I Just Have To Say This.........
I have been a member of this board for awhile too, and, all of you have been invaluable to me, as, I know you have been to so many sisters.
But, I do have to voice my opinion. I thought this board was for support, concerns, questions, encouragement and to help each other in anyway that we can. And, there might have been some, a very few, that were not here for the reasons that we believed they were.
However, it really saddens me to see people creating whole posts to draw attention to what they "believe" might be in impersonator. And, they just might be, but, how does this really affect you? What if they are for real and actually seeking help? And, if they aren't, just ignore them. If a newbie were to respond to them, not knowing that there have been impostor's on here, will it hurt them? The answer is no, it won't. And, if they are seeking attention than you are giving it to them. So, why not just ignore them?
I like to give people the benefit of the doubt before I accuse them of anything. And quite honestly, if I did think they were a hoax, there is the CSN or Greta to report them to.
I think there is an easier solution and a more adult action to take if you truly feel this. It is to simply ignore them, or, don't respond to their posts. Don't you honestly think that would be more suitable than this calling them out on the playground concept?
This might sound harsh, but, I just think it is rather childish. You start these posts, then others jump on the band wagon to make fun of this person and to ridicule them. I don't see how that can make you feel good, I really don't.
So, my advice is to do as I said, ignore them, don't respond back to them and who knows. If they aren't for real, I am sure they will eventually go away, and, if they don't, they will only be posting to themselves.
Let's take the mature road here and focus on helping those on this breast cancer board that need help! There are several going thru some very rough times now, and, could use all of our attention and prayers right now rather than wasting your energy on creating posts to make fun of, call out, or, just plain draw attention to someone who might not be for real.
I love all of you and thank you a zillion times over for all that you have done for me!
Thanks, Susie
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Since this is obviously directed towards me
I will respond to you directly.
This person has done this to us not once but twice. And people here are
very caring and trusting and I hate to see them get emotionally involved
with someone who's not worth the time or the effort.
There are women with real gut wrenching stories here that could use that
support. When she did it before, I felt the same way you did but to come
back after all that drama she created and start anew is just outrageous.
And I didn't know that I can contact Greta. I will keep this in mind. You
could have sent me private message but you chose not to, and I am thinking
it is for the same reason I chose to start that thread to bring awareness.
I am sorry if I offended you in any way.
Ayse0 -
Ayse, I don't know if thisaysemari said:Since this is obviously directed towards me
I will respond to you directly.
This person has done this to us not once but twice. And people here are
very caring and trusting and I hate to see them get emotionally involved
with someone who's not worth the time or the effort.
There are women with real gut wrenching stories here that could use that
support. When she did it before, I felt the same way you did but to come
back after all that drama she created and start anew is just outrageous.
And I didn't know that I can contact Greta. I will keep this in mind. You
could have sent me private message but you chose not to, and I am thinking
it is for the same reason I chose to start that thread to bring awareness.
I am sorry if I offended you in any way.
Ayse
Ayse, I don't know if this new person is who some say she is, but, please just ignore them. By paying attention to them and posting about them only creates more drama from them and from others. You are a beautiful and caring sister whom I have always admired and will continue to always be thankful that I crossed paths with on here.
So, let's give the sisters that truly need our help that attention. Let's support them.
And, you can contact Greta at the top right of the page where it says Contact CSN. Greta is great to always respond very quickly and you will get an email from her too.
There are just so many sisters on here with so many problems and questions that I just want attention given to them, not someone who "might" not be for real..that's all.
Susie0 -
Great post Susie! I don'tsusie09 said:Ayse, I don't know if this
Ayse, I don't know if this new person is who some say she is, but, please just ignore them. By paying attention to them and posting about them only creates more drama from them and from others. You are a beautiful and caring sister whom I have always admired and will continue to always be thankful that I crossed paths with on here.
So, let's give the sisters that truly need our help that attention. Let's support them.
And, you can contact Greta at the top right of the page where it says Contact CSN. Greta is great to always respond very quickly and you will get an email from her too.
There are just so many sisters on here with so many problems and questions that I just want attention given to them, not someone who "might" not be for real..that's all.
Susie
Great post Susie! I don't come on often, but, it saddens me too to see some of the posts. I agree with helping those on here that need the help, and, Meena and Libby need it now from us.0 -
Well, I must be the most gullible person on this boardNoel said:Great post Susie! I don't
Great post Susie! I don't come on often, but, it saddens me too to see some of the posts. I agree with helping those on here that need the help, and, Meena and Libby need it now from us.
because I think I was the only one to respond to the post about needing help about "gagging"! I feel a little silly now, but I honestly thought it was someone in need of help.
If it was just another prank, then I mis-read it. But, let's face it, we're on the Internet here--just because of our subject matter, unfortunately, there are still people in the world who are not nice. Having said that, I will still give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Hugs, Renee0 -
I guess I must have missedmissrenee said:Well, I must be the most gullible person on this board
because I think I was the only one to respond to the post about needing help about "gagging"! I feel a little silly now, but I honestly thought it was someone in need of help.
If it was just another prank, then I mis-read it. But, let's face it, we're on the Internet here--just because of our subject matter, unfortunately, there are still people in the world who are not nice. Having said that, I will still give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Hugs, Renee
I guess I must have missed it, as, I haven't been around for a few days. I do agree with you completely Susie that it is best to not respond to someone if you feel they aren't being truthful. I ignore certain posts and never reply to them all of the time. lol
I also feel this isn't the place to point fingers at one another or make fun of someone. If they aren't real, so what, and, if they are, you can reply or not. As you said, we are adults, not kids on a playground.
Sue
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Then I'm also gullible...missrenee said:Well, I must be the most gullible person on this board
because I think I was the only one to respond to the post about needing help about "gagging"! I feel a little silly now, but I honestly thought it was someone in need of help.
If it was just another prank, then I mis-read it. But, let's face it, we're on the Internet here--just because of our subject matter, unfortunately, there are still people in the world who are not nice. Having said that, I will still give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Hugs, Renee
I'm glad she was "outted".
I think we must protect ourselves and although I only responded to her once, I read everything she posted.
I applaud those of us who are brave enough to point a finger at the frauds and be open about it. In my opinion it protects the rest of us from getting hurt.
We are all adults, but we can also be hurt by self-serving frauds.
JoAnn0 -
How do we know this personjoannstar said:Then I'm also gullible...
I'm glad she was "outted".
I think we must protect ourselves and although I only responded to her once, I read everything she posted.
I applaud those of us who are brave enough to point a finger at the frauds and be open about it. In my opinion it protects the rest of us from getting hurt.
We are all adults, but we can also be hurt by self-serving frauds.
JoAnn
How do we know this person was a fraud? That's what I am asking. I remember not long ago some were saying that another bc sister was someone else, and, I think it turned out she wasn't that person, and, we welcome her now with open arms.
Perhaps we should just take a step back and not accuse, and, leave it up to Greta to handle the business here of scams, spammers and frauds.
Sue 0 -
I can assure you that
I can assure you that aysemari is not the only one who knew that the evil troll was back in a 'new suit'. She is the one who had the courage to speak up - thank you aysemari - you did the mature, courageous thing. Not the cowardly thing of pretending that harm is not being done because it's easier to ignore. Certainly there can be times when it is right to ignore some things - not in this case with the historionics of this troll - she had been killed by radiation according to her and some supposed relative, only to be on FB playing games later.
It is so sad that there are such evil people out there but there are and they can do harm by just ignoring them.
I ws a bit surprised tht she had been able to get back on here - at the horse forum i go to when someone is blocke/kicked off, not only the identity of the offender is gone but the computer they use is blocked so that another 'identity' cannot be formed by them - unless they go to a different computer.
Susan0 -
It is kind of scary to seeRague said:I can assure you that
I can assure you that aysemari is not the only one who knew that the evil troll was back in a 'new suit'. She is the one who had the courage to speak up - thank you aysemari - you did the mature, courageous thing. Not the cowardly thing of pretending that harm is not being done because it's easier to ignore. Certainly there can be times when it is right to ignore some things - not in this case with the historionics of this troll - she had been killed by radiation according to her and some supposed relative, only to be on FB playing games later.
It is so sad that there are such evil people out there but there are and they can do harm by just ignoring them.
I ws a bit surprised tht she had been able to get back on here - at the horse forum i go to when someone is blocke/kicked off, not only the identity of the offender is gone but the computer they use is blocked so that another 'identity' cannot be formed by them - unless they go to a different computer.
Susan
It is kind of scary to see name calling on here, it really is. I hope if this person, whomever they were, need help, that they can find it somewhere.
Leeza0 -
According to another treadRitzy said:How do we know this person
How do we know this person was a fraud? That's what I am asking. I remember not long ago some were saying that another bc sister was someone else, and, I think it turned out she wasn't that person, and, we welcome her now with open arms.
Perhaps we should just take a step back and not accuse, and, leave it up to Greta to handle the business here of scams, spammers and frauds.
Sue
According to another tread today - Greta pm'd CR1954 and that florida_sunshine had been removed. Had she been legit she would not have been removed.0 -
I don't understand this
I am totally stunned by this! First off why would someone want to pose as having bc or be a survivor if they are not. This certainly isn't some game that we are playing. There is nothing that I would like more than to not be a member of this club, not be in stage iv, and be living with the prognosis that Me and my family have been given.
This is really sad if there are people posing as cancer victims. Do they have any idea of what we are living with everyday? For me, finding this site thru a friend who was going thru treatment at the same time has been better support than I got in counseling, as you all have the same disease and even those who are not iv, know the fear that I face with each test and procedure! The counselor could only imagine!
Should I be wary now of posting or friending on line? I would hate to lose this link, as the positive feedback and support and information has become so rewarding.
A pink sister,
Carol0 -
I don't understand whycamul said:I don't understand this
I am totally stunned by this! First off why would someone want to pose as having bc or be a survivor if they are not. This certainly isn't some game that we are playing. There is nothing that I would like more than to not be a member of this club, not be in stage iv, and be living with the prognosis that Me and my family have been given.
This is really sad if there are people posing as cancer victims. Do they have any idea of what we are living with everyday? For me, finding this site thru a friend who was going thru treatment at the same time has been better support than I got in counseling, as you all have the same disease and even those who are not iv, know the fear that I face with each test and procedure! The counselor could only imagine!
Should I be wary now of posting or friending on line? I would hate to lose this link, as the positive feedback and support and information has become so rewarding.
A pink sister,
Carol
I don't understand why anyone would want to pose as a cancer victim. This has happened before on here. I must have missed something this time, so if someone would message me and fill me in. It's like anything else, we are on the internet and we need to be careful and I think we become so very close to each other ( like family sister's )and we trust each other. Then someone enter's our world, for whatever sick reason they have. Don't let them ruin what we have. The sickos ? (spelling ) will get found out. They can't hide well. Carol, this does not happen often.
Kathy ~0 -
Thanks KathyKat11 said:I don't understand why
I don't understand why anyone would want to pose as a cancer victim. This has happened before on here. I must have missed something this time, so if someone would message me and fill me in. It's like anything else, we are on the internet and we need to be careful and I think we become so very close to each other ( like family sister's )and we trust each other. Then someone enter's our world, for whatever sick reason they have. Don't let them ruin what we have. The sickos ? (spelling ) will get found out. They can't hide well. Carol, this does not happen often.
Kathy ~
People are amazing. I couldn't imagine being so lonely or starved for attention to resort to something like this. I hope it turns out that the person is for real and not an imposter, but it sounds like she has been here and done this before. Thanks to everyone who recognized it for what it is. I too do not like the name calling, I just think we all have different ways of approaching things. I too am a head on deal with it now person so I do understand why she was called out!
Carol0 -
I am glad Ayse saidcamul said:Thanks Kathy
People are amazing. I couldn't imagine being so lonely or starved for attention to resort to something like this. I hope it turns out that the person is for real and not an imposter, but it sounds like she has been here and done this before. Thanks to everyone who recognized it for what it is. I too do not like the name calling, I just think we all have different ways of approaching things. I too am a head on deal with it now person so I do understand why she was called out!
Carol
I am glad Ayse said something. Sometimes when you call someone out then they stop. and the posts could be harmful for fragile people. It takes energy and thought and caring to post on here. I personally dont have the time for games. Ayse is very protective.
I am glad for the warning as I dont always "see" these things. with the first posts , I answered then stopped because I wasnt getting anywhere. but others persisted, and worried and this is not fair to our legit pink sisters. Also we are hurting from the sisters we have lost, and dont appreciate someone posting about their "death" especially from radiation treatment when so many people are worried about their treatment.0 -
Years agocarkris said:I am glad Ayse said
I am glad Ayse said something. Sometimes when you call someone out then they stop. and the posts could be harmful for fragile people. It takes energy and thought and caring to post on here. I personally dont have the time for games. Ayse is very protective.
I am glad for the warning as I dont always "see" these things. with the first posts , I answered then stopped because I wasnt getting anywhere. but others persisted, and worried and this is not fair to our legit pink sisters. Also we are hurting from the sisters we have lost, and dont appreciate someone posting about their "death" especially from radiation treatment when so many people are worried about their treatment.
When the original chat was on years ago very few people used it...
I cannot get into chat and wonder actually how many people are getting onto it??
I am told there is no password needed yet there is this screen and will not allow me to change nickname.
That chat almost sounded like a dating site chat after a few years so it happens rooms change and others must be started.
I too am not here to judge and worry sometimes that people can be taken advantage of even if it just their feelings.
Tara0
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