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Nana b
Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
edited March 2014 in Colorectal Cancer #1
I know you are taking this hard! Hugs, I need a hug and here is one to you!! THIS IS THE FIRST TIME I'VE CRIED. I DIDN'T EVEN CRY WHEN DIAGNOSED! DONNA AND I CAME ON THIS BOARD ABOUT THE SAME TIME. I JUST THINK, WHEN IS IT GOING TO BE MY TURN. I KNOW THAT WE MUST ALL THINK THAT.......CANCER SUCKS!


GROUP HUG!

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  • daydreamer110761
    daydreamer110761 Member Posts: 487 Member
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    can i join you?
    In the group hug? I have had many tears on this board, but nothing like this. Buzzard, Nana b, I know you guys, as well as sundance and a few others are taking it very hard. I have her voice on my phone, it just plain hurts. cancer really sucks...

    Sherrie
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
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    can i join you?
    In the group hug? I have had many tears on this board, but nothing like this. Buzzard, Nana b, I know you guys, as well as sundance and a few others are taking it very hard. I have her voice on my phone, it just plain hurts. cancer really sucks...

    Sherrie

    Yes Indeed....
    Hi Sherrie and Nana

    Yes - very hard. After I thought about it, the tears welled up...somehow I just figured it would never be her - it's been hard not talking to her and now I know I can't anymore. I'll miss all of the playfullness we had - I'll miss her voice, her laugh, her everything.

    Things changed right after I went in the hospital, she got sick and I did not know it for a day or 2. She had sent me a PM the night before and I re-read it, knowing that was the last communication I would ever have.

    She was Chicky and I was the Lion - it was fun stuff and I treasure it all the more now.

    It's very hard to take...this cancer has just gotten to be so much.

    I join both of you ladies in your feelings for Donna.

    -Craig
  • dorookie
    dorookie Member Posts: 1,731 Member
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    Sundanceh said:

    Yes Indeed....
    Hi Sherrie and Nana

    Yes - very hard. After I thought about it, the tears welled up...somehow I just figured it would never be her - it's been hard not talking to her and now I know I can't anymore. I'll miss all of the playfullness we had - I'll miss her voice, her laugh, her everything.

    Things changed right after I went in the hospital, she got sick and I did not know it for a day or 2. She had sent me a PM the night before and I re-read it, knowing that was the last communication I would ever have.

    She was Chicky and I was the Lion - it was fun stuff and I treasure it all the more now.

    It's very hard to take...this cancer has just gotten to be so much.

    I join both of you ladies in your feelings for Donna.

    -Craig

    I hear ya
    My eyes are so swollen, all I have done today is cry, Like Nana said I dont think i cried this much when I was DX'd...just heart broken...she touched so many lives...

    Buzz you okay buddy?

    HUGS
    Beth
  • pluckey
    pluckey Member Posts: 484 Member
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    can I join on the group hug
    can I join on the group hug too? I've been weepy for the last couple of days. I had an onc appt today to go over my post liver resection scan. I knew in my heart it was ok this time, but still anxious. But I've been weepy because even though I'm OK today, and I should be thankful and rejoiceing, I have survivors guilt or something. I hate this GD disease. I have 2 people who called me in the past week with friends who have stage 4 colon cancer and want to meet me because I'm a miracle and can I give them information. I want to help them, because I know what thery're in for..but can I afford to get emotionally invested?

    I'm just blabbling. I'm just so sad for what everyone is dealing with right now. I wish we could all meet up somewhere and hug it out.

    I called Donna a few months back when she was considering theraspheres. I got to put a voice to that sweet picture of hers. She's real, just like we are all real, beyond the board, and beyond this fkn cancer.

    Buzzard, Craig and others who were clsoe to Donna, extra hugs to you all. I've been praying for all of you today.

    Peggy
  • tootsie1
    tootsie1 Member Posts: 5,044 Member
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    So sad...
    I didn't have a chance to be on the computer until this evening, and then only for a few minutes. I was out the door to a Relay For Life meeting. I happened to catch Beth's post on Facebook, and I was devastated. I cried all the way to the meeting and couldn't wait to get back here.

    *hugs* to everyone!

    Gail
  • sharpy102
    sharpy102 Member Posts: 368 Member
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    tootsie1 said:

    So sad...
    I didn't have a chance to be on the computer until this evening, and then only for a few minutes. I was out the door to a Relay For Life meeting. I happened to catch Beth's post on Facebook, and I was devastated. I cried all the way to the meeting and couldn't wait to get back here.

    *hugs* to everyone!

    Gail

    love you all
    Hey people, each of you! Each one of you!!! I love you all!!! And although I'm not a cancer patient, but I do have a past (some of you know)...and you guys became my family...each single one of you! Please don't be down...I know, easier said than done, especially after this horrible news that Donna left us...but she didn't leave us! She is here! She is reading every single post...she is just quiet...she has to work through all the pain and sufferings she had...then she'll come back. That's what I tell myself about my Mom too. She suffered too much as well so she needs to recover, but she'll come back. So, don't be too down...Donna is still with us, right here, reading all the posts! So, don't get too lethargic...we stick together like glue and will fight this battle!!! I will one day do nothing but kill one cancer cell through another!!!

    Donna! I know you are reading our posts. I just want to let you know that please continue following our posts and give us advices...on your way, as you like. We will hear you and read you always just because we won't see your printed messages here!!!
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
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    sharpy102 said:

    love you all
    Hey people, each of you! Each one of you!!! I love you all!!! And although I'm not a cancer patient, but I do have a past (some of you know)...and you guys became my family...each single one of you! Please don't be down...I know, easier said than done, especially after this horrible news that Donna left us...but she didn't leave us! She is here! She is reading every single post...she is just quiet...she has to work through all the pain and sufferings she had...then she'll come back. That's what I tell myself about my Mom too. She suffered too much as well so she needs to recover, but she'll come back. So, don't be too down...Donna is still with us, right here, reading all the posts! So, don't get too lethargic...we stick together like glue and will fight this battle!!! I will one day do nothing but kill one cancer cell through another!!!

    Donna! I know you are reading our posts. I just want to let you know that please continue following our posts and give us advices...on your way, as you like. We will hear you and read you always just because we won't see your printed messages here!!!

    Just sad
    I will be back in a little while...
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
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    Buzzard said:

    Just sad
    I will be back in a little while...

    Yep
    Sounds good Buzzard! I am in a daze. Hope Donna pays me a visit, I would like to hug her soul!!!
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
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    can i join you?
    In the group hug? I have had many tears on this board, but nothing like this. Buzzard, Nana b, I know you guys, as well as sundance and a few others are taking it very hard. I have her voice on my phone, it just plain hurts. cancer really sucks...

    Sherrie

    You bet....
    Sherrie, you and I were going through treatment at the same time with Donna. It really tough!

    I didn't know that so many folks call each other on this board. No one calls me! Am I scary!?!? :)
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
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    pluckey said:

    can I join on the group hug
    can I join on the group hug too? I've been weepy for the last couple of days. I had an onc appt today to go over my post liver resection scan. I knew in my heart it was ok this time, but still anxious. But I've been weepy because even though I'm OK today, and I should be thankful and rejoiceing, I have survivors guilt or something. I hate this GD disease. I have 2 people who called me in the past week with friends who have stage 4 colon cancer and want to meet me because I'm a miracle and can I give them information. I want to help them, because I know what thery're in for..but can I afford to get emotionally invested?

    I'm just blabbling. I'm just so sad for what everyone is dealing with right now. I wish we could all meet up somewhere and hug it out.

    I called Donna a few months back when she was considering theraspheres. I got to put a voice to that sweet picture of hers. She's real, just like we are all real, beyond the board, and beyond this fkn cancer.

    Buzzard, Craig and others who were clsoe to Donna, extra hugs to you all. I've been praying for all of you today.

    Peggy

    Come here, my pretty!!!
    We can, we just have to plan it!! Christmas in Kansas! Okay, who lives in the center of the US and can work on getting us great accommodations, other then Dorthy??? Let's go visit the Great OZ and get some new organs!
  • just4Brooks
    just4Brooks Member Posts: 980 Member
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    Not often am I lost for
    Not often am I lost for words but today I am. I remember talking to her just a few weeks ago when she got home from the hospital. I told her how much we all loved her and how she impacted many of our lives. Sometimes we get to meet somebody special and Donna was that special person. Today I will morn the loss of a true friend. Tomorrow I will put the gloves back on and fight to make this crazy world a better place. Donna would have wanted it that way.


    Brooks
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
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    sharpy102 said:

    love you all
    Hey people, each of you! Each one of you!!! I love you all!!! And although I'm not a cancer patient, but I do have a past (some of you know)...and you guys became my family...each single one of you! Please don't be down...I know, easier said than done, especially after this horrible news that Donna left us...but she didn't leave us! She is here! She is reading every single post...she is just quiet...she has to work through all the pain and sufferings she had...then she'll come back. That's what I tell myself about my Mom too. She suffered too much as well so she needs to recover, but she'll come back. So, don't be too down...Donna is still with us, right here, reading all the posts! So, don't get too lethargic...we stick together like glue and will fight this battle!!! I will one day do nothing but kill one cancer cell through another!!!

    Donna! I know you are reading our posts. I just want to let you know that please continue following our posts and give us advices...on your way, as you like. We will hear you and read you always just because we won't see your printed messages here!!!

    Donna............
    I know she is ok, I know where she is...I also know that she doesn't want for us to be sad as she wants the same for her family. To remember her as she always was, vivacious, full of life, spunk, with a little mean streak pitched in there for good measure...She wants us all to not be sad, but to be happy that she got to share her world with ours and ours with her. We all are better for having her in our lives. She is ever laughing, cutting up, always family oriented with everything she did.
    She is also like the rest of us, tired of all the crap that goes along with this, tired of what it puts families through, hoping that someday all this will be as polio once was, a disease that can be controlled with vaccine or other medicines.
    The thing I always draw on when my life gets upside down is how I believe. That is each ones own opinion, and I leave that as it is...
    Phil had a quote from "Tuesdays with Morrie" that hit home with me..." You have to learn how to die before you can learn how to live"....It is fitting that its the way I have consoled myself these last few months. I know that mortality is out there and I am ever aware that someday my bell will ring, the elevator door will open and someone will say "Going Up ?" But, until then I will act and love life as Donna did, holding all of you as well as our families close to my heart, she is looking down at us now..I truly believe that, she will forever be with us as those before her that have passed will be the same...forever in our hearts and in our memories...she made me smile...and she always will......Love and Hope to us all........Clift
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
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    Buzzard said:

    Donna............
    I know she is ok, I know where she is...I also know that she doesn't want for us to be sad as she wants the same for her family. To remember her as she always was, vivacious, full of life, spunk, with a little mean streak pitched in there for good measure...She wants us all to not be sad, but to be happy that she got to share her world with ours and ours with her. We all are better for having her in our lives. She is ever laughing, cutting up, always family oriented with everything she did.
    She is also like the rest of us, tired of all the crap that goes along with this, tired of what it puts families through, hoping that someday all this will be as polio once was, a disease that can be controlled with vaccine or other medicines.
    The thing I always draw on when my life gets upside down is how I believe. That is each ones own opinion, and I leave that as it is...
    Phil had a quote from "Tuesdays with Morrie" that hit home with me..." You have to learn how to die before you can learn how to live"....It is fitting that its the way I have consoled myself these last few months. I know that mortality is out there and I am ever aware that someday my bell will ring, the elevator door will open and someone will say "Going Up ?" But, until then I will act and love life as Donna did, holding all of you as well as our families close to my heart, she is looking down at us now..I truly believe that, she will forever be with us as those before her that have passed will be the same...forever in our hearts and in our memories...she made me smile...and she always will......Love and Hope to us all........Clift

    Clift
    Good night, I am going to bed to think about Donna........
  • ron50
    ron50 Member Posts: 1,723 Member
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    Hugs just don't come much bigger than that mate. I truly know what you are feeling. I first posted on this board sometime back in 2002. It has been a long haul and the loss over the years has made a deep impression on me. Not only my friends here but also all the friends I made during my chemo back in 1998 ,they are all gone and I visited most of them the day they died. I don't know why I have been spared and so many that were more deserving have lost their lives. It's just what happens with life threatening diseases. We have to accept it ,we have no choice.Shed some tears for her then REMEMBER why you will miss her. They are gone but they leave some wonderful memories. I wish you peace Nana and a long and healthy future.Ron.
  • daydreamer110761
    daydreamer110761 Member Posts: 487 Member
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    Nana b said:

    You bet....
    Sherrie, you and I were going through treatment at the same time with Donna. It really tough!

    I didn't know that so many folks call each other on this board. No one calls me! Am I scary!?!? :)

    yes we were
    I would have called you....give me your number! I had Donna's number from the beginning - the first time she went in the hospital.
  • khl8
    khl8 Member Posts: 807
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    ron50 said:

    (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((nana b)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
    Hugs just don't come much bigger than that mate. I truly know what you are feeling. I first posted on this board sometime back in 2002. It has been a long haul and the loss over the years has made a deep impression on me. Not only my friends here but also all the friends I made during my chemo back in 1998 ,they are all gone and I visited most of them the day they died. I don't know why I have been spared and so many that were more deserving have lost their lives. It's just what happens with life threatening diseases. We have to accept it ,we have no choice.Shed some tears for her then REMEMBER why you will miss her. They are gone but they leave some wonderful memories. I wish you peace Nana and a long and healthy future.Ron.

    Hugs to all of you.
    Hugs to all of you. Yesterday I was in shock, today the reality is hitting me full force about Donna. I did not come onto this board until after my surgeries and radiation as well as the first round of oral chemo. I only came here looking for people who had ileostomy's as I needed info on how to deal with it. Donna was one of the first people to reach out to me and gave me something I did not know that I needed, a family that truly understands my thoughts, feelings and emotions. You know, when I was diagnosed the nurse asked me if I wanted information about a support group, I poo-pood that idea right away, the last thing I though I wanted was to sit around with a bunch of sick poeple crying over our bad luck. Well, then I came here and I don't know if it is because in our words here we can say anything ( which I really don't think I could in front of a group of people) But something inside me changed, through Donna and all of you I felt a little less alone in tis battle. I have a family here at home but they just cannot understand to the extenet that you all can.
    So as hard as this is and it is, I will continue to be a part of this board and do what she did, reach out to those who are scared and with any luck, Donna will help me help them.
    Love to all!
    Kathy
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
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    ron50 said:

    (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((nana b)))))))))))))))))))))))))))
    Hugs just don't come much bigger than that mate. I truly know what you are feeling. I first posted on this board sometime back in 2002. It has been a long haul and the loss over the years has made a deep impression on me. Not only my friends here but also all the friends I made during my chemo back in 1998 ,they are all gone and I visited most of them the day they died. I don't know why I have been spared and so many that were more deserving have lost their lives. It's just what happens with life threatening diseases. We have to accept it ,we have no choice.Shed some tears for her then REMEMBER why you will miss her. They are gone but they leave some wonderful memories. I wish you peace Nana and a long and healthy future.Ron.

    Ron
    Thank you for the wonderful words, Ron!
  • lesvanb
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    Joining in group hug
    Lost it yesterday at work when I read Craig's post of the Lion roaring again for her; still breaks me up typing it. I became active on the board after she came and watched her transformation from scared stiff to living her life fully, especially with her family, and then reaching out over and over again to everyone here; oldies and newcomers. I was glad she could do what I couldn't do, day in and day out. Ron what you say is right on. She remains always an inspiration in my heart; tears again.

    Love to all (((((((hugs))))))
    Leslie
  • lmliess
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    lesvanb said:

    Joining in group hug
    Lost it yesterday at work when I read Craig's post of the Lion roaring again for her; still breaks me up typing it. I became active on the board after she came and watched her transformation from scared stiff to living her life fully, especially with her family, and then reaching out over and over again to everyone here; oldies and newcomers. I was glad she could do what I couldn't do, day in and day out. Ron what you say is right on. She remains always an inspiration in my heart; tears again.

    Love to all (((((((hugs))))))
    Leslie

    Can I get in?
    I have been saddened by a lot of news on this board, I have teared up and offered many many prayers, but reading about Donna really hit me hard too. I guess I just thought that she was so positive and had a happy way about her, there was no way the cancer would get to her. When I read the news yesterday I was at work. I had to take an early lunch and went to my car and cried. But it also reminded me that no one knows when their time to go is, so we have to live each day to the fullest and treasure the ones we love. And I do, more than ever. I am counting on her to be our guardian angel.

    And KANSAS! I live right around the Kansas City area so come on....I can show you some party grounds!!
  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
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    lmliess said:

    Can I get in?
    I have been saddened by a lot of news on this board, I have teared up and offered many many prayers, but reading about Donna really hit me hard too. I guess I just thought that she was so positive and had a happy way about her, there was no way the cancer would get to her. When I read the news yesterday I was at work. I had to take an early lunch and went to my car and cried. But it also reminded me that no one knows when their time to go is, so we have to live each day to the fullest and treasure the ones we love. And I do, more than ever. I am counting on her to be our guardian angel.

    And KANSAS! I live right around the Kansas City area so come on....I can show you some party grounds!!

    and get this all off my mind! Count me in!