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Lisa is still here with us. I have been talking to her every day. She is my friend forever.
Please take care of yourself.
Hugs,
New Flower

Oh Joe, I think about you and Moopy everyday. Not usually with words but with lots of emotion. I don't think any of us have gotten over this nor will for some time. I still can't wrap my mind around how fast all this happened and my stupid analytical mind is still trying to find the "how could this happen" and driving me insane. My heart goes out to you and the family and to all of us that love her. Your right she's always going to be with you on this next leg of life's journey...like a hint of rose on a summer breeze.
All my best to you and your future,
jan

Joe, I am not surprised that Moopy is still around you, while here she seemed to have a spirit that soared and a smile to match. I am glad to hear you had many loved ones there to help lift you up during such a sad time. We will always be here for you Joe, you are one of us!

RE

If you keep your memories close to your heart she will always be with you. You don't ever have to leave us Joe. Just the short time ( 1 1/2 yrs ) I have been around you have been a big part of this board. I see no reason for that to change. You are loved here as much as Moopy. Besides I think your going to need us now more than ever. Were the best. Can't do better anywhere else and we don't charge much and besides all that we enjoy you to. So How about those Packers !!!
Kathy ~

Joe... beneath the bedroom window sounds like the perfect place for the bonsai azalea... I am so glad that you were surrounded by loved ones. I send special prayers daily for you... and know that you will weather through this storm... I pray that your memories begin to bring you comfort... your right, she will always be around you. Know that you are a part of us, we are here for you! We love you!

Hugs,
~T

I know that Moopy will always be in your heart and therefore will always be with you. I know she is looking after all of us here as well. We will all look forward to you staying with us and giving advise as the great supporter you were for her.

Hugs,
Georgia

Just your presence on this board, fighting along side of Moopy meant so much
to me. There were so many stories on men leaving their wives and girl friends and
with your presence you gave me hope. What can be more valuable than hope?

I lost my mom, I didn't even get a chance to say good bye, it was the worst thing
that I had to go through in my life. It took years before the pain in my chest was
not as palpable. But it got better over time.

And I don't believe that a soul just disappears, I still think she's around.

Hopefully you will stick around and continue sharing your wit and intelligence with us.

Love,
Ayse

... for so generously sharing your beloved Moopster with all of us.

We'll always be here for you.

Love, Susan

As far as crying during the service, I say good for you. I can cry at the drop of a hat for most things but when my dad died and my mom too I felt the need to hold it in. Such a bad idea. Tears are a way for us to release stress, tension, fear, and sorrow and we should never hold them back. And it is good to know that you have strong family support right now.
It is also good to see you saying that Moopy is still with you. Those we love truly are. It has been 47 years today since my dad died and I still talk with him. I physically miss him but he has been there for all the moments of my life. My marriage, the birth of my child and my grandchildren. And I talk with my mom now as well. It may not be the same but it gives me comfort.
You know that we all want to stay a part of our family. You are such an important part of us. You give support, comfort and humor to this board. Moopy was beloved by all and so are you dear Aortus.
Stef

Thank you for telling us about the service. I so wanted to be there. I agree with all the others ... sounds like you found the perfect place for the azalea.

I agree with fauxma ... good for you that you were able to express yourself emotionally at the funeral. I too held it in at my mother's funeral and I'm paying for that now.

And you're right, Moopy is still around. Those that we love never truly leave us. I agree with Aysemari ... you and Moopy were such a great example of true love, and faithfulness to one another. Thank you for sharing it with us!

Continued prayers for you!

Joe, your love for Moopy was always evident on this board and is so evident in this post. She is a very special Kindred Spirit and will be with all of us until eternity. I, too, lost my spouse almost 28 years ago and can tell you that the hole in your heart will heal in time but will never totally go away. I think once you've loved someone with your entire being that love is eternal. The memories that were created will sustain you and bring you joy. Be kind to yourself and make it a point to also take care of yourself. Thank YOU for sharing your Moopy with all of us. Also, please come here often because we want to be here for you, too!

Thank you for sharing the service with us, just as we thank you for sharing your love for Lisa with us. I'm so glad you know that she's sill with you.

Please visit us often. We're happy to share in all the new adjustments you'll be making.

marge

Joe, Thanks for telling us about the azalea. I imagine it growing in love and beauty. Thank goodness you were and are able to cry and God bless your tears that they may help you heal and find your "new normal." We all love you, Joe. xoxoxo Lynn

and Moopy's posts. I was dignosed in June of '09, but lurked here for a year and a half before begnning to post. It was such a brutal and emotional roller coaster that I felt unable to comment, althogh I leaned a lot and drew strength from others posts. Now I am better and feel I can actually share my experience.

My husband is very supportive as well, and I see us in your and Moopy's posts.

For sharing your memories and feelings about Moopy's funeral. I'm so glad that you could feel us around you, because we were definitely with you in spirit, and will continue to be.

I know that you are strong, but am glad to hear that you have been able to release your sadness through tears. They can be so healing, and I know that you will have more healing ahead. We are all here to help in any way you can.

Love and Hugs,
Cindy

Thank you for sharing Moopy's service with us, Joe. It sounds like it was beautiful.

Yes, of course you cried. I would be worried if you hadn't. Terribly hard saying good-bye to your life partner and friend.

I HOPE that you will remain here, on the board. You have been through so much, helping Lisa through her two year battle. Both of you were my strength, on many occasions, and I think you have an incredible amount of knowledge and encouragement to give here.

And we will be here for you. If you need a shoulder, if you need propping up, when sadness knocks you down, we are here.

Heartfelt hugs for you...
CR

There is nothing I can do, to make her come back
There are no words I can say, that can replace her words you long to hear

There are no answers I can give that will satisfy your questions,
There is not another soul I can introduce to you,
That will ever replace hers
And there is no love I can offer you
That will ever replace the love you shared

I cannot promise your broken heart
Will ever be complete,
I will not say that it could have been worse
I will not deny that it was a tragedy
I will not lie and tell you she will be back

She never really left

I do promise you she hears you when you speak
I will say she loves you no matter what the distance
I will not deny she is in a better place
And will not lie she is waiting to greet you someday

She is every step you take
She is everything you do
She is the air you breathe
She is every beat of your heart

She is like the wind, you cannot see her ... but you will always feel her

Peace and Love,
Edie

You ARE surrounded by your Kindred Spirits. And I know that Moopy wants us to continue to keep an eye on you and shore you up when need be. If there is one lesson most of us want our loved ones to learn from our experience, it is that we want you to go forth, be happy and live every day as it is your last. My prayers are with you. Moopy was such a bright spirit--you must have some amazing memories.

Thank you for sharing the lovely service with us. Tears are never something to be ashamed of. In this case,they're just one of many ways that show how special Lisa is. They also demonstrate what an amazing person you are.

I'm not finding the right words to express the rest of what I'm feeling. Please know that you are in my thoughts.

Hugs,

Linda

a beautiful guardian angel now. She will always be with you and looking after you. You have comforted us all by sharing. Thank you.

Hugs, Sally

Thank you! We are all here for you.

Big bearhugs,

Sue

thanks for being here for us and sharing everything that has happened. Lisa (Moopy) will be remembered with fondness. I still am having a hard time emotionally because it was so sudden. I lost my first husband of 2 years to a car accident. I was 23 years old. It was a sudden tragedy. I have now been married for 36 years to a wonderful man. Keep your loving memories with you always. It's the little things in life that will make you think of her.
{{hugs}} Char

The posts from you and Moopy have been special to me, so filled with love and hope. I hope you get through the future with less pain every day, and that you find joy in memories of her and what the future may bring.I don't have the gift of saying the right things, so I'll just say, I am so very sorry for your/our loss.
~~Connie~~

Thanks for sharing this with us. You and Moopy were just so lucky to have each other. Take care of yourself.

Hugs,
Jean

Joe,

Thank you for this very nice (and well written, I might add) update on how you are doing.

I have been a wreck this week and have cried so much I'm surprised I'm not dehydrated. :-)

I cried when I saw the first post about Lisa's death, when I read the one about her funeral, every time I light a candle for Lisa and just any time I think about the two of you.

Take care.

Wolfi

memorial service honoring Moopy. What a blessing also for the many loving years you shared and her spirit that you feel within you.

Thanks for all of your prayers and posts helping others.

God Bless,

Sylvia

Thank you so much for sharing yourself and Moopy with all of us. Your post brought tears to my eyes especially where you said, "I walked out the door of the church into a new life." Very poignant. I can only hope that my husband feels about me the way you so clearly feel about Lisa.

Joe,and for staying with us.

for keeping us updated to your well being. You and your family are still in my prayers!!
~Kari

Thanks Joe for sharing this with us. It really meant a lot knowing that everything went fine with the funeral and mass. I hope when you get another chance to visit California, please call me up and don't be ashame. Me and Bobby will always be there for you.

JoyD