Cancer may be back

No Ticky, I am just the
No Ticky, I am just the opposite. I have a wonderful husband, family and friends that have supported me so much thru this, that I would want them to know to support me again should it happen. And, they would want to know too.

I don't know what I would have done without them. My husband was and still is my rock!


But, everyone goes thru so many different emotions, that none of us are the same. You just do what is best for you, and, only you.

Wishing you good luck,


Kylez

I have thought about it
and I know I would hate to have to give them bad news but I would do it. I have only been on the receiving end of such news and for a little bit of time the patient becomes the caregiver because the news is so hard for the family member to hear. It is painful for a little bit for both people but it works out after the initial shock wears off.

jamiegww said:

I have wondered the same thing myself.
If you are afraid your cancer has returned, I hope it turns out to be a false alarm. I too have tried to figure out what I will do if my cancer comes back. I think I would keep it between my husband and myself for as long as possible. If for some reason I don't get treatment, I might even try not to tell him. I am praying your cancer has not returned, but if it has, we are always here for you.

HUGS!!!
Jamie

Telling family
When I was diagnosed, I told only a few friends and my husband. We did not tell our kids until we had a course of action in place. For our family, that was the right thing to do. We worried that the news might get back to them (none of them live locally, but . . .) but it didn't. I needed the support of good friends and my husband, but wanted to protect my "children" (44, 41, 40, 37) until we had a complete story to tell them. I know I would do the same if I had a recurrence.

Suzanne

I never 'want' to have to
I never 'want' to have to talk to Hubby and Son (we are a very small family - no brothers/sisters/parents/aunts/uncles) telling them that cancer has returned IF it does BUT I owe them honesty and openness - so yes I would talk to them both ASAP.

Healthy me who had basically never had Part of why I'm so set on being sure that Hubby and Son know what is going on has to do with when Hubby was 9 y/o (Son is not a child - he's 32 but still our Son). Christmas Day afternoon when he was 9, his Mother was taken out of the house via ambulance - that was the last time he saw her. His Father never told him anything at all as to what was going on - she died from cervical cancer - he didn't even tell him that his Mom had died - he found out from his teacher when he got to school the next day - she told him that she was so sorry to hear that his Mother had died - he had no clue that had happened. So yes me getting BC has been very hard on him - I've basically never been sick (other than colds and sinus infections in the 35 years we've been married) - but that's why I make sure he (and Son) knows what is going on.

Susan

I think we've all probably
I think we've all probably run this scenario through our heads. I just want to say, you can always come here and 'talk' with us. I know that sometimes, even close family and friends don't 'get it'. But you'll find people here who do.

Hugs,

Linda

Hard not to THINK
When one is finding new problems it is hard not to go there. Every lump I find I don't think it is cancer but it isn't good enough for me if they do not know what it is. I have had many health issues and found my life just has a bottom line and that is I have to be as we all do our own best health advocate and make sure we have things looked at.
I have tried to hide new problems but it makes me worse and I cannot calm my mind worrying about the others in my life. I need to finally worry about me something I did not do before and know there is no reason for suffering. Quality of LIFE is my fight and have gone out to help others who aren't getting the help they need.
Your family would want you to be honest and tell for it is far worse after the fact. How many times have we dreaded going and saying something to someone, it doesn't get easier with time.
Tara

24242 said:

Hard not to THINK
When one is finding new problems it is hard not to go there. Every lump I find I don't think it is cancer but it isn't good enough for me if they do not know what it is. I have had many health issues and found my life just has a bottom line and that is I have to be as we all do our own best health advocate and make sure we have things looked at.
I have tried to hide new problems but it makes me worse and I cannot calm my mind worrying about the others in my life. I need to finally worry about me something I did not do before and know there is no reason for suffering. Quality of LIFE is my fight and have gone out to help others who aren't getting the help they need.
Your family would want you to be honest and tell for it is far worse after the fact. How many times have we dreaded going and saying something to someone, it doesn't get easier with time.
Tara

Telling Family
The tumor was found.Took awhile for the doctor to order a biospy with the radialogist. I got letters from the Breast Center but never told my husband. I was told to contact my doctor about the lump.I did call the office 3 times but no response even though they said they would get with the doctor.More time went on.Called again and they said make a appt.I did.Then a biopsy was done.I never mentioned any of this to my husband.One of my friends took me in for the biopsy.It was sent to the doctor and the next day I was called in.I went alone.I sorta was thinking it was benign since the wait was so long but being told to come in made me wonder.My doctor and also a female doctor came in to tell me it was malignant.I was upset and knew then I should tell my husband.I tell him and he said,"That isnt good". That kinda took me back.Not surprised with the answer but really not what I wanted to hear. So I guess I will be the same (even though my husband has really really changed).Going to be to myself till I feel it is the right time.Yes family needs to know real soon but we need to grasp it all first.I would never wait long.

Like I said my husband is totally different.I've been through alot(surgeries,illness etc) for many many years and never was treated like I should have been. But he changed. I guess Why I keep to myself.And another thing is now that people know I was diagnosed everytime I see them they say "Are you loosing weight".I tell them NO but they say "You sure look like it".Makes me feel they are fishin' for something.No ones business.I tell my very close friends.Those I want to know.

I could never talk to people in that way.Knowing they have cancer and then always ask if they are losing weight.It is annoying to me. I am just fine!!!!!