda,
    maybe you can copy and paste this into a new subject? I think it is valid and worth discussing,
    k

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  • kayandok
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    I don't get it
    either. On her b-day, (March 6th) she wrote on FB, that she was happy to still be in remission. That is about a month ago.
    k
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    kayandok said:

    I don't get it
    either. On her b-day, (March 6th) she wrote on FB, that she was happy to still be in remission. That is about a month ago.
    k

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  • leesag
    leesag Member Posts: 621 Member
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    Details,
    I don't know any details. I searched her facebook for clues, but didn't really see any. I wonder if it was complications related to the cancer, rather than the cancer itself?

    At any rate, my heart and prayers go out to her loved ones at this time.

    Hugs.

    Leesa
  • leesag
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    Details,
    I don't know any details. I searched her facebook for clues, but didn't really see any. I wonder if it was complications related to the cancer, rather than the cancer itself?

    At any rate, my heart and prayers go out to her loved ones at this time.

    Hugs.

    Leesa
  • Christine B.
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    Linda, I did not know Susan
    but each time it is still so very hard to hear. Still I know that when someone has not posted within a week or so I begin to worry for them. For that reason, I guess it is better when we hear and share both the good and sad news. I wrote more, but decided to delete it because this is all I could really say.
    Prayers for peace and healing for all of us, and for those who have lost the ones they loved,
    Chris
  • kikz
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    Christine B. said:

    Linda, I did not know Susan
    but each time it is still so very hard to hear. Still I know that when someone has not posted within a week or so I begin to worry for them. For that reason, I guess it is better when we hear and share both the good and sad news. I wrote more, but decided to delete it because this is all I could really say.
    Prayers for peace and healing for all of us, and for those who have lost the ones they loved,
    Chris

    So sorry to lose
    another sister. God bless her and her family.

    Karen
  • Lisa13Q
    Lisa13Q Member Posts: 677
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    Sooo Sad
    It is so hard to read such sad news..at the same time, i think it allows us all to share in each others' full experience...as much as I hate the bad news, i want to help my fellow on-line friends when they need it most...it is also a part of the cancer...are we really uncomfortable sharing and talking about the ultimate possibility? death and dying? I don't think so...i think we all care so much that we don't want to upset each other...well, the truth is ladies....this cancer is upsetting and I don't want anyone having to hide "in the closet" because they have devastating news....and you know what else? when I can, helping lift someone else up, helps me.....it helps get me out of my crapp...i know, also, this week, if i had just hidden out, that would not have been healthy....and i couldn't talk to many of my friends because they just don't get it...I miss Saundra an Bonnie and feel eternally grateful they were brave enough to share....I respect Susan's desire to remain private....i hope this post makes sense....not sure I am......i hate this disease...
  • Hissy_Fitz
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    Lisa13Q said:

    Sooo Sad
    It is so hard to read such sad news..at the same time, i think it allows us all to share in each others' full experience...as much as I hate the bad news, i want to help my fellow on-line friends when they need it most...it is also a part of the cancer...are we really uncomfortable sharing and talking about the ultimate possibility? death and dying? I don't think so...i think we all care so much that we don't want to upset each other...well, the truth is ladies....this cancer is upsetting and I don't want anyone having to hide "in the closet" because they have devastating news....and you know what else? when I can, helping lift someone else up, helps me.....it helps get me out of my crapp...i know, also, this week, if i had just hidden out, that would not have been healthy....and i couldn't talk to many of my friends because they just don't get it...I miss Saundra an Bonnie and feel eternally grateful they were brave enough to share....I respect Susan's desire to remain private....i hope this post makes sense....not sure I am......i hate this disease...

    I'm not sure it's a desire
    I'm not sure it's a desire to remain private as much as we/they don't want to rain on anyone's parade with our bad news. It's almost like having to tell our families that they've confirmed a recurrence, or that the doctor has suggested Hospice. We don't want to make anyone sad. And I have to say this, although it's truly NOT directed at anyone in particular: sometimes the rah-rah section makes us feel like it's just plain WRONG not to be all perky and optimistic, 24/7. I really think that discourages people from posting the whole truth. And if you can't be honest, what's the point in posting at all?

    We don't live in Never Never Land. People die from OC every day. Most women who are diagnosed at stage III or IV will eventually die from the disease. It might take 3 years; it might take 5, or 10, or even more. But let's be honest, ladies...no one is going to be offering us any great deals on life insurance.

    Personally, I want to know what is going on with my cyber sisters. I want to know when you are scared, sad, ready to throw in the towel, or just mad as hell. It goes without saying that I want to hear the good news, but when I get emails and PMs and phone calls/texts that say, "I need to talk," it makes me feel like I have value as a friend and confidante. It makes me feel like maybe there is a reason I have been given this cross to bear. I would certainly hate to think it's all been for naught.

    And the thought of any of you suffering all slone when you get bad news just makes me SO SAD. Don't keep it to yourself....whatever it is. If it's a blessing, share it; and if it's a burden, spread it around.

    Carlene

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