Apr 05, 2011 - 6:36 pm
A close friend was diagnosed in September with Stage IV NSCLC with mets to back, pelvis and leg. She did well with her chemo and was briefly in remission. Yesterday, after 3 rounds of maintenance chemo her scans showed the primary tumor growing as well as progression in other tumors. She will have radiation to try to help with back pain and then is going to a Phase I clinical trial.
My question, she is having difficulty dealing with her prognosis (who wouldn't) but I am often at a loss about what to say or do when she says things like "well I guess I won't be around for Christmas." or "I can't believe I am going to die soon." I go with her to her appointments and chemo's. I am there for her to talk to but I really struggle with what to do. I am a colon cancer survivor, but I was diagnosed Stage III - a very different animal.
Her family and friends all say things like "don't be silly you are going to be fine."
She is 54 and a lovely person - any suggestions would be appreciated.