worry..need some advise

joeline12
joeline12 Member Posts: 53
edited March 2014 in Head and Neck Cancer #1
hi everyone

my dad had his yearly scan report last thursday but this time thing doesn't look good
it mark his 5th year of remission this year but last week report came in not clean. was told that there is a mass in his lung about 5.6 x 5.9cm at his upper lung lobe and lower lung lobe. well the doc could not cfm whether is it cancer or not. so futher test need to be done in order to find out. i am very worry now.. my mind just couldn't stop thinking about the words CANCER.. i am very scare that the cancer had move into his lung.. what should i do???

thanks

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  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #2
    Hi Joeline
    Don’t change anything you are doing with your Dad, keep loving him and making him know you think the world of him. When it comes times for the biopsy just be there with him, and keep praying for him. My oldest daughter has been a strong support to me through all my treatments and continues to be so. I know it is hard not to worry, but until you have a pathologic report back it might be nothing, a lot of my PET scans came back bad showing something there, but when the doctors took a look they could not find anything.

    All the best to both of you
    Hondo
  • Hal61
    Hal61 Member Posts: 655
    #3
    Worry
    Hi Joeline, welcome, and I'm sorry to hear your dad has a situation to deal with. Hondo has the best advice. It's easy to tell someone not to worry until the tests come in, but in our world it's the only way to go. Do what you're doing, and take it step at a time. I'm sure your dad is very grateful to have your support, and he will do his best for you.

    Hal
  • mswijiknyc
    mswijiknyc Member Posts: 421
    #4
    ditto
    both Hondo and Hal are right. As a caregiver myself, I have an absolute spaz everytime something new shows up. But 30 seconds into said spaz I remember there is no sense in getting all worked up until i have ALL the info I can. Only kamikazes can go into a fight with only limited info and one directive.

    Deep breath in, hold to the count of 4, breath out. It's ok to be scared and think the worst. That's why you hope for the best and it usually falls somewhere in the middle.

    Lots of hugs - let us know how things turn out.
  • joeline12
    joeline12 Member Posts: 53
    #5
    mswijiknyc said:

    ditto
    both Hondo and Hal are right. As a caregiver myself, I have an absolute spaz everytime something new shows up. But 30 seconds into said spaz I remember there is no sense in getting all worked up until i have ALL the info I can. Only kamikazes can go into a fight with only limited info and one directive.

    Deep breath in, hold to the count of 4, breath out. It's ok to be scared and think the worst. That's why you hope for the best and it usually falls somewhere in the middle.

    Lots of hugs - let us know how things turn out.

    hope for the best
    Thank Guys

    i still trying to think positive.. i live in Asia and i am a Chinese which mean that we will be celebrating Chinese New Year in a couple of days time. i really hope to get good news but i think it will difficult because he will be seeing the lung doc on 01 Feb, likely they will not be able to tell any thing at that point too.. is there anyone out there where the doc mention that the lung is not clean but ended its nothing at all????
  • backachedp
    backachedp Member Posts: 132
    #6
    joeline12 said:

    hope for the best
    Thank Guys

    i still trying to think positive.. i live in Asia and i am a Chinese which mean that we will be celebrating Chinese New Year in a couple of days time. i really hope to get good news but i think it will difficult because he will be seeing the lung doc on 01 Feb, likely they will not be able to tell any thing at that point too.. is there anyone out there where the doc mention that the lung is not clean but ended its nothing at all????

    My Husband had surgery in
    My Husband had surgery in Nov as his PET came back with 2 spot's on his Lung's...of course we were very worried...they took 10 Biopsies and they all came back clear...I know how hard it is when you do not know...but I pray for you and your Husband that it will be nothing..please let us know as soon as you hear anything. I hope I have given you some encouragment. I wish I could give more to all the wonderful folks on this board....
  • joeline12
    joeline12 Member Posts: 53
    #7
    backachedp said:

    My Husband had surgery in
    My Husband had surgery in Nov as his PET came back with 2 spot's on his Lung's...of course we were very worried...they took 10 Biopsies and they all came back clear...I know how hard it is when you do not know...but I pray for you and your Husband that it will be nothing..please let us know as soon as you hear anything. I hope I have given you some encouragment. I wish I could give more to all the wonderful folks on this board....

    i just realise that spot and
    i just realise that spot and mass is a different thing
    is it true?
  • joeline12
    joeline12 Member Posts: 53
    #8
    backachedp said:

    My Husband had surgery in
    My Husband had surgery in Nov as his PET came back with 2 spot's on his Lung's...of course we were very worried...they took 10 Biopsies and they all came back clear...I know how hard it is when you do not know...but I pray for you and your Husband that it will be nothing..please let us know as soon as you hear anything. I hope I have given you some encouragment. I wish I could give more to all the wonderful folks on this board....

    i just realise that spot and
    i just realise that spot and mass is a different thing
    is it true?
  • Mikki332
    Mikki332 Member Posts: 49
    #9
    joeline12 said:

    i just realise that spot and
    i just realise that spot and mass is a different thing
    is it true?

    be calm and wait....
    .....I've been in your spot as a caregiver. They found 3 sites in my husbands lungs during his treatment. It turned out that one was just a shadow from the xray. The other 2 were small masses, but the doc reassured us that it might not be cancer....he said the masses can be bits of ingested tooth from dental surgeries, an encapsulated fungus, etc. After a needle biopsy, it was discovered that Gary had an encapsulated fungus. He probably picked it up 20 years ago during basic training and never knew he had it. Just remember not to borrow worry from tomorrow, there's enough to deal with today.
  • joeline12
    joeline12 Member Posts: 53
    #10
    Mikki332 said:

    be calm and wait....
    .....I've been in your spot as a caregiver. They found 3 sites in my husbands lungs during his treatment. It turned out that one was just a shadow from the xray. The other 2 were small masses, but the doc reassured us that it might not be cancer....he said the masses can be bits of ingested tooth from dental surgeries, an encapsulated fungus, etc. After a needle biopsy, it was discovered that Gary had an encapsulated fungus. He probably picked it up 20 years ago during basic training and never knew he had it. Just remember not to borrow worry from tomorrow, there's enough to deal with today.

    update
    well we seen the doc and doc say 90% its cancer. its seem rather serious as the tumour already grow outside the lung. now waiting for date to do biopsy and likely to do more chemo which i don know whether my dad is about to take it or not. now we are looking into 2nd treatment example traditional chinese medicine..

    this will be how i am going to spend my chinese new year :(
  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #11
    joeline12 said:

    update
    well we seen the doc and doc say 90% its cancer. its seem rather serious as the tumour already grow outside the lung. now waiting for date to do biopsy and likely to do more chemo which i don know whether my dad is about to take it or not. now we are looking into 2nd treatment example traditional chinese medicine..

    this will be how i am going to spend my chinese new year :(

    Joeline

    I am sorry to hear this but Just to let you know my cancer came back three times before I finally got rid of it, so there is hope.

    All the best to you and Dad
    Hondo

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