Feb 11, 2011 - 12:56 am
HI! My name is Jessica. I am 23. I was just diagnosed with mucoepidermoid carcinoma on 12/03/2010. The one thing that has really changed is my love life. I am finally healed from surgery and ready to get back in the dating scene. My problem? I am not for sure cancer free yet. But is anyone, really? The hard part is I will meet a guy... we'll talk and really start to connect... and if we decide to explore the possibilities of a relationship, I am very upfront and tell them about the cancer diagnosis. Almost all of these guys have gone running for the hills. AND THEY WON'T EVEN BE FRIENDS WITH ME!!! I was never secretive about the whole cancer bit... I never danced around the topic or lied about it either. WHY ARE THEY SO SEEMINGLY ANGRY/AFRAID? Cancer is just that... cancer. It's not like I have SMALL POX or something. I understand a little fear... but I also feel that fear will stop one from experiencing LOVE that they should live for. One should not run from fear. I am not asking these prospective dates to pay my medical bills, feed me, help me through treatments, etc. I am just asking for their love and support through day to day life. Should I just come out and announce my cancer to the world as I go? Is it something that should be part of my intro? "HI! I am Jessica. I am 23, and I have cancer. How are you?" Hmmm... pretty sure that would be weird.