Feb 09, 2011 - 9:02 am
My husband is a little bit past the 4 week mark post radiation/chemo. I really don't know what to do with meals. Should I just let him decide what he wants (which is nothing)or fix him a plate of food and have him come to the table? For dinner last evening, I presented him with a very small portion of cut up rotisserie chicken and cauliflower/broccoli (cooked tender)with cheese sauce. He took only a few bites and the expression on his face was difficult to take. He looked like he was being tortured. I had little appetite myself, having to witness his agony. I have a lot of anxiety about his calories, fluids, and protein. The dietitian does not want him to have more than 80 g of protein due to kidney issues. He has been dizzy due to inadequate fluid intake (at least that is what the doctor thinks). I spend a lot of time keeping a record of his intake and when evening comes and he is short on calories, fluid, or protein, I feel compelled to nag him about intake. He is getting 3 cans of tube feeding formula per PEG each day. Per the dietitian's recommendation, he is giving himself the feedings now. Remarkably, Buzz did not lose any weight during treatment but now he has lost 6 pounds in two weeks. I have to constantly remind him to drink. Should I back off completely? Gently remind him? I am afraid he would become dehydrated and starve without my intervention.