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Aortus,
I know that you post occasionally and I am so glad that you are still here. I love that you have the picture of you and Moopy for your avatar. I know in my heart she is still with us but I love seeing her smiling face and you with your arm around her. I hope that your sense of loss is gradually being replaced with the myriad of happy moments and memories. I was re-reading an old post and it made me smile. I think of you often and my prayers are that you are plunging ahead with life. To me losing someone affects us the way our cancers themself do, we have to find a new "normal". It's not easy but it happens sometimes quickly and sometimes ever so slow. I think that all of the other gals here feel the way I do, the board would not be the same without our dear brother, Joe, so don't leave. You have so much to often in support, advice, humor and just in every darn way. 2011 is not starting out very well but I hold tight to all my family here. I keep all in my prayers and good thoughts and I plan to keep my candle lit for those that are no longer here and for those that are. It is my eternal flame of hope and caring.
Stef
PS I understand the love of bacon. I rarely have it but I love it.

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and I echo Stef's sentiments. I'm always so pleased to see you chiming in, Joe, and usually with that wry humor I so enjoy. I worry about you and hope you're getting where you need to be emotionally in your own way and timing.

Thanks, Stef, for saying what's in my heart.

I love you all in ways only all of us can understand:)

Victoria

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...then I'll just leave this earth with a greasy smile on my face....I mean seriously, a life without bacon is like a day without sunshine...

...or a board without our dear Aortus! I miss you too, Joe, and hope that you'll check in with us as often as you feel up to it. You are part of this family, and always will be -- hold that tight in your heart.

And keep us posted on that Mid-Life Crisis Car purchase!

:-) Traci

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thoughts and prayers. Be good to yourself, and take care - as best as possible.

Your Warrior Sister,

Vicki Sam

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Thinking of you too Joe.

Hugs, Jan

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Thank you, friend, for putting into such eloquent words what so many of us are feeling regarding our dear Aortus.

Although I do not have formal "permission" to speak (write, more accurately, I guess) on Joe's behalf... For the sake of all those here concerned about him - I believe he returned to full time work this week.

Kind regards, Susan

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Joe you have and continue to be a good friend to women in the fight. I hope you are and continue to be well physically. Emotionally well again will take time. With Valentine's Day on Monday please remember that love never dies. Joe and Moopy forever! I hope you have access to ongoing support. Please feel free to come to us when you need to. We really love you.

Roseann

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I am hanging in there the best I can. Moopy always made it clear to me that if she were to go before me that giving up would not be an option. When I'm home I still especially feel Moopy's nearness to me, and when I'm not home, I depend on the prayers and good thoughts that I can feel coming to me from the Kindred Spirits every hour of every day... just as I am always thinking of and praying for all of you. And just as I truly believe Moopy is doing for all of us now, all the time. I'll still have a Valentine this Valentine's Day; it's just that my Valentine is in Heaven already.

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I think of you and Moopy everyday and hope that you are surrounded by friends and family to help you get by.
jan

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You are always in my thoughts Joe. Still can't believe that Moopy is in Heaven.

Lex

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Think of you two often too! Glad to see an update from you.

Take care Joe,

Diane

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Joe,
it is good to hear that you are doing what Moopy would have wanted and getting on with life. And we kindred spirits will always be here for you. You are just one of the dearest of the dears.
I have said this before. I read long ago in a story (The Little Prince, I think) that the stars in the heaven are those that we have lost and the twinkling of the stars is their laughter. Whenever I look up and see the stars bright in the sky and twinkling, I think of those I have lost and it makes me smile to know that they are all there laughing and full of joy. I know that Moopy has to be one of the brightest, twinkliest stars up there because she glowed and twinkled when she was here. She will always be your Valentine.
Stef

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yes i am sure your sweet angel would never ever want you to give up. and i am glad you can feel her nearness as she is and will be watching over her dear Aortus. Love lives on and never leaves us.I know you will carry that love close to your heart always.
as you well know you were one of the first friends i had here...paving the way for our Moopy, being the most supportive and optimistic hubby anyone could have wanted. Your love for each other was such a blessing and we all delighted in it.

I would like to thank you for being there for me each step of the way as Moopy and i stumbled through it together, I cherished her friendship as I cherish yours. You will remain in my prayers Joe. It makes me happy that you are staying in touch with us because you are loved by us all....you can be our baconator valentine and your beloved will be smiling and waiting for you in the most georgeous garden of all.

Huge big bear hugs to you and please share some of that bacon with your pups... xxoo
jackie

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Always thinking of you two!

♥ Kristin ♥

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Good thoughts and prayers are coming your way. And Moopy was right about not giving up--don't ever give up--for our sakes as much as yours. We want our loved ones to be happy and healthy and to live life to the fullest. Keep fighting as your Kindred Spirits fight!

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It is good to see you posting and keeping in touch with us. God bless.
BL

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You truly are an spectacular man. Tears are streaming down my face as I think of the love you and Moopey have for each other. I use the word have because the love is still here and always will be. So many can learn to celebrate their love by your example. Thank you for staying on the board.

Roseann

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Joe I apologize for not acknowledging "our brother" in past posts.I was in the throws of BC treatment and wanted to know what the women who had gone before me had to say.

I must say I admire you so very much. We should all have a man as caring, concerned and loving as you have been with Moopy. You have encouraged other husbands and have encouraged the pink sisters who had guys lacking in compassion, concern and love.

Thank you for being a part of us. I love your photo it speaks so much of you and Moopy and the love you have for each other. I see her smiling face looking down from heaven on of all us.

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Thank you all for your kind words and your unfailing support!

Natly, you have nothing at all to apologize for. We all speak a language that regularly uses "he," "his," and "him" even when referring to someone who is a "she," "hers," "her." I can hardly complain about being mixed in with the sisters. In fact, I consider it a tremendous honor to be mixed in with these beautiful and heroic sisters, here on the CSN board.

Besides, I still have this goofy leopard print winter hat that Moopy used to wear when she was feeling a little goofy herself. I wear it outside fairly regularly, and it probably makes me look extremely goofy, but you know what? I couldn't care less. It's kinda fun to go out and rock my feminine side a little bit!

Love,
Joe

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Good to hear from you and see you posting Joe. I always think of how you are doing and miss Moopy.

Hugs, Debby

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That goofy leopard print hat sounds like the perfect hat to wear Joe!

Take care!

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Sending a big hi and a hug to you Joe!

Leeza

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Hi Joe, Just want you to know that I think of you often and appreciate your posts. Words can't convey how much your support and kind words have meant to me over these past few years. xoxoxoxoxoxo Lynn

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Thanks for posting. Please keep in touch with your pink sisters here. Sending a big hug from all of us!

Jean

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I think about you and the Moopster very often. Bittersweet when thinking of Lisa, as I miss her very much, but am so incredibly blessed to have known her. Yeah, I know, she is probably up there rolling her eyes and blushing. But it's the thruth.

You, I worry about, of course. I think and I hope that if you ever need a shoulder, or I should say shoulders, that you will come and talk to us. You have been there so many times for us...

Hugs,
CR

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am glad that occasionally I see Aortus (Joe) posting. I'm pleased reading that he still has a valentine, she's just in heaven. What a supportive partner you were and continue to be. May you keep happy memories of Lisa in your heart forever.
{{hugs}} Char

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All of us pink ladies are sending very special Valentine hugs your way! We love hearing from you and appreciate all the support you give to all of us, especially after all that you have been through.
Love,
Linda

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Hi Joe, I just want to say I'm super glad you are still checking in, and I'm also keeping you in my prayers.
Mountains of Love,
~Kari

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Yesterday was pretty awful. The one-month anniversary of Moopy's passing, and Valentine's Day thrown in for bad measure. On the brighter side, it was a warm sunny day and the pups had fun romping in the back yard. So I got through it, and today has been a lot better even if I have been faxing and mailing some pretty depressing stuff. I think Moopy would be proud of me for how well I'm handling the financial stuff after so many years of not having to worry about it. Thank you all so much for caring!

Love,
Joe

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group .. or the ability to join a gym? What about the new car? Still looking? How are the pup's adjusting? Your guardian Angel - Moopster23, would want you to enjoy each and everyday. I can not imagine, nor do I want to trade places. Just worried about you. Please remember to take off the leopard print hat before hitting the grocery store, or local gas station. Then again, hey why not! LOL.

Peace, Joy and Strength - I pray for you, Joe.

Kindred Spirit - your Sister in PINK,

Vicki Sam

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the hat is a nice touch. For now. You know what they say: no major changes for a year.

When more time passes, we might suggest you find some other way to express your inner goofiness:)

xoxo
Victoria

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Don't you doubt that for a minute. She's proud of you not only for handling all the (it seems like it will never end) paperwork and arrangements and financial stuff, but even more so for remembering to take a moment away from that to enjoy a warm sunny day with your pups.

(and for not eating bacon at every meal :-)

Traci

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Yes Joe ... Moopy is in heaven ... watching over you ... the pups and all of us "sisters" on the discussion board. We miss her so much but ... her spirit will be with us always. I'm so glad you are still checking in once in awhile ... because all of us sisters are concerned about our brother. Take care ...

hugs,
teena

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Moopy would be soooo proud of you!

Danny won't go touch the finances. He jokes and says that he hates fooling with "dirty money" issues. And I don't mind doing it because I am a little ocd about paying bills anyway.

But it worries me and I am trying to get a folder together of all the bills and passwords.

So I can tell you how I would feel and that would be proud, proud and happy that you are putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward with living. And I believe that you have done remarkably well and should be proud of yourself too.

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Day one of my roadtrip takes me to Iowa City, IA - where I attended grad school from 1982 to 1987. Haven't been back in more than 15 years, and now it looks like a foreign country. I am having a blast driving the new Tiguan. The only problem is that it gets out on the road and wants to do between 75 and 85 regardless of what the speed limit may be. All in all it's been pretty much fun, but then I got up here to the hotel and realized... well, let's just say that the pups and I all love each other very much but it feels very strange not having anyone to call at home. But I talk to Moopy a lot while I'm wandering around and I hope she knows I am still doing my best.

Love to all
Joe

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Your bond with her is so strong that mere physical death cannot touch it.

Sounds like Farfignugen in your Tiguan - maybe your next purchase should be a radar detector?

We're always here for you, brother.

Love and Hugs,
Cindy

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Hey Joe, Watch that speed with that new car, I know that the Tiguan has a mind of it's own but explaining this to the cop's could be a problem. Be safe, She knows
Kathy~

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No need to call home when Moopy is right there with you. Your rode trip with pups in tow sounds fun. It looks like you are enjoying your new ride, too. It is good to hear you are taking a break and visiting former stomping grounds. God bless.
BL

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I have no doubt that she knows and she is smiling down at you paying bills, trying to slow down the car with a mind of its own and being papa to the dogs. I have nothing but the greatest admiration for you. It is very difficult to jump, stumble, or fall back into life after losing someone that was such an important part of our lives. And you are taking the steps (baby, medium or giant) to do just that. It is what every partner who ever loved wants their companion, spouse, significant other to do. I know that is what I would want my Den to do. I tell him if he didn't I would come back and make his life miserable. When my mom lost my dad, she went ahead with her life and said that it was a tribute to dad, to the love that they had and that it would dishonor that love to just crumble and give in to the sadness of it. I didn't really understand at the time but I see now what she means. And you, Aortus, dear brother of us all, are honoring your Moopy by going forward. It doesn't mean it doesn't hurt or that it isn't hard, but she would want you to savor and relish life. And eat bacon (well, a little) and do the finances and live life large. SO proud of you. As for the finances and doing them good for you. I am afraid my Den would be so lost. I have everything budgeted and written down and have all the online passwords etc but he would just sit and stare at it until Denise came over to rescue him. He prefers to have me do it all and just give him cash when he needs it. I love the car that can't be controlled. I can see you roaring down the country lanes with the, what was it, a leopard print hat, on your head and being pulled over and explaining that to a local policeman. So take charge of that car before it gets you into trouble. LOL
And know that we are all here to listen when you need, to laugh when you tell us something funny, and to hear your good, solid advice when you give it. You are truly one of the BBBs we have.
Stef

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