Aug 14, 2010 - 11:46 pm
So here is a very embarrassing question. I am the primary caregiver of my dear husband. He had his surgery in May to remove the affected testicle and has already been through 2 rounds of chemo. The doctors have told us we can totally have sex as long as he feels up to it and we use condoms so he doesn't pass on the chemo drugs to me. Here is my question. My husband has told me that he really has not been very interested in sex since chemo began, which I totally understand and have learned to accept. The problem is that he shows no real intimacy at all, no hugging, kissing, cuddling. The second part of the problem is that even though he says he is not in the mood, I have noticed that he is watching porn on the internet. Normally I don't care how much he watches, as long as our sex life is ok. I am a little hurt that he turns me away but has enough energy to watch porn. So, how do I approach him in a loving way? I know he is sick so I don't want to upset him or get into a fight, but I don't think I can hold this in until October, when treatments will hopefully be done.