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How to meet other young survivors friends/relationships etc

Damek
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Joined: Feb 2011

I'm 21 years old and I'm cancer free for 2 and half years now. I would like to meet and make friends with other survivors. I have no friends who are survivors and I also know no one who is a survivor. I find it hard to have a relationship with someone who has not been through what I have been through. Fighting for your life really changes everything about you, atleast for me it did.
Anyway, how do I find other young survivors? I feel very alone. Lately this has been depressing me, and I'm a happy person!
Girls/women usually don't imagine their ideal mate to be a cancer survivor with scars etc lol :D

Thanks friends

PS: I checked out cisforcupid but it seems like their website is down. Are they down for good?

Damek
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Joined: Feb 2011

BTW
I'm in southern NH
Anyone near there? Nashua area? I go to school in gardner, MA.

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Chemo_Princess
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C is for cupid didn't have anyone in my city!! I checked it out a few months ago.
Dating is hard-- like you said your outlook on life changes and it would be nice to find another survivor who understands this. I wish you luck!

Damek
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Joined: Feb 2011

Thanks.
You summed up my point of view perfectly.

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sdav12
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Joined: Feb 2011

Im from Mass, I know C is for cupid is pretty wac, the website doesn't even work for me, Where are you from?

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sdav12
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Im from Mass, I know C is for cupid is pretty wac, the website doesn't even work for me, Where are you from?

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Chemo_Princess
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I'm from Kentucky.

ajetsonronald
Posts: 7
Joined: Feb 2011

Hi
I am 28 testicular cancer survivor, I am originally from India currently doing PhD in Italy. How do you do? you seem quite interesting and would like to know more about you.
good luck

caseyj
Posts: 29
Joined: Nov 2010

Hello I am not as young as you but am single and looking for friends too. I have small intestine cancer. It gets pretty lonely and I been through alot and this month found out that They did not find no more cancer. they said They can't say I am cancer free but are still doing all the test. I have stage 4 cancer. I get really lonely and no one to talk to about all this and don't have alot of friends so if you want an old person for a friend would love to be your friend hahahh I am 48 years old.

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jbendola
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Joined: Dec 2010

I'm 25 and an ovarian cancer survivor. None of my friends are survivors and i do at times feel like they dont get it... even the ones im closest to. and dont let the scars get you down. i have a huge one over a foot long on my stomach from near my lady parts to almost up to my breasts.

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Chemo_Princess
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Joined: Aug 2009

I was diagnosed stage 3C ovca at age 30. I have the same scar, plus more. I've had 4 surgeries. Nobody could possibly understand what we have been thru unless they have experienced it themselves.

ajetsonronald
Posts: 7
Joined: Feb 2011

Hi
I am 28 testicular cancer survivor, I am originally from India currently doing PhD in Italy. I under went 2 surgeries I have a scary scar in the chest. I have shown to few of my friends and they were shocked. It is an issuse I take lot of efforts to hide, I like to swim but now I even avoide that because of this scar.

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rathgirl
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Joined: Jun 2010

hi im a 20 yr. old leukemia survivor. i know what you mean completely. im welcoming new friendships all the time :) so feel free to message me on here.

krysten

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kurtis
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Joined: Feb 2011

I'm 18 and in treatment for colon cancer, so I know how you feel. I'm engaged and my girlfriend has always been there for me regardless of the cancer and scars, you just have to find the right one!

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sunshine0406
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Joined: Mar 2011

I go to a young cancer survivors group. I got a business card for the one I go to when I started my treatment. Have you asked at the nearby hospitals cancer centers? sometimes they know about support groups in the area or they might even have one (the hospital I go to has cancer support groups, mostly older people, but the one I go to is in a nearby town). You could even start one. we only meet once a month at a hospital cancer center classroom. nothing fancy just a bunch of women sitting around talking about different things going on in our lives. We are all in different stages of survivor-ship. Hope this helps.

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BMTBohoBabe
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Joined: Apr 2011

I completely understand where you are coming from. After going through everything you've gone through you're different. I don't think its a bad thing. I like who I became after everything. I'm a little punk with all my scars. I changed a bit from being really happy just because its hard. I'm still kind of angry about everything I've had to deal with. I know a lot of people who aren't survivors don't get it. I would love to get to know you and talk. Hope to hear from you.

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