Dad Lost His Battle

sal314
sal314 Member Posts: 599 Member
in Esophageal Cancer #1
Dear EC Friends,

It's with great sadness that I have to inform you that my dad lost his battle last night about 12:30 A.M.

It's been a horrific 4 days in the ER, ICU and Palliative Care. To make a long story short, he basically died from the tumor bleeding and his body not being able to clot the blood because his liver was shutting down.

It was a quick downward slide. Saturday morning he got up, ate a full breakfast of eggs, bacon, toast, juice and milk and enjoyed watching golf on TV. By Sat. night he was in the ER vomiting massive amounts of blood and semi conscious. He was moved up to ICU were they stabilized him. Being that there was nothing more the doctor's could do, they transferred him to Palliative Care where he remained until his passing last night.

Thank you all for your support and prayers. They have been so helpful during this awful journey. Please continue to pray for my mom and I as the next few days of making decisions and arrangements will no doubt be a difficult.

I will continue to pray for you all and check the boards to see how you all are fairing.

Blessings,
Sally

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  • dlrepic
    dlrepic Member Posts: 62
    #2
    So sorry
    Sally, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that you and your mom can find peace inside.

    Danielle
  • Donna70
    Donna70 Member Posts: 852 Member
    #3
    dlrepic said:

    So sorry
    Sally, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that you and your mom can find peace inside.

    Danielle

    so sorry
    Dear Sally,
    So sorry about your Dad. It is amazing how quickly things can happen. I am glad he had those few hours of normal life esp watching the golf, know my mom in law lived for it. I will definitely keep you all in my prayers as you go thru these first days of planning and mourning. YOu certainly did your best by your Dad and your Mom, just so sorry it had to be this way. take care, hugs from afar,
    Donna70
  • Cindy Bear
    Cindy Bear Member Posts: 569
    #4
    Sorry
    I am so sorry for your loss. It is so difficult , no matter how prepared we think we are and yes it's frightening how quickly things can take a turn for the worse. I pray that you find comfort and strength in the days ahead.
    Hugs,
    Cindy
  • BMGky
    BMGky Member Posts: 621
    #5
    So sorry to hear about your Dad.
    Your family is in our prayers.
  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,391 Member
    #6
    I am so sorry
    Sally,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know the last month had been a challenge for your father and your family. With the pain from bone mets and the bleeding your Dad has had a tough time. He is now beyond that pain.

    May God welcome your Dad into his loving arms and provide peace and support for you and your family during this difficult time.

    With sadness,

    Paul Adams
    McCormick, South Carolina

    DX 10/22/2009 T2N1M0 Stage IIB
    12/03/2009 Ivor Lewis
    2/8 through 6/14/2010 Adjuvant Chemo Cisplatin, Epirubicin, 5 FU
    6/21/2010 CT Scan NED
  • Bobs1wife
    Bobs1wife Member Posts: 150
    #7
    Sally, So sorry to hear
    So sorry to hear of your dad's passing. You have been so supportive to both your mother and father. Your family has had a really rough ride the past few months. I hope good memories of your father will shine through all of what you have been through recently. You were a blessing to your dad and I know you loved him so much. Linda
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  • DanaMB3
    DanaMB3 Member Posts: 98
    #9
    You are in my thoughts
    You have many prayers coming from me and I have been, and will continue to think of your family often. If there is anything I can do, being local to you, please let me know.

    Dana
  • dennis44
    dennis44 Member Posts: 3
    #10
    Prayers and thoughts
    Sally, the next few days will be busy and hard but try to remember, your father is in a better place now and there are better days ahead. I lost my mother on Feb 5th and I still visit her every day..
    God Bless and peace to you and your family.
    Dennis
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    #11
    Sally,
    I am so sorry to hear
    Sally,

    I am so sorry to hear your news. I know that this has been difficult for you and your mother. And all the while you have supported and encouraged so many others on the site. Please know that you are in my prayers and thoughts.

    Please take care.

    Hugs,
    Cindy
  • linda1120
    linda1120 Member Posts: 389
    #12
    Prayers
    Dear Sally,

    I am so sorry to hear of your father's passing. My prayers are with you and your mother as you face so many decisions. I pray that our Heavenly Father gives you peace and guidance as you go through this time. I have been so proud of the way you have been involved in your father's battle and the support you have given your mother. Thank you for always being there for all of us as you have dealt with your father's cancer. God Bless all of you, Linda
  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek Member Posts: 1,500 Member
    #13
    MY Heartfelt Sympathies
    Dearest Sally and Family
    May I send to you my most heartfelt sympathies for your loss of your dad. May God now bless him and give him the peace he has needed for so long now. Isnt it amazing how he did so well just that morning, and then to go downhill so fast? My dad went downhill fast also. May they both rest in peace now. May you and your mom have the strength you will need at this most difficult time. Give yourselves at least a year or more to mourn and grieve. Please do come back and check in. I do so daily, it helps me to be able to help others. You take care of yourselves.
    Tina in Va
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    #14
    Sally, so sorry about your
    Sally, so sorry about your dad, I'm praying that the Lord will put his arms around both you and your mom and give you the needed comfort over the days ahead.
    Praying for you both,
    Sandra
  • Bolt_Woman
    Bolt_Woman Member Posts: 11
    #15
    I am so sorry for your loss
    I am so sorry for your loss and will pray for you and your Mom.
  • MRapp226
    MRapp226 Member Posts: 44
    #16
    Oh Sally....
    I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. Having just lost my dad and quickly, I totally understand what / how you must be feeling. Please take care of yourself now and prayers will continue coming your way for strength and comfort that he is no longer suffering.

    With sympathy,
    Your friend from a far,
    Melissa
  • ArchTB
    ArchTB Member Posts: 150
    #17
    I am so sorry
    I was away for few days and could not check messages. I am so sorry to get this news. I am sure you, the family and the doctors did everything possible. It is a terrible disease and it is heartbreaking to loose the battle. How are you holding on?

    Olya
  • sal314
    sal314 Member Posts: 599 Member
    #18
    ArchTB said:

    I am so sorry
    I was away for few days and could not check messages. I am so sorry to get this news. I am sure you, the family and the doctors did everything possible. It is a terrible disease and it is heartbreaking to loose the battle. How are you holding on?

    Olya

    Thanks Olya
    I'm doing as well as could be expected I guess. I think I'm still in shock to some extent. The four days in the hospital seem like a blur and everything happened so fast.

    His funeral isn't until Wed. I'm sure it will be more "real" then. The whole thing is just so sad. However, though my heart is heavy, I have a strong faith in Jesus and he is carrying me through it:)

    Sally
  • JimsBrother
    JimsBrother Member Posts: 94
    #19
    sal314 said:

    Thanks Olya
    I'm doing as well as could be expected I guess. I think I'm still in shock to some extent. The four days in the hospital seem like a blur and everything happened so fast.

    His funeral isn't until Wed. I'm sure it will be more "real" then. The whole thing is just so sad. However, though my heart is heavy, I have a strong faith in Jesus and he is carrying me through it:)

    Sally

    Very sorry
    Losing a parent is something most all of us will face. Whether it's due to a sudden occurrence or due to something like this, it is still devastating.

    Please accept my most sincere sympathy and know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Rob
  • K_ann1015
    K_ann1015 Member Posts: 500
    #20
    so sorry
    Sally---I am so sorry to read your post about your dad. I am still shocked by losses to this cancer--we now are "family" and it hurts every time we read a post where someone was lost. I am thankful he is no longer suffering, but know that you and the family will be for some time to come. Know that you are not alone.... I wish I could do more than pray at times like these...
    Kim

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