Feb 20, 2011 - 3:18 pm
My husband was diagnosed with Renal Cell Carcinoma Subtype translocation xp 11.2 in August of 2010. He had a right nephrectomy and lymphnode dissection. It had metastisized to his bones as well. This is February and we were just told that the Sutent is not working. His bone lesions are growing and there are many more of them. I am completely overwhelmed...I have my husband at home who is in severe pain from the bone mets, I have two young children, girls 8 and 11. My 11 year old has Type I Diabetes. I start nursing school in August, which I have no idea how I can manage all of this and be successful in my nursing program. At this point I know that I have no other choice but to do my nursing school since I currently am only a CNA and I have to be realistic about the future. My husband is 37 years old and had never been sick in our 16 years of marriage. We thought when our daughter was diagnosed four years ago with Diabetes that that was the worse thing that could happen. Boy were we wrong! I worry so much about my 8 year old because she sees that I care for my husband daily and my oldest daughters needs as well. I am so afraid that she is going to think that because she is not sick she isn't important. All of my family is in another state and my husbands as well. His are only 1 1/2 away though but they are not a lot of help. How do I cope with my husbands illness and make sure that i am here every minute for him and keep everything else in my life going at the same time? How can I wear all of these hats and be good at all of them? There is nothing I want more than to help my husband and make sure that he is comfortable, but I also have to make sure that my kids are not pushed to the back burner.