Sep 21, 2010 - 11:33 am
I continue to find it amusing how people react when they find out you have cancer. I find that there are four distinct reactions:
1. The 'religous response': "Oh my god! Can I pray for you..." (I don't mind this.)
2. The 'curious response': "No way! Cancer? Really?! What kind? How did you find out? What are your treatments? What's your prognosis?..." (I don't mind this.)
3. The 'wisecrack response': "You? Throat cancer? Ha! Finally they found a way to shut you up!" (I actually prefer this.)
4. The 'death support response': This is the one I find most amusing. "Oh I am so sorry. What kind of cancer? Throat cancer? Oh that's what my nephew had. I remember when he had his chemo and radiation. Yeah, he died so quickly after his diagnosis. he only made it like a year. Good luck to you though."
I've had several people respond to my news about cancer by immediately going to a place of, "let me tell you all about the people I know who died from cancer." I know they mean well but it makes me crack up laughing afterwards that they don't realize that telling a cancer patient such morbid cancer stories doesn't really inspire confidence and a positive attitude. Yesterday someone (who really is sweet and tried to mean well) actually said to me, "oh he died such a horrible death. He couldn't speak or even breathe at the end." Gee, thanks! You make me feel so much better.