Dec 19, 2010 - 8:59 am
I have been dating my bf for over 5 yrs. He was just dx'd w bladder ca, which is his 2nd cancer dx (our first together). He is understandably depressed but does not want to go for psych support. He also understandably wants to pursue surgery ASAP.
I am scared and concerned and sad and angry. I want to "be there" for him. But I don't want to "lose myself," either. The holidays are approaching and I wanted to visit my family. I also have a demanding job and planned on taking a couple of days of much-needed vacation time.
I am high risk myself and come from a family with cancer, so I DO understand how serious this is. How can I set some reasonable boundaries without abandoning him---or building up a storehouse of burnout or resentment?