I was shocked to learn....

KathiM
KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
That there are persons that feel that long-term survivors should not share their life experiences with others....

because then they are (wait for it....) GLOATING!!!!!! What???????????????

I don't know about you all, but I CELEBRATE each and every piece of news that my sisters here share that show that their lives are returning to 'normal'....sigh....wow!

I also was in the trenches, too....as you all know...lost my hair, 65 pounds, and my ability to digest milk products. AND from the treatment to save my life now have the bones of a 90 year old woman...

The only gloating that I may do, at least my intention, is against the beast...I have stared it down twice!!!!

Hugs, Kathi
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  • Bella Luna
    Bella Luna Member Posts: 1,578 Member
    #2
    That makes no sense
    Talk about missing the Massive BOAT!!! I love to hear stories of long term Warriors. It is what we( Survivors/Warriors) all want to be.
    BL
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    #3
    Bring It On!!!!!!!
    I wish all of us the opportunity to join a Long-Time Survivors board! I think there should be a yearly or perhaps monthly King and Queen of Gloat~ sorta like Homecoming Royalty! There should be honorable mention gloaters! Gloat Awards should abound! Bring on the competition! I want ALL of us to try and out-do the other on longevity coupled with quality of life!

    Any questions?????? Didn't think so! LOL ( as my Reggie wouold say, Chen has her grrrrr on today!)
  • Boppy_of_6
    Boppy_of_6 Member Posts: 1,138
    #4
    Bella Luna said:

    That makes no sense
    Talk about missing the Massive BOAT!!! I love to hear stories of long term Warriors. It is what we( Survivors/Warriors) all want to be.
    BL

    Thats crazy!!
    I LOVE to hear stories from long term survivors, the longer the better!! Gives us all HOPE!! If they are "gloating" they probably deserve to. I say yea for them!! God Bless
    (((Hugs))) Janice
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    #5
    chenheart said:

    Bring It On!!!!!!!
    I wish all of us the opportunity to join a Long-Time Survivors board! I think there should be a yearly or perhaps monthly King and Queen of Gloat~ sorta like Homecoming Royalty! There should be honorable mention gloaters! Gloat Awards should abound! Bring on the competition! I want ALL of us to try and out-do the other on longevity coupled with quality of life!

    Any questions?????? Didn't think so! LOL ( as my Reggie wouold say, Chen has her grrrrr on today!)

    OK then....thought so....
    Thanks for making it clear, my dear Chen.....ROFLMAO!!!

    Hugs, Kathi

    (Should I tell her I feel like saluting and saying "Yes, Ma'am!")
  • cahjah75
    cahjah75 Member Posts: 2,631
    #6
    Kathi
    I for one like to hear from long time survivors because it gives us all hope for a better future. It's sad when someone has a recurrence or has bc metastized to other locations. We are all here to share our experiences and to get encouragement any way we can. I hope no one ever thinks we're gloating. Heavens, I think we're all glad to be alive!
    {{hugs}} Char
  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
    #7
    That's simply NUTS!!
    Without the long-term survivors, what's left? I look at the long-term survivors as my role models.....I want to be just like them.
  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    #8
    where did you hear or read this?
    I think we will all remember for ever our ups and downs...good and bad...it makes us who we are
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    #9
    disneyfan2008 said:

    where did you hear or read this?
    I think we will all remember for ever our ups and downs...good and bad...it makes us who we are

    OMG .. now I've heard it all! LOL .. What the F#@$
    is wrong with people .. Who said it, and when.. tell me, please .. cuz, I'll kick their assss!


    Yes .. don't fool with my FRIENDS!


    Vicki Sam
  • mwallace1325
    mwallace1325 Member Posts: 806
    #10
    Gloating my a**
    Who could possibly make their mouth say such a stupid thing?? It's not gloating - it's CELEBRATING. Anyone who's survived for any length of time has a right to celebrate or gloat or dance naked in the streets if that's their choice. I know I love hearing about long time survivors. It gives me something to aspire to, and lets me know there are others out there cheering me on to do it too.

    marge
  • kya911
    kya911 Member Posts: 157
    #11
    mwallace1325 said:

    Gloating my a**
    Who could possibly make their mouth say such a stupid thing?? It's not gloating - it's CELEBRATING. Anyone who's survived for any length of time has a right to celebrate or gloat or dance naked in the streets if that's their choice. I know I love hearing about long time survivors. It gives me something to aspire to, and lets me know there are others out there cheering me on to do it too.

    marge

    Good Grief !!!!!!!!!!!!
    What is this person thinking.
    I want to hear very long term survivor story.
    I want to thank each & everyone of you for telling us your wonderful encouraging story.
    Please don't stop.
  • ccincin
    ccincin Member Posts: 82
    #12
    honestly!
    Those are the only stories I want to hear!! I know it won't be but wish they all were stories of long term!!
  • mollyz
    mollyz Member Posts: 756 Member
    #13
    ccincin said:

    honestly!
    Those are the only stories I want to hear!! I know it won't be but wish they all were stories of long term!!

    WOW
    That's what i look for to read first the long term it gives me hope
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
    #14
    mollyz said:

    WOW
    That's what i look for to read first the long term it gives me hope

    Gloat??? I dont think so,
    Gloat??? I dont think so, but agree with Chen want to join the long term competition. May we all be crowned!!!
    I think its wonderful. that long term survivors stick around to hold the hand of those who are just starting the journey. Its actually easier to leave. We appreciate you kathi. let VS kick their butt!
  • DebbyM
    DebbyM Member Posts: 3,289 Member
    #15
    mollyz said:

    WOW
    That's what i look for to read first the long term it gives me hope

    ?
    I don't know where you read that Kathi. I dont' think you read it on this bc board. And, if you did, I certainly missed it. I have never seen anything even close to that discussed or even alluded to here. The long term survivors have always been helpful and offer encouragement. And, for the ones that don't post anymore, it makes me know that they have moved on with their lives and are happy and living life without cancer.

    The only sad part is when they get mets. Hate reading that :(

    Pray for all of us daily!
  • LadyParvati
    LadyParvati Member Posts: 328
    #16
    carkris said:

    Gloat??? I dont think so,
    Gloat??? I dont think so, but agree with Chen want to join the long term competition. May we all be crowned!!!
    I think its wonderful. that long term survivors stick around to hold the hand of those who are just starting the journey. Its actually easier to leave. We appreciate you kathi. let VS kick their butt!

    Long-term survivors are my
    Long-term survivors are my inspiration! How would I know about them if they didn't tell me?

    Definitely crown them all!
  • Scotch Freckles
    Scotch Freckles Member Posts: 273 Member
    #17
    Life Stories
    I love hearing how all are doing and dealing with the beast. I am amazed daily hearing all the trials and tribulations each one goes through. Those who's journey is difficult and sometimes short just reassure there is hope. I try not to mention my journey since it was so short and not so difficult, but, I still deal daily with not knowing whether the beast will ever raise it's ugly head at me again. To those who have difficult and long journey's I bow to you.

    Kathryn
  • TereB
    TereB Member Posts: 286 Member
    #18
    What???
    Maybe the person who said that is very lucky and has never had cancer and doesn't know about the initial fear, the fight, recovery and the happiness of being a survivor. Or maybe this person is bitter about something. I don't think it is gloating at all. When I've been scared, it's the survivors, with their experience, who have given me hope, help me think that I can survive too. On the other side of the coin, I have a rare cancer which I've been fighting since 1987 and I guess it makes me a long-term survivor. At that time there wasn't much information about this type of tumor, even some doctors had never heard of it. Now there is information around but before that, as a survivor, I was able to help those that were newly diagnosed, who were scared and thought it was the end of their lives.

    What would we do without the survivors who give us hope and information? I was here in the breast cancer section a few years back and I am very grateful for the support I received from the survivors I met here, who helped me calm down and held my hand.
  • Hubby
    Hubby Member Posts: 325
    #19
    That's Insane
    This board can be depressing at times, and it is the long term survivors that lift the spirits of the entire board. If what you're doing is considered bragging or gloating, then keep on doing it, 'cause it's workin' for me!!!

    Bob
  • ms.sunshine
    ms.sunshine Member Posts: 707 Member
    #20
    Hubby said:

    That's Insane
    This board can be depressing at times, and it is the long term survivors that lift the spirits of the entire board. If what you're doing is considered bragging or gloating, then keep on doing it, 'cause it's workin' for me!!!

    Bob

    Gloat on
    The long timers are an inspiration. I feel if they can do it then darn it so WILL I!!!!
  • jo jo
    jo jo Member Posts: 1,175
    #21
    chenheart said:

    Bring It On!!!!!!!
    I wish all of us the opportunity to join a Long-Time Survivors board! I think there should be a yearly or perhaps monthly King and Queen of Gloat~ sorta like Homecoming Royalty! There should be honorable mention gloaters! Gloat Awards should abound! Bring on the competition! I want ALL of us to try and out-do the other on longevity coupled with quality of life!

    Any questions?????? Didn't think so! LOL ( as my Reggie wouold say, Chen has her grrrrr on today!)

    GET YOUR GRRRRRR ON!!!
    Yes Kathi....saluting Chen and calling her ma'am....cuz shes got her GRRRRR on today!!!!
    This post...in a good way...has gotten everyones GRRRRR on!!!
    I believe some people just dont think before they open their mouths and if thats truely how they feel then they are just cruel or uneducated people!!!

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