Sep 21, 2010 - 4:22 pm
What a wonderful site. Daily I am amazed by the compassion, understanding and helpfulness that is offered to frightened posts from patients and/or their caregivers, still in shock from the diagnosis or suffering grief from the loss of a loved one. I know it has been of great benefit to us. If you are a caregiver you might identify with the "we" of the situation. As soon as my husband's journey began, it became our journey. "We" were taking chemo. "We" were undergoing radiation. "We" had appointments to keep. Quite frankly, I didn't use the "We" when it came to the surgery. That was solely his to endure; I just cheered on the sidelines. Seemingly, I got carried away with "We." During this ordeal, I had to call our family doctor's office for an appointment. As I was making the appointment, I said to the very helpful lady on the phone, "'Our'" husband needs to see Dr. so and so." She started laughing and said, "I already have enough trouble handling one husband, and I'm not going to share yours." I started laughing. So, now, every time, we need to schedule an appointment and are at his office, she always asks, "How's 'our' husband doing?" Today, I pointed her out to my husband and told him, "That's your other wife." We all thought it funny. It was good to laugh. As you continue to deal with this terrible disease, I hope there are many times when you can be relieved by sharing some laughter. It makes one feel good.