Mar 11, 2011 - 1:42 pm
Hi! My name is Ashley and I'm 23 years old. My mother is currently undergoing chemotherapy and radiation and it is doing wacky things to her tastebuds.
I can't feed her too much fruit and veggies because it causes her to have loose bowels, but I was wondering if anyone has any other recommendations for what to feed her. I tried to give her a chicken pot pie for lunch and she was just not having it because it tasted too "salty" which is the case for most foods she eats these days. She used to suck on popsicles and fudgsicles, but she hates those now too.
I love giving her chicken, but if it's not fried she tends to think it's boring and bland... but I'd hate to give her all that grease!
If anyone has any wisdom to give me... about anything, please send it my way. I had to take time off of school and work to come home and be the primary caregiver because I'm the oldest and my dad can't take off of work because we need the money. I guess... I really never assumed it would be this hard. I figured because my mom was a nurse it would be easier, but it's not at all. I'm pretty good at dealing with the insurance and her meds and her doctor's visits. I have the house cleaning down the way she likes it and I'm cooking okay, but I have to say I think I'm lacking in terms of patience.
I feel guilty because I miss school and work and I really have no help. And sometimes... I don't know what to say when I see her getting emotional because I couldn't imagine going through it myself. I tell her I love her and I try to be there, but I keep feeling like it's never enough. I feel even worse at night when I can't sleep because all I feel is... anger. I have to be the worst daughter in the world.