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VanessaN
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Hi everyone, on Oct 11 i was dignosed with cervical cancer, on Oct 20 I found out that the tumor is 5cm.
Next week Im getting a PET/CT done and very nervous about getting it done.
nov 16 Im having surgery done and getting my uterus removed the Dr doesn't want to remove everything because of my age (27) and she doesnt want to throw me into early menopause.I will be starting chemo also
Im just so scared about everything righ now. I have 3 children and almost 9 months ago I lost my youngest daughter's father to stomach cancer.
I would love to hear any stories from people in my shoes.
Thanks Vanessa!

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bluerose
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Joined: Jul 2009

I am sorry to hear that you are going through all of this but you can do it. I know it's all new and overwhelming right now but step by step you will get it done.

I am a 22 year survivor of non hodgkins lymphoma, had one recurrance in the first two years after initial diagnosis and that was it. I have been considered cured for many years now. I have many side effects from treatments but they were many years ago as I said.

I can share with you something that might help. I don't know if you are a spiritual person or not but I too had a very young family when I went through severe treatments for my cancer. I prayed to be allowed to survive so that I could be there for my kids as they grew up and I can tell you that that is one powerful prayer, to be there for your children. I had an actual healing take place after praying that prayer over and over for several nights and the cancer has never returned.

I believe that the prayer of a Mother for her children is the strongest prayer there is and that was proven to me in spades through my experience. My daughter was about 3 when I went through treatment and my son was 5 and today my daugher is finishing up her degree in Marine Biology at University and is engaged to be married next year. I got my wish and so can you.

It's a new day in cancer treatments for sure. I heard a statistic recently that over 63% can be cured and after that many, if not cured, can be managed over many years - it then becomes more of a chronic disease to them. Many many are curable though so know that.

Fight on for your children and pray and one day you will be sitting at the computer telling some other newbie that you too are a 22 year survivor.

Keep us informed if you have time.

You can do it.

Blessings, Bluerose

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VanessaN
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Joined: Oct 2010

I do believe in God and boy am I being tested.
I need to be here for my kids. My son has aspergers and I have to be here to make sure he eats at 6pm and has teh same plate and cup and he has a dream to become gov one day (he is only 8 but boy oh boy is he into poltics.
My youngest wants to be a mom and have a big family lol, my oldest wants to become rich lol and go to Duke.
I'm a single parent and God has to get me through this he has to.
Congrats to you for being a 22 yr survivor!!

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bluerose
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Joined: Jul 2009

Sounds like your kids, even with a challenge like Asbergers, have such high goals which means that you have done a great job and the fact that your daughter wants to become a Mom with a big family shows how well you have role modeled for her. Good job Mom.

I'm sure with your prayers to be there for your children God will get you through so you can see your daughter become a Mom and your son a goernor - hey wanting to be rich and go to Duke - not too shabby a goal either. lol.

Step by step through your treatments, It helps. Post on this board often, lots of people here to help mentor you as well.

Blessings, Bluerose

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grandmafay
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Joined: Aug 2009

I just wanted you to know that I am here and have added you to my prayers. I was talking to a friend yesterday who is a cervical cancer survivor for over 15 years. You have a lot on your plate. Just being a single parent is a full-time job. It is no wonder that you are stressed and scared. Hang in there and take things one baby step at a time. Put your support system to work. While I was caregiver for my husband, I found that many friends wanted to help. Reach out to family and friends now. Prayers and hugs, Fay

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VanessaN
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Joined: Oct 2010

Having cancer has really taught me a lot even though I am new with my dignoses.
But being that I am due to go in the hospital soon and I dont want to leave everything on my mom so my kids school has asked if I needed anything and the school therpist said how about I get a email out to all the teachers and we can have the school faculty make meals while you are in the hospital, normally i would say no becuase I dont like taking help but i said yes please please please and thank you!
Our church is also going to help as well.
Again thanks to both of you for teh prayers I need all I can get!

VAnessa

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bluerose
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Joined: Jul 2009

Acdepting help from others is incredibly hard for lots of people diagnosed with cancer. They want to remain independant and do everything themselves as before but they don't realize how difficult it could be during treatment. So you are way ahead of the game by accepting help from others and I think that shcool is amazing offering to send out an email to get others to help as well. AMAZING. I wish more communities were like that.

I did the opposite thing you are doing and stubbornly turned away offers for help and made it so much harder for myself but when it recurred I learned my lesson.

Good going with the decision to let people help. Proud of you.

Keep in touch with the boatds, we are here for you too. You aren't alone in all of this.

Hugs.

Blessings,
Bluerose

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grandmafay
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Joined: Aug 2009

Good for you! There is a hymn that says something about allowing others to help us. I think it is just as important to be a thankful receiver as it is to serve others. Allowing others to help is another way of serving God. When you are better and can help others, I know you will pass it forward. Right now, you need to take care of yourself. Hug your kids, and thank those who help. Blessings, Fay

rankind
Posts: 36
Joined: Sep 2010

My prayers are with you and your kids. Hang in there and stay stong for your children. Your mom is much stronger than you think so don't hesitate to rely on her.

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Silver_Foxette
Posts: 137
Joined: May 2010

I wanted to share with you that I had cervical cancer ,stage 3 ,that was 30 yrs ago .I was 25 at the time . You hang in there,God blessed you with children and you will constantly draw strength from them .And they will draw strength from you as they see you fight .How awesome to have a church family to step in and help you . Take care and LIVESTRONG ! {{{hugs}}}

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