Aug 30, 2010 - 8:31 pm
Basketcase checking in here. I've been on my own since Sat. now and it is very hard. I miss Charlie so much! The visitation and service were beautiful and so many people came by and to the funeral. Our church provided a luncheon after the service and it was just great! His brother and I spoke at the funeral service which was tough, but we got through it! One of the things his brother said was that Charlie had told him, "I've not shed a tear and I'm not going to" and he never did (that was probably because I was such a basketcase and one of us had to be glued together!) I received a very nice letter from the oncologist saying that even if we had pulled him through this acute illness, he still faced a very difficult time with his cancer in the future and that at least now we could say his suffering was over. He went on to say he faced his illness with a great deal of courage and it was an honor to have been his physician these past two years.
I'm now in the midst of handling all the financial details that go along with this. So far, everything's gone pretty smoothly. I will still continue to post and reply. Ain't no way I'm forgetting any of y'all! And let me tell all of you how grateful I am for your prayers, words of encouragement, sentiments, etc. It has meant so much to me to be a part of this network. I wish I could meet everyone of you and give you a big hug. My sister is coming back down this Thurs. and staying till Sat. and I will take her back to Chatt. where I will spend the Labor Day weekend with my best friend and her family on the lake; and then I'm going to Hilton Head on 9/16 with them to their older son's condo for about 5 days. I have my moments of course and I know that is going to happen, but as quirky as it may sound there is some comfort in the fact he wanted to be creamated and I have the urn here at home and that is some comfort. We never did discuss where to scatter ashes and he was a big Tarheels fan and I'm a big TN fan so couldn't do it in Knoxville or Chapel Hill so I've decided after everything calms down to make my wishes known with pre-arrangement and be cremated also and then maybe by that time I'll have figured out where to scatter us and we can be scattered together! My prayers are with all of you and I don't know what I would do if I didn't have my csn buds to turn to! Thanks so much. God bless and my love to all of you!